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one, how do you make space for little-ness/how do you act little? (mods, please hear me out. this is not a repeat of the over-asked question) like, i want to know it all. i see a lot of people who will kind of give these vague answers which is just something i can't deal with. i want examples of what people do in little-space. my Daddy is new to this dynamic, just like me. i've known i was kinky longer than He has, but He's been in "the scene" for longer than me. anyways, i have trouble both getting into little space and finding time for it, so to speak. i know i AM little, i just don't know how to BE little if that makes sense? Daddy bought me some coloring books and stuff, but He isn't really interested in watching cartoons with me or buying any little type stuff besides a couple little trinkets like a slap bracelet and a balloon. i remember intently coloring one time while He played a video game and kind of getting a lackluster response from Him. i was very proud of my pictures, but He didn't seem to care, even after He was done with His game. i've suggested sippy cups, but He said i'd finish my drink too fast. we almost got a cute stuffy one time, but it was too expensive. so i'm kind of stuck. i don't want to be whiny and demand to watch cartoons when He doesn't want too or ask for expensive things considering i don't have a job and Daddy just had another surgery, but at the same time He was the one who wanted this dynamic. i came into the relationship simply as a submissive type human and liked Him enough to try out whatever it is we have. But most of the time He just wants to watch adult shows (minus my earned Disney movies). so i guess that question is three-fold. how do i make more space for little-ness, what are some examples of little-space activities, and how do i get my Daddy to be more comfortable with my little-ness? 

to clarify some things (super tired and scatterbrained from a party last night), my Daddy is awesome. He's getting a lot better at praising me. it was something He did a lot and then just stopped doing. i brought it up, and He's been earnestly trying to do it more. He's good at knowing when and how to touch me, like stroking my head and stuff like that. He's getting better at being firm when He needs to be. He's really great. this is just this weird area where i don't know how to proceed. 

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Its hard to get into little space. I haven't been a little/middle for 'long' and sometimes its really hard to get into middle space or even little space for me. The best thing I can tell you is relax. I do think being a little is more of a personal and intimate thing. :3 So it can be really hard to do it. And worst when you are stressed, upset, or just really sleepy. 

 

When I get into my space I think my behavior changes, I know my voice does. Not really my speech. I also bounce more. and I'm more excited with showing Daddy stuff. I also use music to help me get into my middle or little space.  I color, I craft, I cuddle with my stuffies. I don't have a sippy cup or what ever, but I do like drinking from it.  my blog on tumblr also helps me get into middle/little space as well. 

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I feel the same way as Sae, little space is hard to get into sometimes, I work a big girl job, live alone, and have big girl reaponsibilities, but I'm a little at heart, sometimes talking with other littles really helps bring me out very quickly, I love being in the chat room here, and on Kik, just talking with other littles really brings me out, and I only really "little" at night after work and after everything is done. Just keep working on it, it will come
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I've also recently started trying to get into little space so I tried remembering what I did when I was younger. I was big into dolls and Barbies and such so that is what I've tried doing. Also anything that makes me feel warm and safe helps (I have a gazillion throw blankets I swear). Coloring helps me focus and destress definitely but it draws me out of little space more than puts me into it. I think it's something about being so attentive to one thing puts me back into big girl mode.
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I feel like my littlespace is more in my behavior than in the activities I necessarily choose to do. I've always been a sweet, nurturing, submissive individual and when in little space, this just intensifies. My voice changes to a soft, childish one that is a stark contrast to my usual one, and I become even more cuddly and 'kissy' than usual. My little space is really just dependant on my interactions with my papa bear and doesn't necessarily need a setting.

 

I can enter little space at a restaurant if my papa bear asks me what the 'baby wants to eat.' Sure, I may be wearing my collar but I no longer even notice it for my DDLG is all in our interactions. It's that invisible net of warmth, love, caretaking, and nurturing. I feel like a baby when the papa bear takes care of me and walks in the house and bounces me up and down and lavishes me with kisses. I don't need to be coloring beforehand for this to happen. Don't get me wrong though, I do like to watch Disney movies, draw papa bear pictures and make him projects, have my hair brushed, be tickled, be spoiled with presents and more importantly, love, play dress up as I'm getting ready in the morning, and cuddle with my papa bear teddy bear.

 

However, that aspect isn't as consequential to me as the behavior. So, you don't have to necessarily do little activities together in order to be DDLG. You just need to have that special dynamic of love, understanding, and being made to feel like you are a little princess at all times. Sometimes, I'm still pleasantly surprised when papa bear is being his papa bear self in public. It's on such a minor level, such as him helping me pick out a wallet, but I value and appreciate that extension of his personality that is calling out and reassuring mine.

 

I think these aspects are more important to focus on and start pinpointing so you can value them when they occur. You don't have to be a little drinking from a sippy cup. Maybe you read Freud and Nietzche all day, but get your hair brushed, ea made for you, and are told that you are the best little baby princess in the whole wide world when your papa bear comes home. That sounds just as babylike and perfect to me.  :)

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Ive been familiar with my little side for a pretty long time, just about 10 years and so it's almost second nature to me now, but I'll try...

 

Daddy has a "Daddy Voice" that I'm not even sure he knows about, but when he uses it, I can feel myself dropping immediately into little space. Kind of a sing-songy, softer, higher pitched version of his regular voice. I trust him and so it's easy for me to want me to be little with him. Daddy helps sometimes too, by washing my hair for me or by helping me get dressed or undressed. Before we were together, though, little space was more difficult to find and I had to be alone in order for me to get there.

 

I had to want to be little before. I had a particular dress that I wore (the dress I wore when I "met" Daddy for the first time after making our new arrangement) and I would do things around my old apartment until I started feeling little. Eating snacks and watching movies, or drinking juice from my sippy, playing games on my tablet or coloring...back then it was just a way of relaxing at a time when relaxation was kind of difficult to come by. I thought about the things I did that made me happy as a kid and let that kind of form my little space. It does take some time if it's anything you haven't given much thought to before and it even takes a little while to get over feeling like you're being silly sometimes too (like me with my binky which I now LOVE). So be patient with yourself and try new things. Little space is a place that builds over time. Good luck, Pixi <3

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As an addition, it's really hard to be little if your daddy doesnt want to be a daddy. If you are the kind of little who responds well to having a caregiver, then what's important to you ought to be important to him also. like I said I built my own little space. I bought my own coloring books and sippies and dress up clothes because it was important to ME and I dismissed the people who made me think otherwise. I was a princess because I was in charge of my little space and evseverything that went in it. Having a Daddy is amazing, but I never expected to have one. He is not what makes me little or submissive. He loves and accepts the submissive in me by acknowledging that it's an important component of how I express my love. if you're serious about your little space and you want a daddy, your partner really ought to put in the effort to help you.
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Well there are special items or cartoons, or situations that instantly put me into Little Space. For example, Shopkins and other toys, some youtube videos or similar. I am little almost every day, sometimes 24h sometimes not. Also Daddy helps me a lot, by reffering to me in a special tone. A childlish tone, I would say. But I think you should not force yourself to go into this state. Just do it if you feel like it, for example when I start to feel bubbly and talkative, or just need to relax from everyday stress I will instantly just switch. At first it was hard for me to switch back to being big-if I have to go to uni or so, but I learned it with time. I entered this forum in little space, but when I came across this serious subject (serious in a way that I could not explain myself if I were 6) I instantly started using my "big girl" words and logic. But if I come across the subject that is, let's say, 'Your favorite cartoon', I will be little again. I guess it comes with practice. 

 

As far as Daddy issues go, it was hard for us at first. Very hard. But we talked a lot. Like it took us a year or even more to get to where we are now. I would usually just advice him to act as if I am really 6. That includes paying attention, playing with me, watching cartoons etc. If he is to make a mistake (I am little and sick but he does not pay enough attention) I just ask him if that is the right way to act when a 6-year-old is lying in your bed and her tummy hurts. That is the best way for him to understand and be more protective. 

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