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So this may sound like a crazy situation. I'm still trying to figure out how I got myself in this mess. I'm 28, and my bosses 18 year old daughter is my coworker. We hit it off pretty good, and she told me she was a little about a month ago. After I came out and told her I was a daddy dom, she started coming to me for advice about her current relationship. Well things escalated and we slept together, and now she's HOOKED. I mean I don't mind it. I love it actually. But she still loves her current daddy and wants to stay with him. Every time I bring up taking a step back until she's single, she freaks out about needing me... As a daddy dom this is kryptonite... She knows all my weaknesses.

I'm afraid being stern with her on this issue may spark her to do something drastic. That's not what I want. She has extremely bad ADHD and attachment issues, and has a talent for acting out. I really like this girl, but I'm afraid I'll end up getting hurt by not leaving. But if I leave she may freak out and I'll get busted at work, plus hurting her would be really tough, she's very fragile. I know I shouldn't have gotten messed up in this in the first place and waited. But shit happens I guess. Anyone have any advice here? I'm at a loss.

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Sorry to say but you need to break it off. Put your foot down and tell her that until she breaks it off with her other daddy you cant be a part of it. its not fair to you or the other daddy.

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This sounds like a very awkward situation. If you really like her though and she really likes you maybe you should ask her to stop seeing her other daddy in a more firm way. Tell her how you don't feel comfortable being with her when she has another person in her life. If she's mature I'm sure she will understand and respect your feelings enough to make a choice that is best for both of you.

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Guest Zephy

You only have two choices, either you accept the fact you're just the other guy she strings along for her own selfish needs and desires or you leave her.

She isn't taking you hostage, it seems like you're taking yourself hostage in this relationship by giving yourself reasons of not wanting to break up things with her.

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Thanks for the advice guys. All very good points.

Zephy... Yeah I can admit I'm making excuses... If you could see this girl you would as well. XD

And I'm the only poly one in this situation, to answer the last question.

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Guest Little Otter

Break it off. My ex was a little and cheated on me with a DD for eight months. So yeah... gonna say END IT. Hard as it is you have to or else youre both gonna get burned. Also, she ended up feeling so bad for cheating she broke it off with the guy and he went stalker mode for awhile, so expect that as a possibility.

 

Dont ask why I was with a little, I didnt know I was when we got together...

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I've been kinda lucky. I've known I was a daddy dom for over a decade now. And I'm pretty experienced. This is the only little to break through my hard exterior. So I think since it's so different, I got way ahead of myself. And got my hopes up. I agree this should end. I'm just not sure how to handle this delicately.
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If we saw her we'd understand? So her physical attractiveness is your excuse for screwing with another man's girlfriend? Sorry but you know exactly what you're doing. Maybe you're here looking for affirmation that it's ok to do what you're doing. No. It's not. No apologies here for being blunt. Either do the right thing by that innocent man (he's the only one here that deserves any thought), or carry on regardless. Your choice.
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I’m reading an awful lot of ‘I’ in your post. This is going to sound horribly judgmental, but don’t you have any remorse for your actions? The potential pain and suffering you are going to cause the innocent bystander in all of this—the other Daddy—will be immense. He doesn’t deserve that :( 

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Guest Zephy

Thanks for the advice guys. All very good points.

Zephy... Yeah I can admit I'm making excuses... If you could see this girl you would as well. XD

And I'm the only poly one in this situation, to answer the last question.

 

No. I wouldn't as I happen to be a person who has strong morals and one of those involves not involving myself with another woman who's already in a relationship.

After reading your comment though, it appears you're at much fault as the other person and like SUeB I get the feeling too that you seem to know exactly what you are doing.

 

Anyways not much anyone else can do or say anyways to people who cheat or help another to cheat on their partner.

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Wow you guys get judgemental fast. Listen here, I'm the one who said it was a stupid move. And yes her appearance clouds my judgement. If you have some issue with that, I'm sorry but come back to reality for a moment. There are things that attract me to people. Looks are one of them. Sorry? My issue was trying to break this off as easy as possible as this shouldn't have happened in the first place. I can see some people would rather flig judgements though. All good, but your waisting your breath on me.

Now as an update. I sat her down tonight and firmly put a stop to all this. She didn't take it very well but hopefully this doesn't go any further.

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I have to agree with the OP about the high level of judgment here. Please think about the impression this might make on someone who would be reading the forum for the first time.

Regarding the topic updated: I find it unrealistic,except if you are at the moment collecting your belongings after having told the boss to email you about the administrative side of things,goodbye and take care,I'll miss a few things about this place but sorry I'm off now.

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Guest SUeB
i for one will happily give the impression to anyone joining this site, that cheaters, and those that mess around with other people's partners are absolutely deserving of judgement and disdain.
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I'm afraid being stern with her on this issue may spark her to do something drastic. That's not what I want. She has extremely bad ADHD and attachment issues, and has a talent for acting out. 

 

This type of girl you have to make her not want you anymore without showing you want to leave her. Or bad things could happen to you.

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So this may sound like a crazy situation. I'm still trying to figure out how I got myself in this mess. I'm 28, and my bosses 18 year old daughter is my coworker. We hit it off pretty good, and she told me she was a little about a month ago. After I came out and told her I was a daddy dom, she started coming to me for advice about her current relationship. Well things escalated and we slept together, and now she's HOOKED. I mean I don't mind it. I love it actually. But she still loves her current daddy and wants to stay with him. Every time I bring up taking a step back until she's single, she freaks out about needing me... As a daddy dom this is kryptonite... She knows all my weaknesses.

I'm afraid being stern with her on this issue may spark her to do something drastic. That's not what I want. She has extremely bad ADHD and attachment issues, and has a talent for acting out. I really like this girl, but I'm afraid I'll end up getting hurt by not leaving. But if I leave she may freak out and I'll get busted at work, plus hurting her would be really tough, she's very fragile. I know I shouldn't have gotten messed up in this in the first place and waited. But shit happens I guess. Anyone have any advice here? I'm at a loss.

 

Start looking for another job.

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Seems the OP left in less than a day of posting this, but I have to agree with SUeB and WanderingWonderland here.

Infidelity aside, the replies seem to indicate someone looking for validation for their actions,

while also having purposely maneuvered themselves there. 

 

I don't see any semblance of any real ethical considerations, or even a single thought for her, her boyfriend, or her father/your employer; you seem have been looking for a magic "cure-all" piece of advice to keep her quiet. 

 

 

Everyone's mileage varies, and everyone is hard-wired differently.

While I hate to cast aspersions, this isn't a "daddy issue". The dynamic is just window dressing.

It's a "you" issue.

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Seems the OP left in less than a day of posting this, but I have to agree with SUeB and WanderingWonderland here.

Infidelity aside, the replies seem to indicate someone looking for validation for their actions,

while also having purposely maneuvered themselves there. 

 

I don't see any semblance of any real ethical considerations, or even a single thought for her, her boyfriend, or her father/your employer; you seem have been looking for a magic "cure-all" piece of advice to keep her quiet. 

 

 

Everyone's mileage varies, and everyone is hard-wired differently.

While I hate to cast aspersions, this isn't a "daddy issue". The dynamic is just window dressing.

It's a "you" issue.

Yes, looks like he has run with his tail between his legs. It really is quite bad that so many people seem to think that people in the "kink world" are somehow more likely to condone cheating and such. i see it mostly on fetlife. Someone declares they are looking for a "play partner" behind the back of their wife/husband/gf/bf, or whatever. Then have a seizure when they are pulled to pieces. "I thought this was an accepting, supportive and open minded community!!" They wail. Well no. Cheating (i mean actual cheating, bot role play that involves everyone playing along) is not a kink, and one rather massive thing is missing.....consent!
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