Until recently the only person I told was my nephew. He came out to me first, and was really scared about telling the family, especially my very Christian Grandmother. I gave him the usual encouragement about being the same guy he was the day before, and how he's wanted to be a hairdresser since he was 8. They already know... lol
But he was struggling with being gay. I was just a DL at the time, and hadn't discovered how much I perfered a Daddy role yet. I told him my secret just so he wouldn't feel so alone. It certainly cheered him up, as he thought my secret was pretty funny.
Recently, I've become more open about who I am. I don't flaunt it or advertise it, but I no longer feel any shame towards it, nor do I really care if anyone likes it or not. I've mentioned before that I found my Princess on POF with a very open profile about what I wanted and what my little would enjoy. I was impressed by how curious and non-judgemental people were towards it. I'm sure some reacted differently, but kept their negativity to themselves. A close female friend recognized my photo (which only showed the bottom half of my face) and messaged me. I wasn't embarrassed, she knows far more embarrassing things about me already. She's always been one of the few people in my life who really get me, and she is a bit of a wild one herself. If you have a credit card, you can watch her... um... perform... live online.
My former co-manager at my previous job also knew. I refused a blind date he tried to set me up on after I left my wife. I told him, I don't want a trophy on my arm, I want something real. He didn't understand why I wouldn't just go on a date with her, and I admit she was very beautiful. So I finally just told him I was into some weird 'stuff' and after being in a miserable relationship for so long, I just wanted to get it right this time and find someone perfect for me.
He begged me to tell him what the weird stuff was, and for weeks guessed random fetishes which became more and more bizarre. So I broke down and told him, knowing he wouldn't out me, but also knowing he would tease me relentlessly (which he did, and continues to do).
My Little has a few friends in her life who know, and therefore now also know about me too. Personally, I would never tell anyone in my current workplace. I don't think my family would react negatively to knowing, but they'd never really understand it. So I don't see any need to really tell any of them.
I don't have many male friends. My closest friend is actually Sri Lankin and a devout Buddhist. It's the most unexpected and mix-matched friendship ever, but he is one of the most amazing people I've ever met. Again I have no reason to tell him, but if I know him, he would laugh first, then ask if I was happy. When I answered yes, he would probably just say "Then be happy".
Edited by Big Daddy D, 16 May 2018 - 05:16 AM.