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[PizzaOnARoof]

I think in this day and age thats sort of an unrealistic expectation. Let alone common enough to be considered a "kink"

[xBabydollx]

Something that may be of interest to u is the Gorean community in the Master/slave dynamic. The ideals are super gender driven with men basically being 'head of house' and very traditional in its expectations of how men and woman behave. It can fit ur 1950's fantasy or ideal lifestyle very well. Besides that, perhaps u can look into service subs as they often enjoy providing service like that of a housewife. I find what u speak of mostly common in Master/slave, Owner/pet, or regular D/s. Not so much DD/lg, but it can exist. It's very common for ppl to be more than 1 type of Dominant, or more than 1 type of submissive. u can be a mix of things and so can ur little. Everything can fit together beautifully when u truly find someone compatible.

[xBabydollx]

Its not necessarily a kink. There are plenty of vanilla ppl who live a very traditional lifestyle with men being head of the house, and woman being the homemakers. It becomes a kink when the submission of it all becomes heavily inclined, or when the wife becomes treated (consentually) as property. I believe like most things, DD/lg always been around, just wasnt a popular word for it.

[Little Illy]

Something that may be of interest to u is the Gorean community in the Master/slave dynamic. The ideals are super gender driven with men basically being 'head of house' and very traditional in its expectations of how men and woman behave. It can fit ur 1950's fantasy or ideal lifestyle very well. Besides that, perhaps u can look into service subs as they often enjoy providing service like that of a housewife. I find what u speak of mostly common in Master/slave, Owner/pet, or regular D/s. Not so much DD/lg, but it can exist. It's very common for ppl to be more than 1 type of Dominant, or more than 1 type of submissive. u can be a mix of things and so can ur little. Everything can fit together beautifully when u truly find someone compatible.

 

The Gorean dynamic is quite beautiful if a Master/Slave dynamic is what you desire (not directed to OP - just stating in general). Their life is filled with rituals, symbolism, devoting and a lot more that happens within typical D/s or M/s dynamics. They even have specific colored attire for the slave to wear depending on the occurrence; greeting the Master, day-to-day, having guests over, going out for familial commitments, going out for fun, etc. Its so gorgeous to watch these members work in their lifestyle because most people would consider it an extreme version of M/s. 

 

As for the 1950's lifestyle; I know a lot of kinksters who want this style because it truly enforces the D/s dynamic. The man provides and the woman takes care of him. The man protects the woman, and the woman appreciates him. The man provides structure and safety, the woman takes that and creates a home. Together they create both sides of the equation and quite a few Doms and subs love this set up.

 

I think it is a Schrödinger's Kink - It isn't a kink until a person realizes the power play that works for them. Even back in the 50's, the men had all the power. Women went from their first Dominant Male figure (Their father or grandfather or uncle, etc) straight to their husband's house. And that is where they stayed. The men had the power and the women provided them comfort. Together they built a relationship and home.

Edited by Little Illy, 21 May 2018 - 05:19 PM.

[Little Illy]

I guess it can also come down to how you were raised.  I was raised in a southern home to be pretty, engaging, pleasing, well put together and to assume a traditional female role in a household.

 

Only in my opinion - I am not belittling your position! - but for those of us who haven't lived in the "traditional" household or with those values passed down, this can easily be a kink.

 

For me, for instance. I have 3 degrees, plan on getting 2 advanced degrees, have a career, start an international business, etc. However, for me, the thought of 1950's household is nothing but oppression because of what you mentioned above (how the women were stuck). But, for a woman like me it IS a kink because it is so abnormal for my normal mentality. And it is a kink to me because it fits with the D/s dynamic I crave (TPE). So for me, it works as a kink. For someone who grew up with a "traditional" lifestyle, this wouldn't be a kink, it would be a normal way of life.

 

That is why I called it Schrödinger's Kink; it is independent to each person to how the react to this lifestyle. For me it is a kink, for you it would be seen as normal. So it either is a kink or is not depending on the person!

 

Also, the quotes around traditional is only because it varies from person to person what traditional is - I am in no way devaluing someone's traditions. 

Edited by Little Illy, 21 May 2018 - 06:34 PM.

[PinkiePie🐩]

I personally combine them but that's because they're both strong parts of my personality.

[xBabydollx]

I think the key thing is that back then, that sort of arrangement was expected/even enforced, not so much an 'option' or 'consented to' (not all of the time). Even if u didn't want to 'submit' to ur husband, u was very much expected to be that doting wif simply because of ur sex and popular social standards at that time. Nowadays ppl can choose that sort of traditional lifestyle or not. Even more so with like Gorean, it can be taken to another level. Gorean is quite intriguing in how they do things.