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I lost my baby girl of 3 years. She relocated and decided to try to move on and live with out the ddlg lifestyle.

It's been hard on me because I did nothing but love and pamper her. She was my princess and I will miss her.

 

I do have a question. . She was 22 and I am 52. I am only attracted to younger Littles. Is this bad?

 

So I am a daddy who is into age play as well?

 

I just need open minded opinions because before this website I had no answers. .

 

 

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Sorry to hear about your loss! That, unfortunately, is one of the downside to younger people, they're still figuring things out and have a high chance of changing their minds and what they want.

 

Only being attracted to younger littles isn't a horrible thing. Just go with what ever you're in to. As long as you're both happy, who cares!!! I'm 30 now and my past relationships were 19-23 (non DDLG relationships)

 

You know what you like, don't let others tell you that you're wrong. It's your thoughts and feelings. Hope that helps... feel free to talk to me more, if you need to!

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In agreement with above, I don't see the age gap specifically as good or bad, it's down to how two individuals relate to each other (as long as both are beyond the age of consent).

 

I understand age play to mean that one or both people play an age other than their real age, so a DDLG relationship kind of naturally slides that way but its importance seems to vary.

 

People are always open to change their perspectives/attitudes at any age, but as HandsomeDaddyJoe says this is perhaps more clearly a factor if your partner is in their twenties, while you will be more certain of what you want. I think that's just part of the risk to be accepted.

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I'm of the opinion that "Age is nothing but a number"...and as stated before as long as both parties are legal and consensual it's no problem and if someone has a problem with it too bad :)

 

It's a logical extension of the DD/lg dynamic.

 

And my condolences on your situation *bow*...I might be going through the same if I don't receive word.

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Before I knew what DDLG was, I was specifically drawn to older men because I believed I could create the child/caretaker dynamic that I craved. I automatically assumed an older partner would desire to nurture, protect, and adore me. They would be wise, mature, practical, and settled in life. My first boyfriend was eight years older than I and disliked my childishness and this dynamic which positively baffled me. He exhibited none of the characteristics I desired and if anything, was more of a petulant child at heart than I. Upon leaving him, I realized that what I desired wasn't precisely an older individual but a particular kind of person. The love of my life is only four years older (I hesitated to initially be with him at all because I considered him young!) than I but he is the best papa bear imaginable. He is so caring, loving, romantic, and tender despite us being fairly close in age. He watches over me as if he were wizened and has all the know how of a man far past him in physical years. He's an old soul, and once two souls connect, age becomes inconsequential. I always say that hobbies, interests, and particulars are of no importance. All that matters is that you, "Love the same way, want the same things out of life, and value the same ideals." This goes for dynamics with huge age gaps and small ones.  :) Though, I will admit that my personal preference dictates that my partner be at least a few years older than I. A younger partner or one who was precisely the same age as me would be hard for me to wrap my head around.  :p

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What great insight. Thank you so much. . ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤

 

 

 

Before I knew what DDLG was, I was specifically drawn to older men because I believed I could create the child/caretaker dynamic that I craved. I automatically assumed an older partner would desire to nurture, protect, and adore me. They would be wise, mature, practical, and settled in life. My first boyfriend was eight years older than I and disliked my childishness and this dynamic which positively baffled me. He exhibited none of the characteristics I desired and if anything, was more of a petulant child at heart than I. Upon leaving him, I realized that what I desired wasn't precisely an older individual but a particular kind of person. The love of my life is only four years older (I hesitated to initially be with him at all because I considered him young!) than I but he is the best papa bear imaginable. He is so caring, loving, romantic, and tender despite us being fairly close in age. He watches over me as if he were wizened and has all the know how of a man far past him in physical years. He's an old soul, and once two souls connect, age becomes inconsequential. I always say that hobbies, interests, and particulars are of no importance. All that matters is that you, "Love the same way, want the same things out of life, and value the same ideals." This goes for dynamics with huge age gaps and small ones. :) Though, I will admit that my personal preference dictates that my partner be at least a few years older than I. A younger partner or one who was precisely the same age as me would be hard for me to wrap my head around. :p

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Guest lil1angelprincessa

I have to say I think it is fine but you probably want to try to keep it like under the 20 year age gap, imo. If you are a 52 year old wanting only 18-24 year olds it would seem a lot on the predatory side (to most people I would think). I think the Pumpkin Patch Princess says it best, though "once two souls connect, age becomes inconsequential" however, I think this can be taken too far. How would you feel about dating an 86 year old?

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Sorry about the split up you are delaing with. I know its hard in any relationship but especially in this dynamic which is based on so many deep emotions. But it does get better and gives you a chance to explore a little more for yourself until a new romantic interest comes along.

 

I don't think an age gap matters as long as your both adults. Over the age and concent and mentally for that matter. Remember that some people in their early 20's ... Sometimes even 30's aren't ready for something serious. They are still working on themselves.

 

Also an age gap doesn't make you an age player. Age play is about regression and there are a lot of littles who do not age regress, they are just inharently little.

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I don't think that age matters at all as long as both parties are consenting adults. It's about being with someone that u are comfortable with. If thar happens to be someone 25 to 30 years younger, it's fine. Be yourself and if u are someone's type they will love u for what u are
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I personally love an age gap in my relationships. My first Daddy was 23 years older than me.

 

I don't feel like I am an ageplayer. I have a little part of my personality. Having an age gap is icing on the cake!

 

Sorry to hear about your breakup!

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I like gaps in my relationships. I currently have a 7 (6?) year difference between my master and I. Age 18 (almost 19) and 25.

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I agree with others here in that relationships with age gaps are perfectly fine and acceptable as long as both people are over the age of consent.

 

Personally I like both age gap and age play. I like having an age gap with a little because it makes the dynamic feel more real, less like role play. I also like an age gap because of the concomitant knowledge and experience gap.

 

One factor that draws me to being a Daddy Dom is being able to teach my little girl, offer her guidance and wisdom, and help her grow as a person. People close to my age generally have roughly the same amount of knowledge and life experience as me, all other things being equal, so there isn't a whole lot I can teach them that they don't already know, and so they have less reason to turn to me for advice. When I have a little who's significantly younger than me, there's usually also a knowledge and experience gap between us, so I'm generally able to teach her more things and give her more guidance. This helps me feel more fulfilled as a Daddy Dom.

 

Another factor that draws me to being a Daddy Dom is being powerful and in control. Knowledge is power, and being more knowledgeable than my little makes me feel more powerful than her which helps our consensual power dynamic feel more natural.

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As long as everyone is a consenting adult, I don't think age really matters. It's all personal preference. I've always liked older women, and my little is several years older than me. The age gap doesn't really affect our dynamic at all, although there are funny times when she will ask me if I remember something from a year when I was either a baby or not born yet, and she remembers how much younger I am :D

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I don't need any specific gap, but the man I'm with absolutely has to be older, even if it's only by a few months. Younger men leave me cold. As I get older, they seem to get even more unattractive and immature. That's not even relating to ddlg. Always felt the same. Apart from my ex husband who was younger. I thought I'd chance it cos he was pretty, lol. He only served to prove my point.

My daddy is 2 1/2 years older. Age is one of my very few non-negotiables.

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I've always been attracted to older guys, the younger ones always seemed boring and immature. To me older men have always represented maturity, responsibility, knowledge, guidance, protection, stability...just generally better. I've never been attracted to guys younger than me or my own age. That being said, I'm into age play too but they're still always older.

 

Go with how you feel, there's nothing wrong with it.

 

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Guest littlemissragamuffin
You know, I've seen this age-gap/age-play question probably a million times. And what really gets me is that if it wasn't for the DD/LG lable no one(well less) would be asking this question. It's a relationship, just like any relationship. They only thing that's different is peoples personalitys, what people like. A lot of guys(females too) are attracted to younger people just like a lot of chicks(guys too) are attracted to older people. Age is just a number.
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