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um hello, I'm fairly new to the community i guess, and i found myself in a questioning phase. I'm confused about if I am a little, 

because before i thought that I was, just not the extent as some, but i'm not even sure if this is a spectrum kinda of thing. i don't have the a "conventional little personality",i'm cynical and ive been mature since I was little girl, but there is a part of me that enjoys the idea of being held and getting all cutesie and, you know normal little stuff. I've had fantasies about it, but I don't see myself doing this everyday, because I also need to be adult. to me the ideal "schedule" would be a full time daddy and little session a couple times a month and of course adding extra dates when needed. Can I still be a little with this mentality? if not then what am I?

 

  I've also never been in the little space because I don't have needed supplies, i've gotten close, but the moment i tried to put my thumb in my mouth my sharp nails would fight back and I guess break the magic ( this has happend three times this year) . I can see myself breaking "character" with a caretaker and playing with line between the big space and little space. Witch was all fine in mind for a while, but i've never seen anyone like me in this community (of course that could be because i'm new) and I just don't want to be a faker, but I also want to belong. So I've come to ask the community for answers, as my own research has failed to give me answers. everything is just so new and scary so thank you for reading and responding if you do. 

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There is a lot of stereotypes for littles, and u seem to have found them lol. Don't worry tho cuz that's all they are;stereotypes. Most littles are not in littlespace 24/7. Everyone is adults and therefore have adult things to do. Could u imagine ur child is severely hurt...but u are in littlespace? Or u are at work with a huge task at hand that can cost u ur job...but u are behaving like a kid? Lol. Most ppl are not in little mode all of the time. Yes, some ppl can go into littlespace every day or every couple of days, but it can also be sporadic. There is no guideline for how often u have to go into littlespace. Not all littles even have a littlespace and that is ok. As for personalities, not all littles are constantly bubbly or playful. Littles like any other adult have times when they must be mature and take care of their adult responsibilities. Being a little for most ppl is not role playing, or being in character for a while. It is just who they are. For example, I can go into little mode and be super cute and "innocent" one minute, and the next I might bring up a serious/adult topic, or say something ridiculously flirty the very next minute. We are human. Emotions change swiftly. Headspaces altar. It is quite normal, even for littles so don't be afraid that u can't only go into little mode twice a month, or that u can be "little" one second and then behave like a "big" he next. This is ur life and ur dynamic to figure out. u can live it however u want
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I would probably say it's like you said- A spectrum. I mean if somebody is Bi but they've dated mostly the opposite sex then they're still Bi right? DDLG is kind of like being the fan of a TV show- you'll have your die hard fans who own every single bit of merchandise and know every line and will eat, sleep and breath the show and then you've got fans who may only watch the show every once in a while but still love it, every fan is just as important and valid as the most die hard fan :) Sorry for the lame comparison, but I already know there are people who will (and have^) explained it much better than me so I thought I'd shoot for uniqueness :p
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Dont't get hung up on the internet version of DDLG.

 

My relationship is mostly vanilla, and Daddy/Little time is generally carved out in advance. Even during these planned sessions, it's common for me to come out of Little Space, have "Big" conversation for a few minutes, and then go back into Little Space. There are pieces of DDLG that have become a part of our everyday life, but in general, our day to day life is vanilla. I've talked to plenty of Daddies that prefer this type of "arrangement." A full-time Little is a huge responsibility and can be overwhelming on a daily basis.

 

I was also a very "grown up" child. My Little personality is a total 180 from my actual childhood personality.

 

Do you and don't get hung up on what it's supposed to look like.

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I'm the same as you, OP. But what I've learned is that anyone can be a Little in whatever capacity they choose. A few times a week or everyday. Part time or full time. As a getaway or a lifestyle. It's really up to you.

 

Ignore Tumblr and their flouncy blogs.

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Nobody can be "little" 24/7. My Daddy and I live the Dom/sub lifestyle 24/7, but I'm not in actual "little space" very often. First of all, I'm a mother to 2 kids, so I have to be there for them when they need me. I have constant aspects of myself that are little, but as for actual little space? It's not very often.

 

Just be yourself!

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If someone is “little” 24/7 and not able to be an adult then they cannot consent to the lifestyle. They are not “Little”, they are mentally children and should be treated as children.
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