I need some advice/help with my anxiety!

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

Hello guys! Im sorry about this but I do need some help-

 

 I have very major anxiety which leaves me paralysed down one side of my body (due to another medical condition) I cannot leave the house without someone with me due to the fact my anxiety triggers, i spend alot of my time inside. If I need to go out I usually have a panic attack, especially on busy days in the town centre! 

 

 I want to get more confident with going out and about more by myself but I dont quite know how to control it. I have tried a couple of different things- but it hasnt seemed to help, I feel like Im going crazy at home all the time especially when no one is here! I usually walk with an aid, and I have had many falls whilst out an about which doesnt help my anxiety. Im just a little bit lost .-. 

 

Thanks guys <3

[VanillaAlpaca]

Oh, dear (●´⌓`●)  it sounds really awful! I'm a fellow little with anxiety attacks, but mine aren't as hard as yours...

 

I'm not sure about giving advices because anxiety attacks are a too personal issue, sometimes what works for me doesn't have to work for everyone and such (≧ヘ≦　) my main problem is having to interact with people when I go out. For some reason, I can't talk to a waiter or an employee in a clothes store because I have the feeling that I am going to mess up and everyone is laughing at me （￣～￣）this drives me crazy, driving me to an anxiety attack most of times.

 

So... I took my liking for RPGing with my original characters and decided to play a role ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ sounds a bit stupid, yes, but that makes wonders on me. If I need to ask where is the bathroom to a bartender, or order a meal when daddy or friends aren't around, I just fake that I'm a confident girl and it works, somehow (ノ*゜▽゜*) but as I said, it's my way to cope with anxiety attacks and social panic.

 

Above all — seek for a profesional who can help you, if it's in your hand ヾ(｡･ω･｡) it's scary, it's complicated, but there are people who can give you a hand with that.

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Well, I am not a medical professional and I would never try to give an advice about something that I have no experience in. First part of my advice would be to seek a professional help if you haven't already done so. It's really the safest and best thing to do when facing any health isses. Physical or mental. Because on the internet, everybody is an expert in everything.

 

On the other hand, from your post I assume that, more than for a "doctor's advice", you are looking for some kind of 'recipe' or you want to know how other people with similar issues have dealt with it, and I think that's a great idea. Knowing that there are people that share your problems is a reassuring feeling. And knowing that some people were able to overcome is even better. So I am going to do just that.

 

When in highschool, I have faced more or less the same issue. I have distanced myself from everyone, even my closest family members. In school, I never spoke to anyone unless they spoke to me. I had huge problems in crowded places, on the train, at the train station, etc. It sometimes got to a point when I didn't say one word for a week. Things just got worse and worse. Of course, my parents didn't really care, and I myself didn't think that there is something very wrong. To the whole world around me was saying "He is just shy"

 

That's when the moment of realization came upon me. Nobody here will help me unless I try to help myself first. So I started little by little, pushing myself into situation that I was uncomfortable with. I started small, going to crowded places, walking around town, etc. I tried to get more engaged with people too. This step was hard, and at first seemed impossible, but I started small. I started to talk to my family members again, I even sometimes tried to engage in conversation in school. It was overwhelming at first, but with time, I pushed through.

 

My biggest lesson from this was that we will never be comfortable with every situation that will ever happen to us over the course of our lives, but those situations are exactly those that have the potential to make us grow. So I learned to not shy away from those situation but face them head on. And even if the result will not be the one that we wanted, we at least tried, we gathered our courage and went for it. And that is what counts in the end.

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

 

Oh, dear (●´⌓`●)  it sounds really awful! I'm a fellow little with anxiety attacks, but mine aren't as hard as yours...

 

I'm not sure about giving advices because anxiety attacks are a too personal issue, sometimes what works for me doesn't have to work for everyone and such (≧ヘ≦　) my main problem is having to interact with people when I go out. For some reason, I can't talk to a waiter or an employee in a clothes store because I have the feeling that I am going to mess up and everyone is laughing at me （￣～￣）this drives me crazy, driving me to an anxiety attack most of times.

 

So... I took my liking for RPGing with my original characters and decided to play a role ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ sounds a bit stupid, yes, but that makes wonders on me. If I need to ask where is the bathroom to a bartender, or order a meal when daddy or friends aren't around, I just fake that I'm a confident girl and it works, somehow (ノ*゜▽゜*) but as I said, it's my way to cope with anxiety attacks and social panic.

 

Above all — seek for a profesional who can help you, if it's in your hand ヾ(｡･ω･｡) it's scary, it's complicated, but there are people who can give you a hand with that.

 

 

I will certainly give it a try as I have never thought about doinhg something like that before! My daddy usually comes with me, and orders stuff for me (Im the same I cant interact with strangers, and busy places, and tiny small spaces trigger them) I do have some help but its mainly for my medical conditions- to help with pain, paralysis stuff like that. I have tried many doctors, and counselling but it didn't work as Im not a very open book- they expect you to tell them everything on the first session! Which triggers it even more. I have tried squishys, grounding, but they are so scary! Usually if I have one and my daddys not around I cant ground myself, even though I try so hard.. It sometimes makes me feel ridiculously useless .-.

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

Well, I am not a medical professional and I would never try to give an advice about something that I have no experience in. First part of my advice would be to seek a professional help if you haven't already done so. It's really the safest and best thing to do when facing any health isses. Physical or mental. Because on the internet, everybody is an expert in everything.

 

On the other hand, from your post I assume that, more than for a "doctor's advice", you are looking for some kind of 'recipe' or you want to know how other people with similar issues have dealt with it, and I think that's a great idea. Knowing that there are people that share your problems is a reassuring feeling. And knowing that some people were able to overcome is even better. So I am going to do just that.

 

When in highschool, I have faced more or less the same issue. I have distanced myself from everyone, even my closest family members. In school, I never spoke to anyone unless they spoke to me. I had huge problems in crowded places, on the train, at the train station, etc. It sometimes got to a point when I didn't say one word for a week. Things just got worse and worse. Of course, my parents didn't really care, and I myself didn't think that there is something very wrong. To the whole world around me was saying "He is just shy"

 

That's when the moment of realization came upon me. Nobody here will help me unless I try to help myself first. So I started little by little, pushing myself into situation that I was uncomfortable with. I started small, going to crowded places, walking around town, etc. I tried to get more engaged with people too. This step was hard, and at first seemed impossible, but I started small. I started to talk to my family members again, I even sometimes tried to engage in conversation in school. It was overwhelming at first, but with time, I pushed through.

 

My biggest lesson from this was that we will never be comfortable with every situation that will ever happen to us over the course of our lives, but those situations are exactly those that have the potential to make us grow. So I learned to not shy away from those situation but face them head on. And even if the result will not be the one that we wanted, we at least tried, we gathered our courage and went for it. And that is what counts in the end.

 

I understand, I just kind of wanted to know there are people out there like me. Obviously no one is exactly the same and I have attempted on many occasions to seek medical help! I do try and push myself, much like my medical conditions, I push myself a little more everyday (whether its getting out of bed and washing up, small stuff) I try and go to the shop across the road- It seems like a small feat but its sometimes a huge feat for me! It just sounds so silly .-.

[VanillaAlpaca]

I will certainly give it a try as I have never thought about doinhg something like that before! My daddy usually comes with me, and orders stuff for me (Im the same I cant interact with strangers, and busy places, and tiny small spaces trigger them) I do have some help but its mainly for my medical conditions- to help with pain, paralysis stuff like that. I have tried many doctors, and counselling but it didn't work as Im not a very open book- they expect you to tell them everything on the first session! Which triggers it even more. I have tried squishys, grounding, but they are so scary! Usually if I have one and my daddys not around I cant ground myself, even though I try so hard.. It sometimes makes me feel ridiculously useless .-.

 

It seems like a weird thing to do at first because you're not behaving like "yourself" (*´∪`) that doesn't make you feel comfortable, but at least you can distance yourself from a direct approach — little by little, of course, you have to open up to your real self to manage those situations, but at least you have a shell to cover you up when you're all by yourself ヾ(｡･ω･｡)

 

Sometimes counselling makes it harder because they seem to pull those feelings out like it's easy for people to talk ( ≧Д≦) but you don't have to do so if you aren't ready to open up. It's a personal determination, and they should know that pushing you into that can make your condition worse. Not sure about what grounding exactly means ｡ﾟ(*´□`)ﾟ｡ but to be back to reality, some people use a technique about naming things. You have to mention five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one you can taste ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ or something like that... For me, it's too much to recall, so I forget sometimes what I have to mention and I do as I please while breathing.

 

And shoo away that negativity ∩(︶▽︶)∩ everyone has problems to deal with, and yours is as important as those — that doesn't make you useless at all (*≧▽≦) you're just an adorable person trying to figure out how to be more comfortable with the world around ♥

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

 

It seems like a weird thing to do at first because you're not behaving like "yourself" (*´∪`) that doesn't make you feel comfortable, but at least you can distance yourself from a direct approach — little by little, of course, you have to open up to your real self to manage those situations, but at least you have a shell to cover you up when you're all by yourself ヾ(｡･ω･｡)

 

Sometimes counselling makes it harder because they seem to pull those feelings out like it's easy for people to talk ( ≧Д≦) but you don't have to do so if you aren't ready to open up. It's a personal determination, and they should know that pushing you into that can make your condition worse. Not sure about what grounding exactly means ｡ﾟ(*´□`)ﾟ｡ but to be back to reality, some people use a technique about naming things. You have to mention five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one you can taste ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ or something like that... For me, it's too much to recall, so I forget sometimes what I have to mention and I do as I please while breathing.

 

And shoo away that negativity ∩(︶▽︶)∩ everyone has problems to deal with, and yours is as important as those — that doesn't make you useless at all (*≧▽≦) you're just an adorable person trying to figure out how to be more comfortable with the world around ♥

 

 

Awh, thats so nice. 

 

And yeah- grounding is basically the 5,4,3,2,1 things and I seem to forget it all the time too! They do push too hard, and then I just seem to break. I was on medication for anxiety at one point but I wasnt even here! It was like I was in a dream land, not quite reality, not quite a world of wonder. It was very very concerning. 

 

I am due to go back and see my doctor soon so hopefully she can shed some light on what to do and things like that, Its just disheartening when you can only go out with someone there, I mean dont get me wrong, I love my daddy- but we need a little space from each other sometimes to do our own thing! It can get very intense sometimes otherwise- not in a bad way just, need alone time (im usually alone all day whilst hes at work but by the time he comes home it feels like no time at all) It tugs a little sometimes- and the fact that hes also my full time carer due to medical conditions and some days has to do everything by his self also tugs at the relationship, so adding anxiety and stuff like that ontop makes it a little hard. 

 

The world is a strange, big place, and it is scary!

 

*shoos negativity* Go aways negative one!