How do I get Daddy's attention without seeming needy?

[zeddy]

        I absolutely love serving my daddy in anyway he asks, whenever he asks, but I'm so so needy. I need his attention and praise but i don't want to bother him or like, overstep a boundary here and make him angry by asking for it. 

 

       So, do Y'all have any advice to help me keep his attention? Or like get more of it in general? We don't live near each other which complicates things a bit.

 

       Any help is greatly appreciated. I'm brand new to all of this and kind of lost in it lol.

[Little-one-xo]

There's nothing wrong with just saying that you want some attention, just explain it's because he's your Daddy that you want HIS attention, especially in little space. This doesn't not mean he must give you attention 24/7 of course, but you are also allowed to ask for attention just as much as he is. He should understand, it's not an abnormal thing. 

[Little Illy]

Very, very, very simple...

 

Communication!

 

I recommend reading this as it goes way in depth to your exact issue: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/28037-communication-is-vital/ (SFW).

 

I hope that linked thread helps!

[kittyboo]

You just have to tell him. Depending on how long it's been without talking to my daddy and how much attention I crave, I legit just say 'I want attention plz' or 'NEED ATTENTION' hahaha. Or send a gif of someone dying. It's very effective

 

If you feel like you want more attention inn your relationship in general then you have to have a bit more of an adult conversation about that, but there's nothing wrong with wanting attention and it's not unreasonable

[Guest infinitecases]

I don't think he'd get angry if you ask. I always feel a bit sheepish or needy when I ask for attention of affection but my Daddy knows how I am, and knows how much I need, so if I ask for it, he normally makes the time to give me it. Just tell him this is a need for you and what you two can do in your relationship to accommodate to it! 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

the need for attention is a valid, human emotion. 

make your needs clear to your partner in whatever style of communication is best for you! 

use it as a forum to open up a conversation on what you both need to feel fulfilled, instead of just what he needs. 

 

if you are shy about asking for things, use a worry book where you write down how you are feeling & have him read it. 

he can even reply back in writing, if it's easier. 

 

always remember the jellybean mantra: 
communicate, especially when you don't want to!

[neko]

It makes me so so so SO concerned when someome says they dont want to express their feelings because they're scared their partner will get angry.

 

Thats not how a relationship works. You should be freely expressing your feelings good or bad.

Edited July 27, 2018 by neko

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

The book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus helped me understand the difference between needing something and being needy. Maybe check it out. Also, it is helpful to see if your love languages match up.

[James.]

I am just going to make some guesses about the situation based on my own experience. Take from it what you will. My little is needy, but it's something I love about her, and a quality I actually find attractive. I think that is the case for a lot of other Daddies. Sure there is a limit for everyone, but from my experience with my current little, past littles, friends, etc, I find that they tend to assume they are being too needy or too much when it's not really the case. My little worries about this, but I always reassure her that it's never been a problem for me. I'm gonna guess this is the case in your relationship as well. As Bree recommended above, I think communicating is the solution here. If it's all in your head, this gives him the opportunity to reassure you as well as better understand some of your feelings that you may be burying. If it is, in fact, something he is having a problem with, communicating allows you to find ways to manage this feeling, express it in a manner he can handle/assist with, etc.