Is it DDLG?

[Lunai]

So, I've never completely understod DDLG/DDLB and haven't exactly looked it up much, but earlier this week I for some reason just looked into it and found that some Littles sometimes like pretending to be/acting like pets. 

 

I've always been into the idea of being a pet and having a daddy/owner taking care of me, disciplining me, cuddling with me and so on. Would this be considered DDLG? I'm really sorry if I'm wrong about certain things, like I said, I'm completely new to this and confused and I really don't know where else to turn for help

Edited July 28, 2018 by Lunai

[Guest Nocent]

You are on the right path, but it is an over simplified version overall. I encourage you to continue to explore here as there are a ton of wonderful resources here in order to help you further understand the nuances of a DDLG relationship.
That being sad while I am new to the dynamic of DDLG/DDLB I would be delighted to answer question you might have or point you in the direction of more experience members to assist you.
You have to explore and learn for yourself and what you want.

[TwilightSparklez]

You are exploring and that is wonderful! Be sure to continue reading and get out into your local community in order to facilitate your learning. DDLG/DDLB is traditionally Daddy Dom & little girl/boy sometimes the little may not be a liitle at all but a sub that prefers having a Dom that identifies as a Daddy Dom.

 

That said it's perfectly acceptable to be a pet and be into DDlg/lb or to be a pet simply looking for a Daddy type owner and handler. It really comes down to your own exploration and needs.

[neko]

You could very well just be into the Pet Play aspect of things instead of DDLG (:

[xBabydollx]

There is the Owner/pet dynamic just like there is a Daddy/little girl (or other titles) dynamic. They are different. There is ageplay where someone purposefully pretends to be younger or older than they are. There is petplay where someone pretends to be a pet through how they dress or behave. All of these things are separate, but they can blend if u want them to. u can be a little and a pet or just a little who likes petplay etc. u can be into DD/lg and the Owner/pet dynamic, but they aren't the same thing, no.

[Little Illy]

When coming into the world of CG/L or Kink/BDSM in general (I say this because a lot of community members link the two), you will see things you have never heard of before, and I urge you to not be intimidated by it! I never really understood that being a Puppy could actually be a thing because all I had ever seen were “Daddy’s little kitten” so it confused me. Now I know you can be a kitten, puppy, fox, fishy, and even a dragon, lion, frog, turtle or more!

 

There are many reasons why a person would identify with an animal, so I will only touch on a few common ones; non-verbal, tactile/sensory, primal and anamorphic. But before I get into those, I need to clarify something; just because one thing fits a category, doesn’t mean it is one. Example: All thumbs are fingers, but not all fingers are thumbs. In regards to pets there are already well-known categories out there, but that doesn’t mean pets fall under them, and it does mean it is possible for pets to do so. Those that I am talking about are “furries” and “bronies.”

 

Now, I am NOT saying there is anything wrong with either of those, AT ALL!!! But, being a pet does not automatically mean you are a furry or a bronie. Just like being one of those doesn’t mean you are a pet. I wont go into furries or bronies at this time as they are respected identities on their own. It also needs to be known that kittens are the largest group of pets across the board, in CG/L, kink, BDSM and even in the vanilla world, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a kitten to be a pet, and it doesn’t make you any less credible to identify as a kitten! Again everything is on a spectrum, and on these spectrums, nothing is wrong or bad.

 

What pets are, at least in relation to CG/L, are those who identify with parts of an animal and take on that behavior. I will use myself as an example through this entire portion to better understand.

 

I identify as a puppy, and have found I identify most as husky pup. But how did I figure this out? There are times during my day where I retract into myself in a way that leads me to act more like a puppy than a little, sub or “regular” girlfriend. I tended to not want to speak, even when needing to communicate. I was more prone to just pull or scratch or nudge my partner (or even bite) to get attention or as a mean of expressing myself. And I enjoyed having my head petted, hair played with and back scratched. Now all of these things are fairly common, and I can see how just those things do not equate wanting to be a pet. However, it was the mindset these actions and interactions left me in.

 

I have talked to littles who do identify as Kittens and they told me they get into their petspace so deeply that they will walk up to their CG’s desk and randomly start pushing things off the edge of it, like cats literally do. They curl up at their CG’s feet, they call him/her Owner or Master because they are literally the pet’s owner. They purr when giving affection and the lick in a “I like you / Thank you / I love you” way and not just a “hey, lets get some” kind of way.

 

Being a pet, like all else, varies in how “far” that feeling is. There are people who enjoy a full body suit while they are in Petspace or when they just slip a bit into their pet identity with a cute nickname or fake ears. And then there are people who want nothing more than to be called “pup” or “kitten” or whichever they identify with. As always, both preferences are valid and neither make them weird or “not” a pet.

 

The issue with being a pet is that it can sometimes be difficult to communicate with your partner. I sink so far into Puppyspace (Petspace) that sometimes it is very hard to vocalize anything for me. So Daddy may have a guessing game or I may become frustrated because he isn’t giving me what I need. So, like everything else, a proper discussion on your Petspace is needed in the beginnings of your relationship.

 

If you do not have your pet/petspace figured out when you start your relationship, don’t stress out! I didn’t know I was a puppy until I had been with Daddy for awhile. What this means is you to get to explore it together. Now through exploration if you two find out your petsapce and your partners desires, fantasies, expectations, etc are different, don’t freak out. That just means you both were coming from a different and new place and needs and adjustment period.

 

People are very quick to say “dump him/her and run!” but I urge you, talk it out. Daddy had a preference for Kittens and I detest the thought of identifying with a Kitten. Do I dislike those who do? Absolutely not! Some of my good friends are Kittens, but for me, it is almost offensive. So Daddy and I sat and had a talk about it. We found, without realizing, Daddy was nudging me in the direction of Kitten set-ups (collars with kitten associations, DDlg accessories with that were more geared towards pet-kittens, etc). It took a lot of communication on both our ends to find out that, not only is Daddy okay with me being a Puppy, but he has a natural Primal canine streak as well.

 

Being a pet can be extremely liberating, but it can be daunting. Don’t ever feel like you HAVE to identify with an animal in your relationship, because it is by no means a requirement. But… if you do? Don’t be upset, feel weird or like a freak, because a lot of us DO take on this identity. Just two years ago I kind of scoffed at all of the littles acting like Kittens. I personally thought they did it to get attention, and that was because I was uneducated. When I realized it wasn’t “just a thing” these littles did, but rather a way of who they were, I was able to understand.

 

For some people, being a pet is a kink, for others it is a part of their whole personality and for those left over, being a pet is a source of confusion because they don’t understand. And all of that is okay. When figuring out what a pet is, if it is right for you, and if so, what pet are you, just remember that there are no expectations. You need to do what is right for you and you alone. And I promise, no matter what pet (or no pet) there are people out there who believe and feel just like you, so don’t get discouraged. Be yourself and learn about your animal side in a safe and happy way.