Rushing and not reading

[Guest chubbypuppy]

Not sure if this is the right place to put this but I didn't think that it fit into the other forums and this isn't really a question and I don't need advice.

 

So, I've notice that I am constantly getting messages from people who don't properly read my personals ad and profile. I just wanted to make it clear that it's super important for people to take the time to read and learn about a person before jumping into their private messages (as much as you can and especially if the information is so readily available).

 

There's loads of different reasons that it's really important to read up beforehand; for example: I put things I don't like in my personals. I really just want to stress the importance of diminishing this desperate behaviour of "oh there's a little/caregiver, let me just scroll down to their kik or private message them straight away". (Most) people post in the personals to give you an inkling of what they're like so you don't have to message them if they're most likely not what you're looking for. Maybe someone put limits or triggers into their "about me's"? Maybe there's important information you need to know before messaging them?

 

A little bit of context about where I'm coming from: recently I've been getting a lot of attention from Daddies who haven't read my personals or the information on my profile to the full extent (or at all!). I'm very informative and blunt in my personals about what I think is okay and isn't okay when talking to me. I understand that my ad is super long but I did this specifically to avoid wasting people's time and them wasting my time.

 

I'm ftm transgender/questioning and I specifically explain this on my ad and my profile – I'm not a little girl, I'm a little boy. Regardless of plastering it on my profile and personals, I keep getting messages from Daddies who are looking for little girls. I always assume that someone who messages me has read my ad and is messaging me because they understand and are okay with everything I state in it. So I get to know these people and something will happen, like they call me "little girl", and I'll have to explain that I'm transgender and I'm a boy. And suddenly all the talking we've done is null and both of our times are wasted. I don't understand why this keeps happening and the only rational explanation is that people don't read and/or they're desperate for just anyone.

 

By no means am I saying this happens all the time (I've met amazing people and friends through this forum and my ad) but it's happend a few times, including twice yesterday and once this morning, so I wanted to address this.

 

Please read what people put out, and please be aware that people may not read what you put out. If there things you need people to know, make sure one of the first things you do is inform/remind them.

[Kaiser]

Thanks for your post. I can tell from it that you're the perfect little girl, and would make an amazing princess. I really feel connected to you.

 

I'm the best Daddy for the kind of princess you are, and I think we should really talk about how you can become my princess.

 

 

 

 

That was sarcasm, btw..... But, you're correct. It happens a lot here, and from all sides.

 

 

P.S....If you respond to my post, you will address me as Daddy.

 

^also sarcasm.

[Guest chubbypuppy]

I understand it can happen no matter what the role, was just talking about my experience, I apologise if I didn't make that super clear.

 

and I appreciate the sarcasm, that made me giggle because that's exactly the type of messages that get sent.

 

I don't think this can be resolved so it was more so just informative like "beware, people do this". ❀

[SharkPrince]

This is great and all, you make some good points. 

But if people aren't reading your personals properly they wont read this

[Kaiser]

I understand it can happen no matter what the role, was just talking about my experience, I apologise if I didn't make that super clear.

and I appreciate the sarcasm, that made me giggle because that's exactly the type of messages that get sent.

I don't think this can be resolved so it was more so just informative like "beware, people do this". ❀

 

Annnnnnnnnnd you didn't follow my commands. (Shakes head.)

 

 

Good on you for posting this. It's pandemic here, and more people need to speak up about it.

[Guest chubbypuppy]

This isn't for those people, this is just to inform others that people might not have read your whole personals/profile

[Guest chubbypuppy]

Annnnnnnnnnd you didn't follow my commands. (Shakes head.)

Good on you for posting this. It's pandemic here, and more people need to speak up about it.

"commands" are taken seriously only from my actual daddy/cargiver haha

 

yeah, I just figured I'd share my experience because I don't think I've seen a post about it yet

Edited July 29, 2018 by chubbypuppy

[VanillaAlpaca]

Send request friend incoming from me because you seemed so down to earth I liked it ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

 

As a little who already has a daddy for her own, I read profiles because some people doesn't want to talk with people over some age (or under) and I don't want to spoil their fun here with my unwanted presence ∩(︶▽︶)∩ it's good to say it out of loud.

 

Hoping they take read profiles more seriously from now.

[Guest Nettie_Bug]

Thank you for posting this. I have to have an age limit for my preferred partner and some people seem to skim past it.

 

I really wanted to make a post like this but you phrased it much better by far! ♡

[Guest chubbypuppy]

Thank you both!

 

It's super frustrating when you take measures to prevent this stuff but people disregard that anyways!

 

There's not much we can do about other than raise awareness of it, I think. Hope it doesn't happen so much now that I've addressed it!

[AllTSomeShade]

My favourite thing is on Fetlife, I state I'm monogamous and in a relationship not looking for anything but friends, and still get messages saying 'I read your profile and think we can become more than friends' like ???

[Guest chubbypuppy]

My favourite thing is on Fetlife, I state I'm monogamous and in a relationship not looking for anything but friends, and still get messages saying 'I read your profile and think we can become more than friends' like ???

"I read your profile" that's funny

[Guest Sleuthiedoll]

i got a i read your profile thing too

[Frog]

That's why I pruned my profile. It meant nothing, so I figured it should have nothing!

[Guest SUeB]

This won't change anything, unfortunately. It's the general rule of thumb that guys simply take no notice of profiles, etc. They see a girl, they jump. Sure it happens the other way around too, of course, but i only have my own experience and perspective.

On fet, for instance, my whole profile and site activity pretty much revolves around my Master. It clearly states that i do not respond to messages from dudes, nor do i add male friends, unless i know them as friends in real life. And yes, i still regularly get random male requests, and the odd message. Not as many as i used to, by any means, but they still happen.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

If you look through the replies to some of the personals on here, you will see "Daddies" who literally cut & paste the same reply to every ad.

 

And it's always along the lines of "YOU are the perfect little for me..."...

 

It would be funny if it weren't so sad.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I'm ftm transgender/questioning and I specifically explain this on my ad and my profile – I'm not a little girl, I'm a little boy. Regardless of plastering it on my profile and personals, I keep getting messages from Daddies who are looking for little girls.

 

 

In my mind using the word "plastering" looks something like this at the very top of your profile and personal ad:

 

I'm ftm and/or questioning my gender identity

 

If it is super important to you, move it to the top of your profile and personal ad.  Also, paragraph breaks would make things easier to read on your profile. 

 

That personal ad is one of the longest I've ever read, is there a way you could trim it down? Expecting someone to read and remember all of that is asking a bit much...

 

Hope things work out for you!

[Guest chubbypuppy]

If it is super important to you, move it to the top of your profile and personal ad. Also, paragraph breaks would make things easier to read on your profile.

 

That personal ad is one of the longest I've ever read, is there a way you could trim it down? Expecting someone to read and remember all of that is asking a bit much...

 

Hope things work out for you!

A lot of things in my ad are important to me, which is why it is as long as it is. I don't think I should need to change MY posts just because people choose to overlook things.

 

I by no means expect people to remember my post, but yes I do expect it to be read in its entirety. I assume if people read a certain section they'll think "okay they're not what I'm looking for" and simply just not message me – but that's not the case for some reason. And if someone sees a post is too long and can't be bothered to read it, why message me at all? It's silly.

 

Again, I'm only raising awareness of the fact that people choose not to take looking for a little/caregiver/friend seriously by blindly messaging people before being at least a little bit certain that they are what they're looking for :/

 

Yes, it's going to happen still but the reason I posted this isn't to merely complain about my own experience (it was an example), it's to let people know that they might not be messaged by people who messaged them because they specifically wanted to message them. I hope this last bit makes sense.

[Guest Mossy]

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Edited September 13, 2018 by Mossy