Am I too much of a prude?

[Guest Maple]

Hi everyone so I just kinda had a question. I’ve been a little for 2 years now and in that time have had a few daddies. Each of the daddies I have been with started off fine, But then into the second week of the relationship things kinda changed. I’d be asked for more explicit pictures, or to do something I wasn’t comfortable with. I’d explain that I didn’t like it, that I wasn’t ready, and I’d just be told that it was reasonable for the amount of time we’d been talking. Am I too much of a prude? Do all sexual things start after two weeks? I know I’ve been a little for 2 years but I’m not one who’s use to it all. I feel like maybe there’s something wrong with me, and they made me feel like I should be ok with it already. I hope I explained this in a clear way and thank you in advance for any answers

Edited August 5, 2018 by Maple

[TheDaddyest]

You mean prude. But go at your own pace. those daddies weren't right for you. keep looking. 

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

Maple, your comfort is important. Don't let someone else tell you what you should or should not be comfortable doing. If you're not comfortable doing something, they should understand that. If they don't, then they are not right for you. And you're not a prude just because you don't want to do something.

[Guest Maple]

Sorry for my misspelling! and thank you for your responses they made me feel better. I was worried that it was normal to be doing such things, but my anxiousness about it derailed all of my relationships so it just really discouraged me in a lot of ways. 

[TheDaddyest]

You be true to your feelings. You'll find someone you are comfortable one day and will go the pace you need. 

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

An important thing to remember Maple is that what may be "normal" for one person does not make it "normal" for another. Like the Daddyest said, stay true to your feelings. And true to yourself.

[Guest Maple]

Thank you both I'll try to make sure that I stay true to me feelings : ) 

[SweetPlum]

I was in a similar situation a long time ago and I didn't know better back then. It's normal that 2 weeks is too soon because you don't know each other very well. Don't force anything unnatural and if he gets angry then you know he doesn't respect you. If he is that kind of guy, it's best to find someone else who values you before you get attached to him. If you do it under pressure and fear, then enter into a relationship with them, you might feel anger towards them deep down but could still find it hard to leave them. Then you're just miserable. Do what you think is best. 

[Guest JackSkellington]

In short you are not a prude. Go at your own pace. 2 weeks isn't a long time to know someone well enough to ask for things like that.

[Guest little_ballerina]

Reject preconceived 'right/wrong' expectations being put on you (like "prude"). You're an individual with personal preferences. Be open about your preferences in the very beginning (e.g., "I don't like being sexual until I know the other person well, I feel an emotional connection and we're in a committed LTR" -- or whatever your preference is). Ask him what his preference is. If he says "I like to be sexual in the second week no matter what", then you know you're no match. Daddies vary in their preferences (and how much they'll compromise) -- you just need to find a compatible one. You're doing the right thing being true to your preferences and feelings. I don't think littles should be suppressing their feelings to put their Daddy's feelings first (of course no one needs to be suppressing, Daddies included, if you're highly compatible).

 

Fwiw you aren't alone in your preference. Hell would freeze over before I was sexual in two weeks. For me sex = bonding and I don't want to bond to someone I don't fully know who isn't committed to me (in a realistic, reliable way). For me personally, that's just asking for trouble. Sex is also a deeply personal/spiritual/vulnerable thing to me, I don't see it as just 'feels-good fun'. I need the emotional side in the relationship to match this depth or I can't go there. I've never been interested in anything quick or casual. If someone called me a prude, I'd just giggle since I actually have a very positive view of sex (under the right conditions).

 

Be careful when people call you names like 'prude'. Sometimes it's a sign they're trying to be manipulative (to coerce you into doing what they want). Healthy/'good' people respect each other's preferences, whatever they may be, without resorting to name-calling. People who find they're incompatible should be wishing the other well on their continued journey to find their match. There is no justification for taking what is a personal preference and acting like it's some society level standard that you force down the throat (pun possibly intended of the other -- that's true even if "most people" do something like timing of sex in relationships in a similar way ---> it's okay to be different.

 

Basically: you're doing a great job being true to yourself, keep it up and be wary of people who make you feel bad since it may be a sign there is something wrong with them.

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

 

 

 Each of the daddies I have been with started off fine, But then into the second week of the relationship things kinda changed. I’d be asked for more explicit pictures, or to do something I wasn’t comfortable with. I’d explain that I didn’t like it, that I wasn’t ready, and I’d just be told that it was reasonable for the amount of time we’d been talking 

 

IMHO, this is just like dating in the real world with more rules.  A good daddy would be concern with the little first and not their own dicks.  Granted, there is a sexuality to this relationship but it should be just one part. The rest is being comfortable and taking care of you and your needs first.