Daddy and Little Relationship roles

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

My little and I were texting about that what she perceives as her role in our relationship

 

"A true little in a good and healthy relationship cares just as much about her Daddy and seeing him succeed and be happy as he does about her. She needs him to take care of her emotionally, physically, financially, whatever, due to the nature of the dynamic. She needs to trust in his judgment, his follow through and his love for her. But she is more concerned with his welfare than her own and will submit to whatever is necessary to ensure he remains happy. Meanwhile....a good and proper little is Daddy's Treasure. She takes care of him, cooks, cleans, does his laundry, whatever, because (a) to provide for her (which makes him happy) he needs that extra help, and ( he enjoys being that strong rock she can rely on and cling to in times of stress. He thrives on helping her, just as she thrives on helping him." 

 

And my view as a Daddy:

Being a strong rock is about three things:

1) Making those tough decisions that protect the welfare of the little and the relationship

2) Being consistent with the words and decisions

3) Follow through with measurable action 

 

My little and I started off as friends and we moved to lovers while she was going through hard times. We have since then progressed to a committed monogamous couple with marriage in our future. I am very fortunate to have her in my life as you  tell by her wise words.  I am committed to protecting her and our relationship. In a way while we act with a traditional american view on marriage, I think knowing that we are supportive of each other in this way, we will outlast those very same traditional marriages  because of our commitment to communication and understanding our roles. 

[Guest little_ballerina]

Your relationship sounds wonderful and the views expressed are not dissimilar to my Daddy's and mine

 

I would word some things differently though and perhaps you'd be interested to hear how.

 

For example, I don't see it as me "being more concerned with his welfare than my own" when I submit (that sounds too general and too him vs me). I see it that I agreed to respect his thinking and showing my respect (by submitting to his thinking) honors that agreement, but more it respects/honors him as a DD (as a person) since my behavior is ultimately a refection of him. It also gives me pleasure to please my Daddy (so I get something directly out of it too).

 

Everyone's different although in roles, it sounds like we may be talking about the same thing (I'm the nurturer/supporter/pleasure lg to my DD who is the authority/leader/protector). I see us as a cross between being a highly masculine-feminine 'traditional' relationship and DDlg too.

 

Congratulations on your relationship. You sound like an unusually compatible/happy couple

[BabyBird0891]

I am about to run to work - I will add to DD66’s post when I have a moment to add info and personal perspective to my role.