How do you tell your partner that you're little?

[Guest TheQuiet1]

I'm still not sure if I'm into DDLG or CGLRE (I'm new here, and new to this. I posted in Introductions about that and just waiting for some help ).

But I do know I age regress. And I know I like being taken care of like a kid sometimes. How would I go about telling my boyfriend about it if I were to? And how did/would you (only if you don't mind sharing)?

[LittleGirlEmilia]

It was quite simple for me to tell partners or prospective partners I'm a little because it was one of the first things I would have told them as it's a big part of who I am, but when I first did it I remember being nervous and having questions, will they accept me? Will they judge me? What if they think I'm weird? Etc...

 

So I sat him down, adult to adult, told him straight up and answered any questions he had. I told him any question he had wasn't stupid and appreciated him taking an interest. If he's interested in becoming your caregiver, you need to give him a lot of time to research and talk to you about his role, it could even take 2 years before he's where you need him to be as a caregiver, depending on how fast he grows as a caregiver and how natural he is at is.

 

Or he may not want to be your caregiver, which is fine too because at least now he knows and understands you a bit better. It's ok to be a single little. ^.^

[WhysperKit]

Our conversation lmao 

Me: Oh, Diamond got that wrong! *laughs*
Daddy: What? Diamond? Got what wrong? 
Me: An old high school friend. She was trying to describe DDLG and got it wrong *grins*
Daddy: *raises an eyebrow* DDLG?
Me: Oh, it's a BDSM dynamic. Daddy Dom, Little Girl.
Daddy: And that's... something you're interested in?

Me: Oh, um, sorta, yeah... is that ok?
Daddy: If that makes you happy, yes. 
Me: I don't like calling guys Daddy though! *quickly adds*

Daddy: Alright *shrugs*
Me: Would you... um, could I tell you a bit about it?

Daddy: Sure  

 

At the time I didn't want to call a guy Daddy. I was more into "Master" at the time, but that's since changed lol I then went on to describe it to him and he was really accepting of it. I was still discovering what I liked at the time so it was really trial and error for us until we found what fit us well because Daddy was 100% brand new to it at the time. I'd only done a little research on it and knew the basics. 

[Koala]

It took me a long time to tell my current Daddy! I tried to make the conversation casual, just bringing it up between classes and I couldn't even get the words out. It's so difficult to say the words "I'm a little'' out loud! But I did, and hid in his shirt while he googled it. We had a real conversation about it later, to go over what it meant to ME, and another awhile after where I asked him to be my Daddy. So, my advice is this: do your best to get the words out while you two are in a good mood and have time to talk about it. Make sure it's someone you trust. not someone you WANT to trust. It gets easier, I swear!

[LeonneRose]

I'm a total newcomer to the whole community too! I'm in a poly relationship(Though sorta just him ATM, but looking for a daddy currently and talking to one fellow I wanna break it off with.) and I sorta brought it up to ___ and he knew what it was and kinda ignored the topic. I'm a little worried to find out if that means he doesn't care about it or dislikes it, I think his exact words were "I don't like it as a total lifestyle" But he meant getting into the dynamic personally. I think the best bet is to just try and gauge what they think about it, if the don't like it they don't have to be a part of it but you should probably still tell, maybe not with explicit detail if they seemed off put. I don't know, new to all of this still and just trying~

[prince eefy]

it was really casual. i brought up asking if he'd hypothetically like to be my caregiver when we live together (this is before we even started dating but we were exclusive to each other and had been talking for 2 months at the time), and he said yes yes yes!! and then i asked if he'd wanna be one now right after i hypothetically asked and..he was very ecstatic about it. still is. he loves being my daddy!

Edited September 2, 2018 by littleblueskyee

[Guest Swadloon]

I told Daddy one night right before we were headed to sleep, because I just couldn't hold it in anymore!  He'd turned on the star light projector in our room, covered me up with the duvet, and made sure I was all settled in with the cat and my favourite lion plushie at my side.

 

It was our typical nightly routine, but in that moment, I was feeling super little...so I went and told him!  "Hey love," I piped up, "There's something I've got to tell you." He gave me this look like "Oh NO what bomb is Ev gonna drop on me at midnight THIS time good gosh".  And I told him, "Every night, when you do this, I feel really...little."

 

"Little...as in small?  Because you're not that short y'know." was the answer I got, which made me laugh a lot. So I just went and explained everything to him.  He said he didn't know what to say, and would have to spend some time thinking about the whole thing.  I suggested he look at certain resources online to get an even better idea of what CG/l was all about.  He bombarded me with questions about it for a week, and I was terrified for that week at what his eventual reaction would be.  But after that week he said that he'd like to give being my Daddy a try! And months later, the rest is history.

 

Tl;dr best thing is just to be honest, once you feel comfortable enough, of course! There's the possibility that your boyfriend may not want to be your CG and may not be into this dynamic, and you've gotta accept that.  But it'll still be a good thing to have told him, because it's important to have that kind of open communication between couples.  And, don't let ANYBODY, and I mean ANYBODY, ever make you feel ashamed of yourself for being into the things you're into.