Question?

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

Do any other littles, or cgs get anxious if someone else comes into the house when youre in that frame of mind, or simply because its your safe zone? (for me little space/pet space is my home, and my safe zone where I usually let my anxiety go)

 

I have anxiety anyway, but was just wondering if anyone has any tips or tricks as I have the NRS to fit my equipment that I need due to my disability on Friday, and wonder if like any other people have this problem and have ways to control it \('-')/

 

Thanks guys ^-^

[PrinzeCharming]

I can understand what you mean. I've noticed a lot of littles who still live with their families often come out of their smaller secure spaces to explore the rest of the house when nobody is around. It can get extremely challenging when a vanilla outsider, especially out of the ddlg mindset, enters the space. Some will find it cute, others will find it unhealthy. I guess it's how you present yourself in the time of them coming in, and how they learn to take it. People adjust differently to different lifestyles. It's part of life. They'll make comments like, "Oh, interesting," when they're nervous. The best is to stay in your safe space, and gradually open up to them. Out of sight out of mind. Comfort and trust are important when opening up to vanillas. I wouldn't encourage hiding from these people, but open up to them. Communication is important. As a CG, be a mature adult and handle it like any other CG. Set the role straight. Maturity is a big factor when you take responsibility as a CG. If you handle the situation effectively, you might even interest the person to sit down and talk about it. People like to learn about new things. 

 

Many outsiders enjoy coloring and stuffies. It's a given. We color to ease anxiety, and escape the bad vibes. We buy stuffies for people who are happy, sad, sick, and elderly. Stuffies are bought, earned, won, and passed down. Find a common interest to gradually open up to them about accepting your lifestyle. The more people in your network, the easier it will be to express yourself around them. I've had a little who opened up to their dad about being a little. He found it funny to be younger than your own age. It's a common thing, and it's how you take their opinions. All that matters is that you're safe, happy, and comfortable. 

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

I can understand what you mean. I've noticed a lot of littles who still live with their families often come out of their smaller secure spaces to explore the rest of the house when nobody is around. It can get extremely challenging when a vanilla outsider, especially out of the ddlg mindset, enters the space. Some will find it cute, others will find it unhealthy. I guess it's how you present yourself in the time of them coming in, and how they learn to take it. People adjust differently to different lifestyles. It's part of life. They'll make comments like, "Oh, interesting," when they're nervous. The best is to stay in your safe space, and gradually open up to them. Out of sight out of mind. Comfort and trust are important when opening up to vanillas. I wouldn't encourage hiding from these people, but open up to them. Communication is important. As a CG, be a mature adult and handle it like any other CG. Set the role straight. Maturity is a big factor when you take responsibility as a CG. If you handle the situation effectively, you might even interest the person to sit down and talk about it. People like to learn about new things. 

 

Many outsiders enjoy coloring and stuffies. It's a given. We color to ease anxiety, and escape the bad vibes. We buy stuffies for people who are happy, sad, sick, and elderly. Stuffies are bought, earned, won, and passed down. Find a common interest to gradually open up to them about accepting your lifestyle. The more people in your network, the easier it will be to express yourself around them. I've had a little who opened up to their dad about being a little. He found it funny to be younger than your own age. It's a common thing, and it's how you take their opinions. All that matters is that you're safe, happy, and comfortable. 

 

Given me something to ponder :3 fankyous! 

[prince eefy]

i still live with my mom and often times i will go into littlespace whenever people are around. luckily i have found a way to do it discreetly and not have it impact my speech or actions. if i am alone though thats a different story, i can act as little as i want and not care what people think, cause no ones around.

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

i still live with my mom and often times i will go into littlespace whenever people are around. luckily i have found a way to do it discreetly and not have it impact my speech or actions. if i am alone though thats a different story, i can act as little as i want and not care what people think, cause no ones around.

 

Yeah! I think I just need to train myself whens appropriate to go into little space, I get bad anxiety, especially when strangers either come into the house, or even friends and family. My reaction is to go into little space even when I need to adult like with adult social services, or the people coming to fit my equipment haha!

 

I mean, I only live with my daddy, so I can pretty much do what I want, thats probably why I do it haha. Whoops, but fankyous!! :3

[Guest Arc]

Maybe you can ask a friend or family member or someone else you trust to come in and support you while they're there? Friday is very close to be looking for ways to cope that are effective for you. 

[Lilmisstiaa1997]

Maybe you can ask a friend or family member or someone else you trust to come in and support you while they're there? Friday is very close to be looking for ways to cope that are effective for you. 

 

Unfortunately none of my family are about, they are all either working or away- and as for friends or people I trust they are not where I live haha

 

Thankyou! I mean they are here now and I seem to be coping with petting my snakes, and keeping one of them round my neck- I am a very last minute person \('-')/