How can i safely be little without a daddy?

[Leah ^-^]

Hello! I'm having issues with being little at the moment, since I cant take care of myself well whilst in littlepace. I make a mess, colour all over myself and go to bed when the sun rises. I forget to eat because I'm too busy playing, and when I do eat it's snacks that I shouldn't be having as often as I do. 
I know it's my own fault, but when I'm little I can barely control what I'm doing and just do whatever I think is fun. 

I'll be grateful for any advice at all, since I'm noticing that this is unhealthy. 
Thank you   
 

[PrinzeCharming]

Hey Leah! Welcome to the community! I am sure if you meet all the friendly faces around here, you'll discover some great minds who will guide you in the right direction. It's always great to have a schedule, or routine. Self-discipline is important, as well as incorporating a healthier meal plan. We all take our minds off those silly words, and have fun! Then, you catch yourself up at times when a store isn't even open, and the birds aren't even awake.

 

What are your hobbies? What do you like to do to keep yourself occupied? Do you have a dry erase board or calendar? Start focusing on a Things to Do list. Make your own chore sticker chart! Yay! Stickers! Right? Reward yourself when you do things on your own. Try to punish yourself when you don't complete a task by reducing television time and going to bed much earlier than the night before. Practice day by day, and I am sure you'll be fine. 

[Guest CollateralBeauty]

What are your hobbies? What do you like to do to keep yourself occupied? Do you have a dry erase board or calendar? Start focusing on a Things to Do list. Make your own chore sticker chart! Yay! Stickers! Right? Reward yourself when you do things on your own. Try to punish yourself when you don't complete a task by reducing television time and going to bed much earlier than the night before. Practice day by day, and I am sure you'll be fine. 

 

Like PrinzeCharming said, a sticker chart could be a nice little reward for yourself.

 

I also think a picture schedule would be a good idea. Use pictures instead of writing out things you need to do to make it more fun for yourself while you're in your little space. For example, if you need to clean a room, instead of writing that you need to do that have a picture of someone cleaning a room. I think another good idea would be to set a timer ahead of time so you know when it's time to go to bed or take a shower.

[RavenclawPrincess]

First of all, you're an adult so even if little space can get messy there really shouldn't be a reason for you to be unsafe in little space. Personally, I have a daddy but do have to be an independent little very frequently. Honestly, it isn't hard at all to get by. Here's a few things that I do, and hopefully you'll spot something on the list that'll help you out

 

1. You can set alarms on your phone for bedtime and when you're supposed to wake up in advance and set it for certain days of the week. I use the bedtime feature on my iphone but if I'm not mistaken you can set yourself up with a bedtime and wake up alarm using the regular alarm feature on a smart phone. 

 

2. Sticker chart!! I have just a regular spiral notebook where I'll write down the tasks/responsibilities that I did each day, and I'll put a sticker next to each completed task. I usually use one page per day, but it's a smaller notebook. Even without a daddy to tell you that you did an awesome job you can still get rewarded and feel proud of yourself for getting things done. You can even go so far as setting a reward system where you get a prize once you've gotten a certain number of stickers. I'm actually a lot more productive each day because I want to get as many stickers as I can every day. 

 

3. Write a schedule for yourself, and if you tend to make big messes when you're in little space schedule clean up time when you're done with that. You could even write your schedule on pretty paper or decorate it so it's nice to look at and will catch your eye when you're in little space. Even actual kids can follow a schedule if it's been written down, so it shouldn't be much of a problem for an adult in little space. All you gotta do is write it down so all you need to do is refer to your schedule as needed. 

 

4. It sounds like meal prep/planning ahead might be super helpful to you as well if you're not eating healthy. Put your meal prep time on your schedule so all you have to do is eat the food when you're hungry. You can also portion snacks ahead of time so you don't eat too much junk when in little space. Maybe put together 2 snacks (correctly portioned) in plastic baggies and have them on your kitchen counter so all you have to do is grab a snack that's ready instead of giving yourself full on access to all of the snacks in your kitchen all the time. 

 

I'm not sure what other issues have come up but ultimately if you plan ahead for whatever your needs (little needs or self-care needs) you should be able to take care of yourself just fine and also be able to enjoy little space. Hope this helps!

[Guest Arc]

You're an adult and as an adult you should be able to take care of yourself. If you cannot there is something wrong beyond what advice we can give. 

 

Maybe a sticker chart or something else for motivation will help, but imo it's just about self control and planning. Make sure you know what has to be done when and stick to it. 

[TheDaddyest]

Little space is a bit like meditation. It's something you can definatly achieve by yourself. Just breathe, relax, make a quite place and try to get to know that part of yourself. It takes practice for some people. But trust me nothing about being a little is it actually necessary to have a daddy. 

 

Although on the other hand. I would counter that a lot about being a daddy can rely on having a little. 

 

Annd that's not necessarily  true either as I've been shown recently. 

 

These mind spaces are kind of complicated. Just view them as not a shift of personality reliant on a relationship but more as a space in your mind you go to for certain benefits. 

 

That's my take on it. 

 

Edit I totally didn't answer your question. I just assumed what you wrote because I'm exhausted. sorry OP. 

Edited September 6, 2018 by TheDaddyest

[Little Illy]

*Waves* So I will give a crack at this.

 

What everyone has said is absolutely true. 1. You are an adult and if you are not happy with your actions, you need to do what needs to be done to make yourself comfortable. And 2. routines and schedule helps anyone when they want control over their life. 

 

However... I feel it is important to say that your littleness does not depend on a Daddy. It depends on you. Dont get me wrong, I had to have Daddy help me truly get into little space for the first time. I needed his presence because of my insecurities. But it seems like you can easily slip into littlespace, but just neglect self care.

 

So I recommend maybe starting a process where a part of your littlespace is dedicated to taking care of yourself. Reward yourself, but most importantly, get used to the responsibility of self-care.

 

You are asking how to help yourself without a Daddy, you are on the right path (a lot better than some). At the same time your profile says you are 18. So I actually recommend you take the thought of a Daddy out of your mind. Rephrase, even to yourself, "how do I better care for myself?" It is actually quite terrifying when a person says they literally cannot care for their needs because of little space. As everyone said, we are all adults. I know everyone experiences littlespace differently, but if you are on your own, in your own space and being little, there should not be a single thing stopping you from caring for yourself.

 

Typically those in littlespace cant care for themselves when they are scared. upset, intimidated, pressured, etc. If you are by yourself, you shouldn't feel anything like that. And if you do - there is the root of your problem. You must find out why you feel this way because feeling that way is what is stopping your care. But if you don't feel any of those, but more so you just dont care for yourself because you are in a "care-free" headspace... then... well... to be blunt and honest... you need to mature a weeee bit (but I don't think this is your case as you are actively asking for advice).

 

A lot of littles put all of their independence on their Daddies. "I cant sleep without a Daddy." "I need a Daddy to give me my meds, cuz I wont take them otherwise." "I dont know how to do [basic care] without a Daddy." So when there are titles like "how to be little without a Daddy" it is important to remember that you are always a little. A Daddy is someone who comes in and makes Littlespace that much better. But a Daddy isn't the one who is supposed to just clean up the messes. So I would take some serious time in working out self-care for yourself because the last thing you want is to avoid the issue and expect your future Daddy to pick it up.

 

[i am not saying the OP is necessarily going to be like the bad examples I have provided. The wording of this piece just kicked up a thought for me and so I put it down. I sincerely hope I did not offend anyone as that was not my intentions at all. ]

[Leah ^-^]

You're an adult and as an adult you should be able to take care of yourself. If you cannot there is something wrong beyond what advice we can give. 

 

Maybe a sticker chart or something else for motivation will help, but imo it's just about self control and planning. Make sure you know what has to be done when and stick to it. 

 

it's not really that I can't care for myself, it's just that I have little to no self discipline, and it worsens in little space. I used to have a daddy, but things went badly. I will say, however, that I was much more healthy and I had rules and was living well. It's just different for me being so dependent on myself all of the time, but I think i'll be okay soon.

I probably just need to learn some self discipline then Thank you

[Leah ^-^]

*Waves* So I will give a crack at this.

 

What everyone has said is absolutely true. 1. You are an adult and if you are not happy with your actions, you need to do what needs to be done to make yourself comfortable. And 2. routines and schedule helps anyone when they want control over their life. 

 

However... I feel it is important to say that your littleness does not depend on a Daddy. It depends on you. Dont get me wrong, I had to have Daddy help me truly get into little space for the first time. I needed his presence because of my insecurities. But it seems like you can easily slip into littlespace, but just neglect self care.

 

So I recommend maybe starting a process where a part of your littlespace is dedicated to taking care of yourself. Reward yourself, but most importantly, get used to the responsibility of self-care.

 

You are asking how to help yourself without a Daddy, you are on the right path (a lot better than some). At the same time your profile says you are 18. So I actually recommend you take the thought of a Daddy out of your mind. Rephrase, even to yourself, "how do I better care for myself?" It is actually quite terrifying when a person says they literally cannot care for their needs because of little space. As everyone said, we are all adults. I know everyone experiences littlespace differently, but if you are on your own, in your own space and being little, there should not be a single thing stopping you from caring for yourself.

 

Typically those in littlespace cant care for themselves when they are scared. upset, intimidated, pressured, etc. If you are by yourself, you shouldn't feel anything like that. And if you do - there is the root of your problem. You must find out why you feel this way because feeling that way is what is stopping your care. But if you don't feel any of those, but more so you just dont care for yourself because you are in a "care-free" headspace... then... well... to be blunt and honest... you need to mature a weeee bit (but I don't think this is your case as you are actively asking for advice).

 

A lot of littles put all of their independence on their Daddies. "I cant sleep without a Daddy." "I need a Daddy to give me my meds, cuz I wont take them otherwise." "I dont know how to do [basic care] without a Daddy." So when there are titles like "how to be little without a Daddy" it is important to remember that you are always a little. A Daddy is someone who comes in and makes Littlespace that much better. But a Daddy isn't the one who is supposed to just clean up the messes. So I would take some serious time in working out self-care for yourself because the last thing you want is to avoid the issue and expect your future Daddy to pick it up.

 

[i am not saying the OP is necessarily going to be like the bad examples I have provided. The wording of this piece just kicked up a thought for me and so I put it down. I sincerely hope I did not offend anyone as that was not my intentions at all. ]

 

I understand. I agree that all littles don't need to depend on their daddy/mummy, as we are still independent individuals. It's just that whilst me and my ex daddy were together, he prompted me to be healthier and get a good amount of sleep. Honestly, even when I'm big, I struggle to go to bed at good times and eat regular/healthy meals, but when I'm in littlespace I start to care less about it than I should be. When I'm big I at least have boundaries. I can take care of myself, it's just that I have a lot of unhealthy habits that probably need fixing. I think i'll start to self discipline and make things like sticker charts etc.. Thank you so much.