Long Distance

[Guest daddy.kai98]

I had a relationship with a little who lives in Virginia. I wanna get back together with him but I’m scared of the distance.

[Maids]

Why are you afraid of the distance?

If you truly want to get back together with him then you'd find a way to make it work.

 

Let these things challenge you and help you grow. Long distance is very difficult but if they are a great person, then it will definitely be worth it.

 

Many couples on here and outside of DDlgforum have fought the distance, challenged themselves, and had an amazing and strong relationship come out of all those challenges. 

 

My Daddy lives in the UK, I live in Canada. He's 5 hours ahead of me and I'm a bit of a night-owl so it's hard to have our schedules match up sometimes... but the distance doesn't make us give up. I was initially afraid of the distance when I first got with my Daddy, but I just remembered how great of a person he is and that was enough to motivate me to make things work.

 

Good luck!

 

             

[Little Illy]

Honestly, read this: 

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/35173-ldrs-the-good-the-bad-the-ugly/
 

If you aren't prepared to put in all the effort, then I don't recommend an LDR. LDRs are hard, they aren't these instant gratifying relationships that make all of the bad go away. LDRs create quite a few drama points on their own.

 

However, if you are with the right partner, all of the bullshit will ultimately be worth it. 

[Guest Prat]

. Edited September 9, 2018 by Prat

[Guest Arc]

If you really want to get back together you'll find a way to make it work. Long distance is hard but for the right person you find ways to make everything work. ^^

[Dominari]

It is true; the LDR can be difficult, but don’t be afraid. In some aspects this can be more difficult than an in person relationship because it takes extra trust, creativity, and an open communication. Let’s take a look at these aspects.

 

Trust: You have to have extreme faith that your partner is doing what they say. Since you can’t really see them. If they say; it is bed time and they are tired…you have to have trust that they are really going to bed. If you offer a punishment believe they are following through with your orders. Keep in mind that the trust aspect goes for both parties. Your little has to have trust and you need to make sure that happens.

 

Creativity: You will need to find ways to create that extra special bond because you can’t show it in the true physical sense of a regular relationship. This is mainly based on descriptive scenarios of how you are showing affection, roleplay, sexual acts, or regular play time. Think of ideas to have fun together; read out loud to her, watch a movie together, color and then share the picture, etc.

 

Open Communication: This is the basis of any relationship. Within an LDR it is extremely important. You need to be open about what you like/don’t like or your expectations, even her expectations. Things happen “IRL”, if that is the case you need to explain it immediately. Both parties should never leave the other person guessing….see “trust”.

 

The world has become so much smaller with social media and the various forms of online communication. Use Skype, Messengers, Instagram, Snap Chat, Tumblr, etc. to stay connected. This isn’t difficult; it just takes a different type of work and dedication to make it successful.

 

Good Luck

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

I had a relationship with a little who lives in Virginia. I wanna get back together with him but I’m scared of the distance.

 

You said HAD, what caused the separation?

 

 

 

However, if you are with the right partner, all of the bullshit will ultimately be worth it. 

 

The right partner is worth ALL the BULLSHIT.  I know speaking from experience. 

[Guest daddy.kai98]

I appreciate all the feedback, we separated because I felt i was never gonna be able to see him. He was my baby boy and he's such a good boy, i miss him and he's worth the struggle. I know now what I have to do. 

[Little Illy]

I appreciate all the feedback, we separated because I felt i was never gonna be able to see him. He was my baby boy and he's such a good boy, i miss him and he's worth the struggle. I know now what I have to do. 

 

I also wanna say... LDR is not for everyone. If you feel like you can't handle the distance or feel overwhelmed at the thought, there is absolutely nothing wrong with avoiding LDRs. I did for a large part of my online dating life. And that is okay.

 

But if you feel strong enough to want to commence an LDR - I am here to say from experience, it is worth it if you truly care for your partner. It is hell with the wrong partner, but it is made possible when you are with the correct partner. Listen to your instincts and go with what you truly believe you can handle. Be honest with yourself. I wish you the best of luck.

[Guest Arc]

I hope it all works out for you. Long distance is hard but it's so worth it for the right person. Just do all you can while you're apart, and make the absolute most of it when you do see him. As much as long distance sucks, the times spent together are amazing. It really teaches you to appreciate living in the moment because you don't have the time to worry about other things or do things that aren't important.