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    #21 Lightofmylife

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    Posted 13 October 2018 - 04:28 PM

    Before I knew about DDLG, all of my relationships has been long distance. I was shy in person and didn't talk to a lot of people. I felt more comfortable dating online than in person.

    Sadly, my past relationships didn't work out. It still didn't keep me from wanting to meet people online because you just don't know how you will meet the love of life.

    I think it depends on the person. Some people can do long distance, while others can't.

     

    I'm sure you will find the love of life online or in person, just have faith.  :D


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    Posted 14 October 2018 - 01:24 PM

    Like pretty much everyone else said, it depends on the person.

     

    I was a bit like you, all my relationships stared online because I just couldn't click in person, the rare few I was attracted to would make me feel so shy and nervous I could never actually get to know them. The couple I got a deep connection in person I couldn't help to see them as brothers... I loved them but there was no attraction.

     

    That being said I did end up wasting time online because sometimes the guy would not be honest, too many married guys or just plain lonely who are not interested in ever meeting in person even if they won't admit it to themselves. So I changed my approach and it made a world of difference! I would give them basically 3 months to meet me in person, starting to mention it after the first month of so. If by month 3 they didn't have a date not too far off then I would either dump them or start talking to someone else so I could start to convince myself to let go. It saved me a lot of heartache but also gave me plenty of time so they knew the real me and I could get comfortable around them more easily when we met.

     

    Funny enough Daddy (hubby) and I were acquaintances online for 3 years before we really became friends online, our friendship lasted a few weeks until it went to flirting and by the month mark we were thinking about meeting, everything moved pretty fast from there. He didn't fit into my little schedule since I never thought he was an option but the timing ended up being about the same. We both agree if we had started flirting from day 1 neither of us would have been ready for a relationship, my biggest worry when we met in person was lack of chemistry because of my weird adopting/friend-zoning habit with guys I had a connection before, but there was fireworks at first sight.

     

    So yeah, I say don't put all your eggs in one basket, if a guy is not ready it's ok to be friends but don't commit until you meet in person. I have been there and it's super awkward if there is no chemistry and you already planned your life together!!!



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    Posted 14 October 2018 - 03:47 PM

    As long as you both put in the effort to make it work your relationship has a good chance. But always remember eventually someone will have to move so you can be in person.

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    Posted 17 October 2018 - 12:36 PM

    Long distance works for me, but you obviously have to end up making plans to meet. There's nothing more annoying then keeping something online and never making the plans to make more out of it all. 

    The only down side to LDR is the fact that you can't be physical when you want to be. 


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    Posted 18 October 2018 - 06:53 AM

    Relation without sex is called friendship.
    Right on the edge of fear was where trust could grow

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    Posted 18 October 2018 - 09:23 PM

    Relation without sex is called friendship.


    I disagree. There are many ways to be intimate with your partner without being able to touch. And many LDRs do see eachother when possible. Besides, sex is not always possible when together either. Nor does sex always mean people are in a relationship.

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    Posted 19 October 2018 - 04:05 AM

    LDR can always work out if you’re willing to make it work! Have faith, and quite honestly, if there is isn’t a future in meeting in person, well you’re just wasting your time! HAve a goal behind a LDR and not just online hats and what not!

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    Posted 19 October 2018 - 07:02 AM

    I disagree. Nor does sex always mean people are in a relationship.


    I agree. :D
    Right on the edge of fear was where trust could grow

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    Posted 19 October 2018 - 12:22 PM

    LDR is a double edge sword. It revolves around trust and commitment from both sides. 

     

    I support LDR, it can work and sometimes, you'll be really lucky if your S.O is the one. Just don't let people bother you. They'll be jealous, they'll have doubts. Not many people will support it, saying it's puppy love. But that has never broken my bond with my little that I dated for 4 years. That I was close to marrying. Hence, faith played its cards, and she ended up cheating on me for another older man. Who was closer and only a few minutes away. The problem with LDR, you never know what the other party is doing when you're not around. But don't be discouraged, I had a wonderful memory with my S.O. 

     

    Just have a goal, reassurance and have a plan to meet one another. Only then could it stay healthy and survive. Living on empty goals and promises will only lead to an unsuccessful relationship. Never let anybody tell you it won't work. Many others have proven them wrong and are living with the person they love. It just depends, how committed you guys are ~  How willing the other party is to accept your schedule. How willing you are to work it out with them and how much you guys are willing to sacrifice. 

     

    But to me, I fully support LDR. Still hoping to find my perfect little one, that I could visit and make her happy ~


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    Posted 21 October 2018 - 04:12 PM

    Like others have said, if you're willing to put in the work it can be successful. I've had two LDR and neither ended specifically because of distance. Online relationships can be just as meaningful and strong as in person relationships.



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    Posted 02 December 2018 - 09:40 PM

    I am currently in a LDR, I've been with my daddy for almost 2 years. While we are in the same country so we can see each other somewhat regularly (I'd say right now it's at least every 6 months), distance can still be a bit of a bummer though. We've had our ups down like any other relationship but the distance can sometimes make things seem worse than they are, but so far we've always made it through. 

     

    So I suppose what I'm trying to say is that it's certainly possible to have a healthy, loving LDR. It takes patience, time and effort from both parties, and honesty and communication are very much important for a successful LDR. I'd also recommend being on the same page for the end game of your relationship. Will you be moving to each other ect.

     

    Keep an open mind to LDR's they can be fantastic!


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    Posted 03 December 2018 - 07:36 PM

    Daddy and I are currently in a LDR. We met on this website in August 2018 and met in person for the first time in September. We have now made plans to move in with each other during June/July/August of 2019. We make an effort to see each other once a month, sometimes more than that if I need it due to physical/mental health reasons. 

     

    LDRs aren't for everyone. I never expected that I would be in a LDR because I am a very clingy, needy, and emotional person. Especially when dealing with anxiety and depression, being away from Daddy is especially hard because he is one of the only people that can help me out of a depressive episode. 

     

    They can work out, but just realize that LDRs don't last forever. They are just a temporary thing for a little while, until both parties are able to commit to living together or move near each other and see each other on a regular basis.

     

    (P.S. Daddy says that he completely agrees and says I'm a "smart little princess"! :wub: ) 


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    Posted 03 December 2018 - 08:18 PM

    Like pretty much everyone else said, it depends on the person.
     
    I was a bit like you, all my relationships stared online because I just couldn't click in person, the rare few I was attracted to would make me feel so shy and nervous I could never actually get to know them. The couple I got a deep connection in person I couldn't help to see them as brothers... I loved them but there was no attraction.
     
    That being said I did end up wasting time online because sometimes the guy would not be honest, too many married guys or just plain lonely who are not interested in ever meeting in person even if they won't admit it to themselves. So I changed my approach and it made a world of difference! I would give them basically 3 months to meet me in person, starting to mention it after the first month of so. If by month 3 they didn't have a date not too far off then I would either dump them or start talking to someone else so I could start to convince myself to let go. It saved me a lot of heartache but also gave me plenty of time so they knew the real me and I could get comfortable around them more easily when we met.
     
    Funny enough Daddy (hubby) and I were acquaintances online for 3 years before we really became friends online, our friendship lasted a few weeks until it went to flirting and by the month mark we were thinking about meeting, everything moved pretty fast from there. He didn't fit into my little schedule since I never thought he was an option but the timing ended up being about the same. We both agree if we had started flirting from day 1 neither of us would have been ready for a relationship, my biggest worry when we met in person was lack of chemistry because of my weird adopting/friend-zoning habit with guys I had a connection before, but there was fireworks at first sight.
     
    So yeah, I say don't put all your eggs in one basket, if a guy is not ready it's ok to be friends but don't commit until you meet in person. I have been there and it's super awkward if there is no chemistry and you already planned your life together!!!


    Well Its good you are screening a bit for liars and people who dont actually care. Personally, I'm focused on finding that right person and even if I should visit another state to meet someone I really click with to me its worth it and I have enough money at least within the States. As it happens this is easier said than done and so I have been meeting as many people as I can both guys and girls but really looking for my future girl.

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    Posted 19 February 2019 - 01:39 AM

    Ldr worked for me but we both entered the relationship with a thought that it would turn into a local relationship, but we didnt have a time table for it. I visited her a few times she had a newborn daughter so her visiting me was a nogo. I honestly dont know what would have happened if my mother hadnt passed away and when she did it took away the last link to where i had lived. Then i moved down to where she lived and two years later we are still together. Idk if you want a ldr to turn local but thats what i have on the subject.

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    Posted 19 February 2019 - 03:24 AM

    Im currently in an LDR. Im dutch and my girlfriend lives in the US. She's coming down to europe in the summer for a few weeks. This definetly softens the "burden" of an LDR, because you have a real date to look forward to. Im planning to move to the US before 2022. In the meantime, i am planning to go visit her either late 2019 or early 2020. We haven't planned anything beyond that. Honestly, an LDR requires so much patience and you really cant forget to make time for yourself.

    As much as i love her, clinging onto your phone 24/7 just isnt healthy. Im a very affectionate guy, but i know from experience, that completely revolving your life around your SO doesnt lead to much good. Live your own life. Do your own things. When you do talk, you'll have a lot more to talk and be excited about!

    Other than that, surprise your lover with a nice voice note, a video message, a heartfelt text.. some pictures..

    And last but not least: be honest about any and all feelings! Be open. Its so fucking important. Communication is more important than anything, especially in LDR'S.

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    Posted 19 February 2019 - 05:44 AM

    I think LDRs can work if there is strong communication and honesty. People need to be honest not just with any potential partners but also with themselves.

    Personally, I'm a very physically affectionate person and that physical, loving contact is incredibly important to me. Having someone physically present to go out and experience life is just too important in my life to entertain an LDR.

    I'm not saying they're bad but for people like myself they arent really a viable option. Meeting a few times a year or even every couple of months just doesn't align with that desire for physical contact.

    Unfortunately, I think there are a lot of people who place being in a relationship as more important than being honest with themselves about who they are and what they want. In those cases I think LDRs tend to fail because they dont fully commit but rather use an LDR as a temporary measure while they look for a physically present partner which isnt really fair to anyone.

    Just my thoughts and 2 cents.

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    Posted 19 February 2019 - 05:49 PM

    I've never dated in person before. I'm a shy and reclusive person and I have difficulties holding conversations. But online my personality really shines. I can speak my mind much more clearly and am much more outgoing. It's due to this that I've been able to connect with my previous relationships. They've all been LD, and personally, for the right person I know I can wait, but as I get older I wonder if I'm wasting my time with trying LDR anymore. Honestly, I feel more comfortable with being introduced online because I can express who I am so much better, and my partner can see my personality at its fullest. But none of them have worked out yet, and I feel I might be wasting my time. I'm told constantly that LDR never work out, but I also feel like I'll never find someone who I can really connect with by traditional dating. I don't know. Has it worked for any of you?

     

    There's plenty of successful ldrs and statistically, the amount of people in a ldr is increasing. Are you wasting your time? That depends on whether or not you're learning anything from the relationships that have failed and growing as a person each time. Are the same mistakes being repeated? If you look back on the failed relationships is there a common theme aside from the distance that ended them? If there is it's likely this same problem will occur regardless of it being a ldr. 



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    Posted 21 February 2019 - 05:33 AM

    It's so refreshing to see people here taking about LDRs in a positive light, I'm in a LDR at the moment and tired of reading all the negative comments about it. Thanks for the fresh outlook
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    Posted 01 March 2019 - 05:45 PM

    It takes effort but it can absolutely work. I was in a LDR with my previous little for around a year before we actually moved in together. Lots of calls, video chats and just chats in general through text can really make the difference. She would often like to get on skype when going to bed just to have me to look at and help talk her to sleep sometimes or read to her. Don't let anyone say that a LDR is impossible to make work. The ending had nothing to do with the LDR aspect, it was just a mutual split.



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    Posted 03 March 2019 - 08:51 PM

    I am currently in am LDR and it is technically my second LDR I am committed to. It's a three hour time difference as compared to my first one; four. And my first one went on and off for about two and a half years and earlier this year we took a break into where it was like us separating but not really saying so. It actually rolled over somewhat smoothly, after all her and I had been through. Anyways I met my current little on Facebook and she is a great cheery and spunky personality fit for me and when we first started talking and getting to know each other I didn't want to be her Daddy for the reason of hurting her by not being completely loyal but last Thursday we are officially dating and all I can say is I know it'll work if you try and I'm getting used to the time she is working or schooling so I am more regular with hitting her up. She has an adorable voice over the phone and such a cute way of talking I love being able to be involved with her even though it's LDR she's special and it's great to be able to really relate with her on alot of things




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