{NSFW, TW} family matters

[Guest Avi]

Im sorry for posting a lot of personal shit on here but i dont have anywhere else to turn to and the few friends i have.. i dont want to confront them with this.

 

My parents have been going through a divorce process the past month. It has been rough for all of us, especially since my dad has been trying to save the marriage for most of it, then when he realized it wouldnt work, turned hostile. It seemed like everything was slowly getting better. My dad found a job and place to stay in another city and they even arranged something regarding to coparenting my sister.

 

Then this evening my mother texted me. My father had attempted to molest her the past weekend. People, the blood that is curdling in me right now.. my mother being exposed to this and im helpless, countries away. On one hand its good, because i would have flung at him like an animal, but on the other, im not there to protect her. Im just so distraught this is all happening. She took it to the police and i hope they take it seriously and dont just wave it off bc "theyre married so whatever" im just so fed up with this fucker that calls himself my father. With this he really lost the last grain of respect i had. I had plans of visiting him once in a while but no. I will fight to make sure my mother gets full custody over my sister and that he never gets near them again.

[SoulEater]

Hi Issa,

 

Firstly I am sorry your going through this, as someone who's father and mother divorced at the age of 5 I can somewhat sympathise with you, even though my circumstance is different (my father had an affair).

 

I don't speak to my father, my mum remarried and is happier than ever. But either a neither here nor there.

 

What I want to say is in my experience courts and police tend to side with the mother, whilst this doesn't help you now hopefully in the long term it will. But in the mean time speak, don't bottle up as that's when things fester and eat away at you. Stay strong and above all love your mother and your sister with all your heart.

 

Sorry for rambling, i do hope it gets better

 

 

》Soul《

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

Yea I'm going to call BS on the whole situation and say your mother created it. Its the number one way of a manipulation tactic to get what she wants. Money and custody (for money)

 

Unless your father admits it on his own free will, then I call shenanigans. This villainization of men without credible proof is ridiculous. (video, self admission without cause)  

[Guest Aetherr]

Yea I'm going to call BS on the whole situation and say your mother created it. Its the number one way of a manipulation tactic to get what she wants. Money and custody (for money)

 

Unless your father admits it on his own free will, then I call shenanigans. This villainization of men without credible proof is ridiculous. (video, self admission without cause)  

 

 

i'm sorry what?

 

if he did why would he admit it, why dont you stop being an armchair detective. we would all appreciate that!

 

 

 

 

op.. i'm sorry to hear that whatever happens its you and your sister that will lose here and that is the worst part

i hear stories about selfish parent or parent who just can't seem to act like adults and its really depressing i have issues with my own father to the point where i am considering if its not just best to refuse to talk to him

my mother passed away a few years ago so he is it. i have been left withe really dark and hostile thoughts towards my own father in regards to how he treat me and my sister

 

i feel your pain and hope my support helps even a little!

[Guest Avi]

Yea I'm going to call BS on the whole situation and say your mother created it. Its the number one way of a manipulation tactic to get what she wants. Money and custody (for money)

 

Unless your father admits it on his own free will, then I call shenanigans. This villainization of men without credible proof is ridiculous. (video, self admission without cause)

 

alright so first off, i know this reply is a little late, but i basically buried this thought in the back of my mind and just now found this thread again. this isn't bullshit and my mother isnt trying to get money. hell, she has Consistantly made more than him in the past 20 years. not only that, but i have witnessed him being inappropriate countless times, but what was i gonna do? this man intimidated me and i thought this was just how things worked. my father knows no boundaries and acts like a child when his needs arent met. the only thing that my mother gains from divorcing him, is being safe and creating a safe environment for my sister to grow up in. my father wont admit shit on his own free will, because he believes that as a man,he is entitled to "his" woman.

[Guest Avi]

alright so first off, i know this reply is a little late, but i basically buried this thought in the back of my mind and just now found this thread again. this isn't bullshit and my mother isnt trying to get money. hell, she has Consistantly made more than him in the past 20 years. not only that, but i have witnessed him being inappropriate countless times, but what was i gonna do? this man intimidated me and i thought this was just how things worked. my father knows no boundaries and acts like a child when his needs arent met. the only thing that my mother gains from divorcing him, is being safe and creating a safe environment for my sister to grow up in. my father wont admit shit on his own free will, because he believes that as a man,he is entitled to "his" woman.

hey, first off, sorry for the late reply. i kinda just didnt look back at this thread for some reasons. i just wanna say thank you for your support. your words speak volumes to me and it really means a lot. i have quit replying to my fathers messages alltogether and i will see him soon as ill be moving back home. I'll see how that plays out. again, thank you for your kind words.