Not sure where to post this ... need advice

[Hearteyes]

So. My daddy is very loving and caring and worries about my mental health and my happiness a lot.

But sometimes I think he worries too much.

Since being recently married the stress and the change of everything has caused me to put on a bit of weight. Nothing dangerous but enough that I look chubby compared to before.

I really want to go on a diet but daddy says no because I have struggled with unhealthy eating behaviors in the past (I never was diagnosed with anything and ofc I would never go so far as to self diagnose ) but he is worried I will get carried away again. So he won’t let me diet. And he gets nervous about me being alone so he won’t let me go for runs or anything.

So I do some exercise at home and try to eat less stuff and more healthy.

But want to know if anyone has an idea what I should do :

Like , daddies ; would you be mad if your little went on a diet against your wishes even if she was just trying to be prettier for you ?

Or littles; has anyone struggled with a similar situation and how have you dealt with it

[Guest FluffyLittleLilac]

Maybe you should write a letter to your Daddy and write down how you’re feeling about things recently and the stress of being married etc then have a conversation about it, if that would make it easier for you to communicate with him?

 

Also, you shouldn’t eat less stuff. I feel like it is about eating the right portion and having a healthy balanced diet and that includes treating yourself every once in a while!

I feel like you kinda have an ‘’unhealthy’’ mindset about this because you’re equating dieting with being prettier

You should be losing weight for yourself if it makes you happier. Your Daddy will find you pretty whether or not you’re chubby.

 

Perhaps if you included your Daddy more, he would feel less worried about it. For example, having fun, cute date nights like cooking healthy meals together, going on a run together and watching the sunrise/sunset after, cycling in the park etc

Edited October 6, 2018 by FluffyLittleLilac

[Guest Avi]

I know im on the younger side and not in any serious relationship, buuut i might have a good idea, in case you haven't tried this before. I suggest you sit him down sometime in the evening, sit next to him and hold his hands and look him in the eyes. Start off by saying you love him and acknowledging that he is trying to look out for you. Youre looking at the love of your life and he will feel that warmth in your eyes. Tell him this is something you really want to do and is really important to you and you really could use his support in this. Ask him to trust you as his wife. Its okay if this draws tears, that would only enforce the idea that this is important to you.

 

I hope this helps and good luck!!

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

From my own experience-

 

I had a discussion with Daddy about it, and acknowledged any ‘unhealthy’ behaviours he was concerned about, but ultimately that I need to do it for firstly my own self-esteem and then also for health reasons. That if he wants to be able to have a long and healthy life alongside me, then those are the changes I needed to make (i.e. dieting) and not just temporarily but a lifestyle change.

 

I can become obsessive about it myself, but we’ve also talked about the fact that there will always be down periods. And we had been going walking and hiking together to make it fun and something we could do together, but currently that’s not an option. So I, like you, am trying to figure out what kinds of exercises I’m happy to do alone. ^^

 

And for those of us struggling with weight (no matter how big or small) and the concept of diet, exercise, weight loss etc. :

It doesn’t need to be about negativity focused on yourself, it doesn’t need to be depressing or affect your self worth if you find it’s taking longer or you put on a few lbs at some point because you ‘lapsed’. You don’t have to turn into a gym buff, or love exercising every day. You find what works for you, what makes you happy, which foods coincide with your diet that you actually enjoy and all the thing you CAN eat rather than what you can’t.

 

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[baby_k]

He seems bit extremely overprotective but I also got bit worrysome vibe on how you talk of dieting. Thou it is just probably me and my dislike of diets

 

Might be that he sees it like I do thou, so maybe stop talking of diet and loosing weight. It is better if you say ( and think!! ) that you want to have healthy lifestyle, including healthy food and excercise to keep you relatively fit. If you talk on being healthy, he can't say anything really but dieting, eating less, loosin weight, getting obsessed with excercise.... those are really negative things. Also, if you have healthy lifestyle, I'm pretty sure you loose the weight anyhow, even maybe not as fast as with other methods. And in long run it is better to change totally your life style than have those diets, then regain weight, diet......

[Guest Aetherr]

be pretty for yourself, i can tell you now if your daddy loves you he doesn't care what you look like, he wants you to be safe and happy. if you feel like a change needs to be made tell him and let him know its for you and i am sure he will support and help you. never change for another person, always change for yourself

[Guest Babytitan]

I have to loose weight cause of spine so I use special patches from wish that are complete organic, they help with not only weight loss but other things like pain relief and help with metabolism and loads of other things but it’s complete organic so doesn’t have anything that will be harmful to your body it’s a good way to help that’s little bit extra while you do things like walking or ride a bike cause u do those thing s during the day and use the patches during the night while you sleep it has helped a lot so much so that within a week I had lost 5lb and that was while I was still eating junk food!

 

But don’t worry about being cubby I always think of this when I feel down about being plump

When air is hot it expands therefore your not fat your hot!

And think about it this way also being plump means there’s more of you to cuddle which means you get more cuddles than skinny people!

 

Maybe ask for Wii fitness it’s a fun way to loose weight while indoors that way u can excersise and have fun at same time without your daddy worrying about u being out on your own

 

I’ve also started eating a complete vegetarian meal every other day and that seems to have helped also these are just some suggestions I’ve got, i hope this is of some help

Edited October 7, 2018 by Babytitan

[southernbelle]

You've gotta be honest with your partner and tell him how you feel and how important looking / feeling better is, and have an honest discussion about how to do so in a way that's healthy!

 

maybe that means making healthy dinners together, stress eating healthier snacks, or even working out together (at home you can do it in your little space and feel better and safer maybe)