Trapped Little

[LittleNymeria]

Hiiiiii!!!!

 

Guess I'm new here. Would really like to ask for an opinion or maybe some advice from anyone who has experienced or someone who does understand what I am about to share. I have been prompted XD....encourage to write about what I am currently facing. 

 

I recently just found out that I am a Little...Well maybe not recently but there have been signs which I ignored. I am in a 4-year relationship with my boyfriend. He is my first love and crush. Everything was well in our relationship but things start to get a little....unsatisfied on my part. My boyfriend doesn't like it when I behave like a little and has asked me numerous times to act my age (24 this year btw). I wanted to be treated like a Little and I wanna act like one but he won't have it. I didn't even know I was a Little then. 2 years into our relationship, I was "exposed" to it by my friends who were treated so well by their Daddy that it made me so jealous. 

 

That was when I know that I want a Daddy too. I felted so guilty for feeling that way because I am still in love with my BF, but at that moment as well I know that he isn't a DD and will never take on the role as one for I have tried oh-dear-me knows I tried to get him to try things which he wouldn't. I can't and am not satisfied in or outside of the bedroom. I no longer feel the sparks anymore, I still care but its just I no longer feel those butterflies fluttering in my stomach anymore. I wanted to be a Little but now I could feel and see that I am becoming the dominant instead of the submissive in our relationship. I wanted to be able to love cute stuff and gives name to my stuffies without being told off, I want to freely love the colour pink without being told that "You should have grown out of loving pink", I want to enjoy colourful treats and snacks without being told that "You're too old for this". I want to pout and be pampered instead of being told "You're not a child anymore".

 

I don't get to be even a teeny tiny Little of myself that I so wanted to, but my BF could throw tantrums, mood swings and expect to be coaxed by me instead. He wants to be the dominant one in the relationship but could switch 360 degrees when he gets mad. I wanted to be looked after, pampered, petted, cuddles and snuggles. I want to experience stuff a daddy would do to a little and not have to think like an adult( not like totally not think...you know what I mean) whenever I am with him. I want to go into my Little space instead of being the one making the decisions all the time. I just really want to be a Little.

 

Advise anyone? Sorry if I sound needy, I don't get to be needy or clingy at all so I kinda just let go when I summoned the courage to write this.

 

 

[Guest FluffyLittleLilac]

Hey!

 

I’m not quite sure what sort of advice you want because you say you’re unsatisfied in your relationship and you don’t feel the sparks anymore and he’s not willing to let you be act little but you’re still with him.

 

You shouldn’t feel guilty for being a little and being yourself. I think it was impolite of him to tell you those things and even if he doesn’t like it, he could’ve been much more polite about it. I feel like you shouldn’t be pushing him to try things you know he wouldn’t because he just doesn’t sound interested in it.

 

There doesn’t seem to be a solution because you both want different things and that’s okay too.

You can’t change him. You can’t change what you like. He can’t accept you as a Little because he’s not interested in it. You both sound unhappy but you’re still together...? I feel like you shouldn’t be together because you sound like you’re in a dead end relationship, for the sake of just being there.

 

Hopefully other people start commenting more helpful advice.

Edited October 7, 2018 by FluffyLittleLilac

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I am confused, what kind of advice are you looking for? Could you be more specific?

 

It sounds like you aren't getting what you want out of a relationship. If that is the case, why are you in the relationship?

[LittleNymeria]

Hey!

I’m not quite sure what sort of advice you want because you say you’re unsatisfied in your relationship and you don’t feel the sparks anymore and he’s not willing to let you be act little but you’re still with him.

You shouldn’t feel guilty for being a little and being yourself. I think it was impolite of him to tell you those things and even if he doesn’t like it, he could’ve been much more polite about it. I feel like you shouldn’t be pushing him to try things you know he wouldn’t because he just doesn’t sound interested in it.

There doesn’t seem to be a solution because you both want different things and that’s okay too.

You can’t change him. You can’t change what you like. He can’t accept you as a Little because he’s not interested in it. You both sound unhappy but you’re still together...? I feel like you shouldn’t be together because you sound like you’re in a dead end relationship, for the sake of just being there.

Hopefully other people start commenting more helpful advice.

 

I am sorry that I confused you there, just maybe thought I would get some answers that part of me already knew the answer to. And as for why am I still with him is because I didn’t know that I was so unhappy before and I kept blocking or ignoring the signs that has been given that this is not what I wanted. I recently just discovered that I am a Little and I have been one all along my relationship with him and just didn’t noticed. I saw my friends who were with their DD and just thought to myself, have I been in a relationship that is wrong for me and it took me so long to realise. Maybe deep down in me I just want to have some confirmation that it’s alright for me to be a Lottle. Hope that helps clears up the confusion. ^.^

[LittleNymeria]

I am confused, what kind of advice are you looking for? Could you be more specific?

It sounds like you aren't getting what you want out of a relationship. If that is the case, why are you in the relationship?

Sorry for the confusion there. I don’t really know how to say this but, I think I have always been a Little from the beginning of the relationship but I didn’t know right away. And as I mentioned he was my first crush and bf and everything. I only recently just truly embraced the fact that I am a Little and Im starting to realise that this is not something that I pictured a Little would be in.

 

I was just looking to see if there were someone who shared the same situation as I am in. And maybe just maybe hoping to get an answer or maybe a few advise to deal with it. Should I let go? Or if I do let go, am I the one to blame for trying to be myself?

[LittleCelticLass]

You said you discovered that you are little two years ago, that's not exactly recent. You already seem to know what you need to do. You're not happy in your relationship, then you need to decide what a more important: Being yourself, and being little, or being with him, and denying who you are.

 

You can't force him into being a DD, any more than he can force you to stop being little.

 

You asked for advice, so here is mine. Move on. Yes, he's your first love, but that's exactly it. First. There will be others. End this relationship, and spend time building a relationship with yourself, getting to know your little side.

 

Good luck, and best wishes.

[LittleNymeria]

You said you discovered that you are little two years ago, that's not exactly recent. You already seem to know what you need to do. You're not happy in your relationship, then you need to decide what a more important: Being yourself, and being little, or being with him, and denying who you are.

You can't force him into being a DD, any more than he can force you to stop being little.

You asked for advice, so here is mine. Move on. Yes, he's your first love, but that's exactly it. First. There will be others. End this relationship, and spend time building a relationship with yourself, getting to know your little side.

Good luck, and best wishes.

 

Knowing that you’re Little and couldn’t act on it just kinda.....hurts and makes me sad. I have never force him to become a DD, I tried things with him that was never too uncomfortable and I got a strong reject which makes me realise that he doesn’t want to try anything else which I could suggest. I called him Daddy once in the bedroom and I got a weird look and a stern no.

 

And thank you. Thank you. I really smiled when I read this. I just need a little push to tell me that what I am heading towards or doing is not wrong. Thabk you LittleCelticLass

[xBabydollx]

u can absolutely still be a little, but just on ur own. u can take some time alone and watch Disney, eat cute snacks, and everything else. It is clear to me that u know the truth of ur situation, but maybe u don't want to accept it? DD/lg makes him uncomfortable and he wants nothing to do with it. This will not change. Trying to keep doing DD/lg things around him could even make him so uncomfortable and upset to the point that he could leave. u have to respect him and his boundaries by not doing it around him. If u really want a Daddy who will treat u like a little, and give u that lifestyle u desire, u will have to get it from someone else unfortunately. Either u can be little on ur own, don't do little things at all and just stick with him, or u can move on and find ur dream Daddy who can give u exactly what u want. As hard as is to leave, I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't satisfy me, and who can't accept me conplelety for who I am, and I wouldn't want to be with someone who I maKey so uncomfortable by just being myself. You're hurt. You're sad. Is these feelings u really want forever by sticking with him? Having someone he can't satisfy might not feel great for him either. u deserve to be happy and have a chance to be the little u want to be

[Littleone^-^]

HI :3

  So I understand that you still love this person, and I understand how strong love can be so I won't tell you outright to leave him if you're sure that you want to stay with him. But he deserves to know if you are unsatisfied in the relationship. Especially if he cares about you, then he should want to know if you aren't happy. You shouldn't be forced to give up a portion of yourself for someone even if you love them. 

    My advice is to sit him down and tell him exactly why you aren't happy and what is missing from the relationship that is keeping you from being happy. If he cares he will at least be willing to compromise with you. Maybe he'll be willing to give certain things a try or to ease into the relationship you're after. If he won't compromise then you'll at least know where you two stand and be able to decide how to move on from there.

     I will also say that you are amazing and you deserve happiness. Regardless of what he or others might say. We will all be here for you no matter what!!!!!

 

 

[LittleNymeria]

u can absolutely still be a little, but just on ur own. u can take some time alone and watch Disney, eat cute snacks, and everything else. It is clear to me that u know the truth of ur situation, but maybe u don't want to accept it? DD/lg makes him uncomfortable and he wants nothing to do with it. This will not change. Trying to keep doing DD/lg things around him could even make him so uncomfortable and upset to the point that he could leave. u have to respect him and his boundaries by not doing it around him. If u really want a Daddy who will treat u like a little, and give u that lifestyle u desire, u will have to get it from someone else unfortunately. Either u can be little on ur own, don't do little things at all and just stick with him, or u can move on and find ur dream Daddy who can give u exactly what u want. As hard as is to leave, I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't satisfy me, and who can't accept me conplelety for who I am, and I wouldn't want to be with someone who I maKey so uncomfortable by just being myself. You're hurt. You're sad. Is these feelings u really want forever by sticking with him? Having someone he can't satisfy might not feel great for him either. u deserve to be happy and have a chance to be the little u want to be

 

 

I tend to slip into my little space without realising that I’m behaving like it till I get told off and then I snapped back into big me and the realisation hits harder everytime than it has before. I know now what I should do. I just need the little nudge to push me over. Thank you xBabydollx truly thank you much

[LittleNymeria]

HI :3

  So I understand that you still love this person, and I understand how strong love can be so I won't tell you outright to leave him if you're sure that you want to stay with him. But he deserves to know if you are unsatisfied in the relationship. Especially if he cares about you, then he should want to know if you aren't happy. You shouldn't be forced to give up a portion of yourself for someone even if you love them. 

    My advice is to sit him down and tell him exactly why you aren't happy and what is missing from the relationship that is keeping you from being happy. If he cares he will at least be willing to compromise with you. Maybe he'll be willing to give certain things a try or to ease into the relationship you're after. If he won't compromise then you'll at least know where you two stand and be able to decide how to move on from there.

     I will also say that you are amazing and you deserve happiness. Regardless of what he or others might say. We will all be here for you no matter what!!!!!

 

 

I tried talking before, it doesn’t work. Won’t listen to what I have to tell or say and naturally he dismisses me all the time and I always find that to be hurtful and even trying telling him that dismissing me like that isn’t going to solve the problem and it’s just it’s hurting me and still he won’t admit that it’s anything I should worry myself over and I am just overreacting to it.

 

I know that I shouldn’t have waited this long till it’s like that in our relationship. I am so grateful to all of the advice I was given. Thank you so much for giving me the confidence that it’s okay If I choose to be me and it’s okay for me to choose myself for once. Thank you thank you so much.

[Cissy_Black]

Aw! Sweetie! This kindaaa breaks my heart a little! And also resonates with me, vividly as I’ve been right where you are. The only difference is I wanted, want a mummy. I was In a long term relationship with my fiancée, when I realised I was a little. It broke up the relationship, even though she DID try to be a big sister/caregiver. But in the end it didn’t work because she wasn’t interested. It broke my heart realising that the women I loved, could never accept me. She doesn’t understand it and even as my best friend, still doesn’t. It bothers her and makes her uncomfortable even now, after we’re not together. If you ever want to talk you can message me. I felt real pain reading your post, as I could have written it myself. Keep your chin up, being little isn’t wrong. We’re extremely special and if he can’t see it...it’s a pitty.

 

~Cissy

[LittleNymeria]

Aw! Sweetie! This kindaaa breaks my heart a little! And also resonates with me, vividly as I’ve been right where you are. The only difference is I wanted, want a mummy. I was In a long term relationship with my fiancée, when I realised I was a little. It broke up the relationship, even though she DID try to be a big sister/caregiver. But in the end it didn’t work because she wasn’t interested. It broke my heart realising that the women I loved, could never accept me. She doesn’t understand it and even as my best friend, still doesn’t. It bothers her and makes her uncomfortable even now, after we’re not together. If you ever want to talk you can message me. I felt real pain reading your post, as I could have written it myself. Keep your chin up, being little isn’t wrong. We’re extremely special and if he can’t see it...it’s a pitty.

~Cissy

Thank you thank you thank you!! Your words means so much to me. I am sorry that you have to go through with what you went through. I know that it really hurts that they couldn’t accept and doesn’t even seem interested in trying and it’s not that we’re any different from before, it’s just means that there’s so much more of us to love....it’s saddens me that they could never see or love us that way...I truly truly get you!! I could understand what you went through and I could feel it. Thank you so much for giving me the advice. And I would love to be your friend and we could talk and discuss more about it

[Cissy_Black]

Thank you thank you thank you!! Your words means so much to me. I am sorry that you have to go through with what you went through. I know that it really hurts that they couldn’t accept and doesn’t even seem interested in trying and it’s not that we’re any different from before, it’s just means that there’s so much more of us to love....it’s saddens me that they could never see or love us that way...I truly truly get you!! I could understand what you went through and I could feel it. Thank you so much for giving me the advice. And I would love to be your friend and we could talk and discuss more about it

 

Aw I PMed you! I agree sweetie! We definitely have more love to give - being little doesn't mean we're less! It means more! Its a pitty, being little is lonely I realise. I feel completely alone, most of the time and it aches terribly.  

 

- Cissy