Fetlife daddy doms super scary?

[gorebaby]

I've been pretty scared of the daddy doms that approach my dms on fetlife. Its true I'm seeking but those who reach out have all been scary and mean!!! From now on, I'm seeking only here. Has any other littles have similar experiences? And daddy doms out there, what say you?

[Guest Avi]

always gonna have weirdos lurkin them dm's pretty sure it's fairly okay on here. good luck on your search!

[gorebaby]

@Aes True! Thank you!

[Guest Andromeda]

The down side is that people are the same everywhere. The up side is that this is a smaller community, so there's more accountability. Educate yourself about safety and red flags and decide what is acceptable or unacceptable to you.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Another upside of this place is that any creepster behavior can be reported to the mods and they will do something about it.

[baby-sweetpea]

Yes!! I've only had bad experiences with fetlife and the meanie "daddies" that dm'd me. But maybe that's just because it's open to all different kinds of kinks that don't have as much of a gentle side as ddlg? I had a lot of masters reach out to me on there as well. I've found that people are much nicer here so far :3

[gorebaby]

@Andromeda and @Sachita Good points. I like my fetlife account for other things but I wish there was a way to moderate DMs. I much much much prefer this site for DDLB stuffs. I might end up leaving Fetlife until I feel comfortable again or have a CG to help me with it.

[gorebaby]

Ah!! @baby-sweetpea I'm glad I'm not the only one. I think thats probably my problem as well. Plus..... I like how cute this site looks...

[Guest Arc]

I love fetlife and have made many amazing friends and even met a few partners off there. ^^

 

There's creeps everywhere but fetlife will have a bigger population than here because fetlife is so much bigger lol. Also ddlg is a small sub group compared to, well... all of BDSM lol. Fetlife also has more advertisement thanks to fetish and cam models and even youtubers. It's just a bigger site with more exposure, so of course they'll have more creeps. You just need to learn to ignore and/or block the people who are inappropriate. 

 

I've been on fetlife for years and I still love it. There's so many groups and resources for all kinds of things and it's good to get to know your local community. I'm more into the heavy side of kink so fetlife has a lot for me lol. There are a number of annoying people but personally it's a small inconvenience for everything else it has to offer. ^^

 

The forum is definitely more of a community and generally speaking everyone is really friendly and kind. The community feeling here is definitely much nicer than other sites, and we are small enough that the staff can take an interest in everything, which is something fetlife completely lacks (don't even get me started on their useless caretakers lol). So fetlife is good for a broad set of resources outside of ddlg, but the forum is far better for an online community. ^^ 

[Guest Still Me!]

If I were a detective investigating a sex-related crime, fetlife would definitely be one of the first places I would look to scrutinize members. I know, I know, I am instantly pissing people off by saying this but I have read too many profiles on there full of red flags. And this has nothing to do with whether you are into the same fetish or not, it has everything to do with some very questionable personal revelations which some people feel free to reveal on there.

 

One example is the girl who murdered her friend and it was later found that she had posted online that her fetish was to someday get to kill someone. Maybe you don’t consider that a red flag but unfortunately it actually proved to be.

[Guest Babykitkat 23]

FetLife scares me.....but I have met some fellow little friends on FetLife. But as every one says just keep a look out for signs that are red flags. Lots of scary people out there, but lots of nice ones to.

[Guest Alt.Pan]

There are a good many bad apples in the bunch, but I don’t think they represent all the daddies. I met a very sweet Daddy and although we ended things, he was somebody that helped me find who I am as a little❤️.

[Arenvos]

You got good people and bad people on there, but yeah, its pretty scary seeing all of that stuff

[ShortSunflower]

in here so far everyone has been nice n sweet and will back off when told. Which is such a plus,  I haven't tried fetlife because of what people say about it.

[Guest puppies4]

It's been more or less the same for me, there are good and bad guys on there, but it's the same here as well (for me anyways). I do find that I prefer Fetlife though, mainly because there are a lot more people on there in the area. And I find messaging on here a bit tedious, compared to Fetlife. 

[XmochiX]

I deleted my FL account because I found the community toxic. One girl posted in a DDlg group about being sexually assaulted by a Daddy and a lot of people in the group victim blamed her. The other people I encountered on there were trans people, who outright hated cisgender people and said I wasn't actually trans because I had cis friends.

[FloofBall]

I once made an account, I think it was called ''Little llama'' or something. But I had a profile image of a cute pastel llama and after finishing my profile, I already got PM's by 4 different men.

I deleted my account the same day. Not a website for me.

[Daddys-lil--babygirl]

I completely agree

[Laladolly]

Agree.

[Angel24]

I definitely find fetlife to be toxic and to lack a feeling of community, which I definitely feel most of the time on this site. I find that people get unnecessarily rude and attack others on there for no reason.

[AngelLove]

I made a fetlife and was on it two days before I quit, tbh that whole site terrifies me, the people just all seem sooo mean, I thought I was the only one who had these opinions, I’m happy to see I’m not

[Guest DaddyDN]

Fetlife is full of sexual predators.

[Guest SugarNSpiceSam]

I've ran into a lot of creepy and mean Dom's in the past. They expected me to obey them almost immediately and I didn't even know them.

 

In the end I told them I couldn't speak to them anymore. It's good to be picky when choosing the right Daddy Dom for you.

[Mario]

I agree to say Fetlife is a nice place to find informations about all type of kink activities and a good way to understand how some bdsm couple works. Some posts about people thought can be touching.

 

But... i also find it toxic in many ways. I left FL many times and always came back. I left again recently and keep only a few things (if you want to see, go to Marionnettiste profile). The point is i was here to meet a loving person who fits my needs, and i only found 1 in 10 years... Others searching for attractive kinksters and/or with bdsm capabilities (typically bondage stuff ad what i call "eyes-wide-shot-events").

 

The fact is FL doesn't help me to understand what i am, but bring me some nice friends, one of them is very close, and gave me 1 good try with someone. It's better than nothing but i will not expect great things anymore.

Edited November 17, 2018 by Mario

[LittleMissieCND]

I am very new to all of this. I went on there and I am still kind of creeped out by the men.