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    #1 ⭐️little.bee⭐️

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    Posted 06 December 2018 - 06:03 AM

    My daddy only speaks german, and there really isn't much to research for ddlg in german .. just the really really basic stuff that explains what even ddlg means and some random discussions. To be honest I already kind of told him that I want him to be "more of a daddy" but he doesn't get it and told me honestly that its hard for him to research because he doesn't understand english at all. 

     

    Well I'm usually really happy with our relationship but in the past few weeks I'm almost 24/7 in little space and only have little girl interests. And it kind of makes me notice that my daddy doesn't know different varieties of what he could do with me in little space.

    He's always reading me good night stories, acknowledging which toys I wish for, giving me spankies if I was naughty, cooking for me (if I ask him to) and calling me his baby and stuff. 

    I'm thankful for all of that but it leaves me unsatisfied as its always the same... Its not his fault because he already does his best but how do I explain that I want more nurturing/routines/rules?

    And what should I as example introduce to him that would be easy to understand and keep in the relationship? 

     

    I usually never have problems with talking things out with him but that topic really throws me out of little space (especially asking him for strictness) and makes me sad and worried that it might be too much for him. 


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    Posted 06 December 2018 - 08:10 AM

    I can relate to this, i know it is tough, but it takes time. Especially since it is new to them, something that they didn't know could exist. My current caregiver is also new to this, but I know he is trying his best. I went over the things he didn't understand, and pretty much all about littles. He is still getting used to it, although I can still tell he is trying his best. It has been over a month now, and he is still the same, a few things he has improved on. But the only thing it takes is time. After a while he would start to really know and how to d things, and even maybe spice it up;)

    . Sorry if I couldn't help, but the only thing it takes is time and reasurrance. Remind him. 


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    Posted 06 December 2018 - 08:11 AM

    I can relate to this, i know it is tough, but it takes time. Especially since it is new to them, something that they didn't know could exist. My current caregiver is also new to this, but I know he is trying his best. I went over the things he didn't understand, and pretty much all about littles. He is still getting used to it, although I can still tell he is trying his best. It has been over a month now, and he is still the same, a few things he has improved on. But the only thing it takes is time. After a while he would start to really know and how to d things, and even maybe spice it up;)

    . Sorry if I couldn't help, but the only thing it takes is time and reasurrance. Remind him. 

     

    My daddy only speaks german, and there really isn't much to research for ddlg in german .. just the really really basic stuff that explains what even ddlg means and some random discussions. To be honest I already kind of told him that I want him to be "more of a daddy" but he doesn't get it and told me honestly that its hard for him to research because he doesn't understand english at all. 

     

    Well I'm usually really happy with our relationship but in the past few weeks I'm almost 24/7 in little space and only have little girl interests. And it kind of makes me notice that my daddy doesn't know different varieties of what he could do with me in little space.

    He's always reading me good night stories, acknowledging which toys I wish for, giving me spankies if I was naughty, cooking for me (if I ask him to) and calling me his baby and stuff. 

    I'm thankful for all of that but it leaves me unsatisfied as its always the same... Its not his fault because he already does his best but how do I explain that I want more nurturing/routines/rules?

    And what should I as example introduce to him that would be easy to understand and keep in the relationship? 

     

    I usually never have problems with talking things out with him but that topic really throws me out of little space (especially asking him for strictness) and makes me sad and worried that it might be too much for him. 



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    Posted 06 December 2018 - 12:28 PM

    The only way is to ask him and I think you'd be better off sharing your needs with him in adult space.  If you don't ask him outright, he'll never know.

     

    Part of the fantasy/desire of many Littles is having a Daddy who "just knows" what you need. It's fantasy, for the most part.  I'm afraid you have to tell us.  What is a strong need for one Little can be a complete turn-off for another. 

     

    (Also, there are lots of translating resources online.)



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    Posted 06 December 2018 - 04:47 PM

    I think if you're looking for more 'strictness' and you don't really know how to approach it then perhaps you could start small with something that isn't really to do with DDLG as much such as healthy eating, work/school schedule etc; you could go to him and say that you are trying to improve yourself in these areas and list out what you have planned and ask if he would please help you if you start to slip in these areas. It's entirely common these days for someone to rely on their partner to help control their willpower when they are dieting etc; so it would ease you guys nicely into a more strict space without being totally new or incomprehensible to your daddy :)

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    Posted 07 December 2018 - 08:46 PM

    If it's a new concept, I also recommend the idea of strict things like a chore chart, setting up rules that you have to follow, and making sure that they stay enforced. When my Daddy and I started the DDLG concept, we took it really slowly, because we were both so new to the concept. We slowly introduced rules that I had to follow (a bedtime routine, chores I had to complete every day, etc.) and moved more into a set schedule, and we SLOWLY moved into punishments. The punishments (since we are a non-sexual CGL/Little relationship) ranged from time-out to early bedtime, to loss of electronic times. It's a process, just like disciplining a real child. And it takes time to figure out what you are comfortable with, so just be patient with each other. :) And have fun with it!


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