Notebook of aphorisms

[Guest CharlieFPG]

March 7, 2018,

Up to this point I realize, I never really knew the people I used to date. Yes, after over three years of living together or the same amount of time on and off dating you end up bashing against the petty and the worse that person can give, but that does them poor credit. All in all, they weren’t bad girls and are lovely creatures; we all have our flaws and vices in the end.

But the aggravating part is supposing I could really adapt and live with whatever annoying habits a person has. I should have been more selective for the sake of avoiding long struggles with dramatic but inevitable ends.

 

March 6, 2018,

What right does human being to cut short a life? When the creator and all-father gave shape to the world knowing it must end and be inherited. Would he deny existence to man and woman for the sake of the original sin and whatever fault and folly they have? Are the wise and learned humans more far-sighted than the Fates themselves? I don’t think so.

March 7, 2018

After this much time I should not let a woman, most important, a woman located two countries away, condition the way I use my social media, or the way I carry my life.

March 7, 2018

A woman is all women. In the same sense we are all aspects of the creator interacting with herself. Onanistic as it sounds, It’s as good as any alternative explanation. But then, each woman we meet and date is the sum of each women we dated before. As we are conditioned by our experiences and we truly get what we are really convinced we deserve. But also, if you pardon my pseudo-scientific explanation, because energy is never destroyed, but it transforms. The same energy remains in different shapes.

Every human being can be defined and shaped by archetypes; mother, lover, teacher, partner, daughter. Not limited by, but variations on a theme.

March 7, 2018

The success in dating apps is a well marketed profile where you show 5 pictures 400 characters and enhance a great deal of truths. Everyone lies, everyone plays their part of merchandise and that’s how it is nowadays, so you stay current or hit the sack alone. Furthermore, the success relies on numbers as well. You reach profile after profile until a match occurs and you roll a success in finding a person interesting enough and interested in you.

March 7, 2018

People rush into relationships without really knowing each other; they rush to appearances and never take enough time to really meet, understand and empathize with each other. Not that sex should be scheduled for after marriage, but bedding in the first few dates leaves no room for really finding out if you would just really fuck this person after knowing them.

March 2018

Abortion is a delicate topic and both sides are using the wrong arguments, ones that miss the point at best; and debating the wrong way. You must first study and understand about obstetrics, the development of a baby, misoprostol and its effects, levonorgestrel and what really does, in-vitro fertilization procedures, ethics, and rhetoric. Once all these subjects are really studied, empathized and meditated we might be able to come up with an answer.

But most arguments show this is a ‘patch’ solution. Instead of addressing sexual education, violations and actual punishment, and prevention to avoid reaching a stage where we should patch up. Unsure about having children? There are plenty of procedures to avoid childbirth.

None perfect, of course; you cannot expect to tamper with a perfectly engineered method to perpetuate the species, developed and improved by millions of years of evolution.

You cannot expect to indulge in excess fuckery and expect to avoid the consequences. It is about ‘your body, your choice’ indeed when you choose to prevent, take action before a being with a new genetic makeup is generated on the organ with the specific purpose of holding life. This is not a matter of men vs. women, the father has much responsibility as the mother.

This was never about ‘the girls’, as most laws do not really address the wellbeing of citizenry. It is all about votes, moving the opinion of the masses and about where the money goes in the government. It is about divide and conquer, to have society in conflict with themselves to rule it easily.

Feminism is a new merchandise much as the face of ‘El Che’ became posters and t-shirt prints. It moves a lot of money and opinions, mostly kids and gullible people. And the idiots amount to infinite.

The day we discover there are votes and profit to be generated from the womb, the whole abortion subject will be ruled out.

March 7, 2018

Nowadays knowing each other becomes critical. Having a position where ‘abortion’ is not a ‘solution’ for an “unplanned” pregnancy will find a lot of unnecessary conflict with another person that does believe it is a solution. Forcing any side to comply with the other is unfair with all three parties; the father, the mother, and the new being. You need to weed out the people that will conflict with your position to avoid having to battle over your right to decide over what happens afterwards. You need to pick your battles and ensure you spend your energy only on worthwhile people.

March 7, 2018

Assuming sex really lacks consequences is really misunderstanding the whole thing and thinking it to be less than what really is. Oh, it does not have to be complicated, it can be carefree and a good way to grow closer to a loved one and a friend. But it is a rigged game; and careful consideration, along with moderation, is always good as in all aspects of life.

March 7, 2018

I used to think there were a few friends I could share intimacy with, until I realized how much my ideas differ from them.

March 7, 2018

Love is the concept, idea, feeling and symbol most misunderstood. So much, that first we must understand how much we don’t and how incorrect is our comprehension. Then we can try and grasp, and ‘grok’ what love truly is.

March 7, 2018

Polyamory, that composed word; is a concept attempted to be revived from the 60’s and the hippies free love, communal life. Tried repeatedly, it is a concept that fails to address the simplest fact. Human is selfish, petty, limited and can hardly act ‘illuminated’. Monogamy has been, for thousands of years, the most efficient way to perpetuate the species, and prevent the men from killing each other as often for the right to hold a wife and to take care of their children.

Tribal society might have worked previously, but it is unrefined and does not allow for coexistence in the latest social and economic conditions.

Each one has the right to choose the best way to get things done, thought.

March 8, 2018

Never complete another person in your imagination, it does not credit them and it will not go well for you. Do not let imagination plot and project any possibility. Imagination is good for role playing games and writing. Whenever you must make choices or reach a conclusion, always rely on facts.

March 8, 2018

Magic is no different from science. Magic is wisdom and knowledge applied to shape the world around us. To grab the reins of nature to benefit men instead of being harmed by her.

But magic is also a lot like storytelling and reciting poetry. Language shape the way we think. This is elemental semiology. It is the first way we passed on knowledge and wisdom.

This makes the phrase ‘tell the laws of physics to shut up and sit down’ a bit more realistic. I understand that magic works better when everyone has the same cultural context and share the same language.

Furthermore, language is an important tool on the unification of nations.

March 8, 2018

I've been meditating and measuring my words, and those of the article.

So here I am posting something on my wall, not imposing my opinion on someone else's.

Consider the following; one of the known causes for the small presence of women on technology is the lack of motivation of young girls for STEM careers.

Knowing the causes are manifold, there is little a man can do. But there is a golden opportunity for the father of a little girl to help her achieve so many great things.

Faced with the choice of who I should talk about to my own daughter, to motivate her; I have on one hand Frida Kahlo, and on the other hand I have:

- Amelia Earhart, first female pilot.

- Catherine The Great, Empress of Russia, who did the wonderful things explained in this article.

- Marie Curie, Nobel Prize, pioneer in radiation research.

- Alicia Moreau De Justo and Victoria Ocampo, argentine women that fought for women’s right.

- Margaret Hamilton, who developed the on-board program of the Apollo Missions.

- Saint Joan Of Arc, who turned the tables during the 100 Year’s War.

- Lourdes, our own immediate superior, who works hard every day, a person who I personally respect for her dedication; who should not struggle so hard to have position and visibility in an organization such as our employer.

Now, please, I do not intend to tell you how to think, what to think and how to live your life. But I clearly rather talk to my own daughter about the women that fought for equal rights and equal responsibilities by working and assuming the consequences. Women such as those commemorated today, those whose sacrifices allow women to do all the things they can do presently.

Women such as yourself, that work hard, and take time of their lives to make people conscious about the real meaning of this date.

So, this is my space, where I share my personal choice on women that I understand properly represent the spirit of this day. You cannot deny a parent his right to teach what is best for his child.

March 8, 2018

If it is not related to my roof, my bills and plate of food or that of my daughter then it is not important.

March 8, 2018

Oftentimes the winning move is not to play at all. And just let ‘waiting to be filled’.

March 5, 2018

But you see, potty training does not include butt wiping lessons. As a parent, you will be wiping another butt, literally, for at least 5 years, unless you traumatize the child enough to give her OCDs.

You will be also wiping butts figuratively for 21 years unless you make your child hate your guts enough for her to decide to become economically independent the soonest possible and to move out.

Mar 2, 2018

Single-serving friends. We no longer take time to really know people, grasp them, empathize with them. We rush and trample and see the world in our small "black mirrors". And it's a die-hard habit.

Mar 2, 2018

People isn't aware of the depth and reach of their own ignorance and misunderstanding of almost any subject in life.

March 2018

People is mostly ignorant and petty, indolent also. Few individuals are really ‘evil’. Oftentimes they’re just selfish.

March 8, 2018

Debating on internet is tiresome and pointless. You will get angry, feel bad afterwards, end up convinced the other individual is an utter idiot and neither would have learned a thing nor changed their opinions.

March 8, 2018

Adults are actually little children, broken, lonely and afraid, trying to do their best. Clueless from day one to their last breath.

Jan 13, 2014

"Is everyone I've ever met a psychopath?" An essay on why your significant other and friend choices suck, big time. By Dr. John H. Watson

Jan 12, 2017

Tarquin: But you can't make an omelette without ruthlessly crushing dozens of eggs beneath your steel boot and then publicly disemboweling the chickens that laid them as a warning to others. - Order Of The Stick

Jan 2, 2017

Fatherhood is a messy business; as in "I've become a father and all I've got is this bag of used diapers". Anyways, there is nothing that plenty of water and bleach cannot clean.

Sep 29, 2017

'Am I A Good Man?' will always be my favourite rhetorical question

Sep 14, 2017

“Bake and keep baking. Even when you don't want to bake.”

Sep 3, 2017

'Gotta Bake A Little Harder'

 

 

Aug 22, 2017

As one of you folks posted not long ago. Truth is, the grass is greener where you water and tend to it. The rest of it is marketing. Also, high chances are, the grass is greener on the other side because is fake.

 

March 9, 2018

Internet, any social network, forum and similar should have two warnings. 'Abandon all hope ye who enter here' and 'Don't take yourself too seriously, you're probably wrong and missing the point anyhow’.

It’s far too dangerous to think what you have to say is important, so don’t take anything personal on the internet.

 

February 4, 2018

> 2016 : Realistic sex dolls
> Also 2016: scientists are working on a machine that can hold and keep a fertilized egg until it grows and is mature enough for birth
> 2017: Sex bots
> 2018: Sex bots now clean and cook
> 2020: Sex bot module now can hold an in vitro fertilized egg that can be carried to birth

 

March 9, 2018

Always give margin for another person to show and prove they’re interested. Don’t rush in. At best you can learn from them and the time they take to do things, at worse they are slow.

In any circumstance, a second thought is a thought too many on any subject or person.

 

The Library

“I stood there before the library. All those books I've read, I'm reading and I will read, started to read me.”

 

February 2018

Bring to the World the beauty you would like to see in it.

 

March 9, 2018

In the great City of Hagia Alexandra, sex between two (or more) individuals capable of consent had many shapes and arrangements. Consent was not only a fact of being physically and mentally mature, but also capable of assuming the consequences of getting your sword in the chalice of another person.

Individuals were encourage to set their own rules, as long as everyone involved agreed on those same rules. But two things were also required, moderation and discretion. Usually moderation did a great deal for the discretion part. If it did not involve directly another person, there was no need for them to know about the intricacies of the agreement between the concerned individuals.

In the circumstance said individuals decided to make exotic displays in public; outside the baths, gardens and houses specifically designated for such purposes. The Civil Arbiters were forced to step in and lock the offenders. No one wanted that; the Arbiters enjoyed the life of a well-ordered society and had little work to do except to look attractive in uniforms.

In case the offender decided to repeatedly break the order imposed, the clergy had by force to denounce them, and exile was the consequence.The clergy of Hagia Alexandra was often, busy reading, debating, writing and living comfortable undisturbed lives.

As every large city in history, everybody was busy minding their own business and having anyone shake their bare asses on the street was both unsavory, and unnecessary, interrupting the normal flow of transit and train of thought of every other citizen.

 

March 12, 2018

One hard lesson ahead of my peers.

 

March 12, 2018

In the City-State of Hippolyta, women held power in a very particular way. Certainly their hard working partners, mostly miners, lumbers, masons, and other risky professions essential to any colony were ‘heads’ of the household. But a ‘head’ could hardly go anywhere without the ‘neck’ full consent.

The opposite arrangement was also present, and there was no shame on a man running a household, where the woman still had the last word. This was deemed fair and equal. Mostly because hard-working men were easy to sway with the idea that doing otherwise but what was told would result in ‘no dinner’ for them.

And because really tired men had no will to argue. Most of them wanted warm food on the table and a warm body on bed.

It was also customary for a ‘Prince’ of Hippolyta to always be a woman, and the prince-consort, man or otherwise to be the administrator of the estate and subject to high expectations on regards of physical state and appearance.

Once or twice a year, all adult women went on the deeper parts of the woods and drank, fought, ate and cursed at will; sex was also part of the custom. But no one ever mentioned anything about said customs or against it, this is also thanks to the ‘no visible marks’ policy. The morning after all women were seen, besides their husbands and partners, wearing their mantillas during the morning service of the Imperial Cult.

Women arranged marriages and other important matters while men worked hard, spend a couple of hours and a few coins at the local bar after their shifts drinking ale and watching blood-sports. And arrived on time for dinner.

Once a woman reached maturity, she could choose with whom, when and how to marry and have children. This was also true for all humanity, but on Hippolyta a young woman had to negotiate with her peers and elders for the partner of her choice among the available men. They could also exchange partners through extensive negotiation and exchange of favors and commodities.

Men saw the wisdom of this arrangement and decided not to intervene. The only reason a man would had to mind any such matters is on the case where a maladjusted male decided to beat or abuse his wife and children. In such cases, the offender party would be dragged, die a long and painful death and disappear from records without further questions. The cases of violent women were also dealt promptly by her peers.

March 11, 2018

I lay awake on bed with my daughter asleep right next to me, so small and fragile. I saw our reflection on the elevator’s mirror and I keep asking myself. Am I a good man? am I a good father? Did I make the right choice?

March 15, 2018

RAH is right, sex should not be used to hurt people, to condition them. It should not be just to ‘get off’ with a complete stranger. Sex should be good, happy, should be made with people that really wants to be with the other individual and enjoy pleasure. Sex should be something made between people that feels attracted physically, emotionally, mentally.

It should be friendly. There should be no ‘ragefuck’. No neurotic need to control the other. No compulsive need to fill voids with sensation, pleasure and company.

- CFPG