Military

[Hiscrazy2018]

I am wondering if there are many military spouse littles here? My daddy is going back into the navy and I'm having a really hard time figuring out how I feel. I was hoping maybe there may be someone else who's already been through this or going through this atm that can maybe help? I've never been away from where we are now, ever... I know I am definitely scared... plus we have a daughter too and ugh!! What do I do???

[RavenclawPrincess]

Me!!! And I’m a parent too! My daddy is leaving for warrant officer school soon and he will be deploying immediately after so it’ll be a long chunk of time that he’s gone. I haven’t had to move away from our home because of his military career but I know the life as far as other related situations are concerned. Feel free to reach out to me anytime you need a friend to talk to.

[DaddysLittleMiss]

Me too, and mine has been deployed since May. I haven’t done the “military move all the time” thing, but I’ve been through deployments. Yes, it’s hard and scary. It’s also doable. Even as a little. Even with kids. (I have 4 teenagers now) How old is your daughter?

 

Can you share what you are scared of? Is it the potential moving to new places, or possible upcoming deployments, etc? I know there are lots of resources for military spouse life...... very helpful support tools.... but as far as “little” support in a new place or while he’s away..... I’m new to the “official” DDlg world, (although I’ve been living it unknowingly for several years) so I don’t know much about what’s available in that regard. How do you experience little space? Do you go super deep? Is it something you can control? I’m asking because understanding your needs as a little will help you (and others helping you) find solutions to get through the hard parts

 

Thank you both for your service and sacrifice. And you WILL get through this, and it WILL be okay. Even though it’s super scary and hard sometimes, you will be okay.

[Hiscrazy2018]

Honestly, everything about this scares me. I've never left my hometown further than maybe 30 mins away and that was a disaster. My daughter is 11 and she's very emotional about all of this. I am more scared for her than I am for me. The idea of moving away from our family and home is definitely scary for me but I know that I will find ways through it. But the idea that daddy is going back into the navy and all the job titles he has looked at will have him attached to a ship and gone for extended periods of time leaving my daughter and I alone to figure it all out... I just feel like I'm being thrown to the wolves without any backup and that scares me so much.

[Hiscrazy2018]

As far as little space, idk. It just kind of happens... especially when I'm stressed out of scared. I just want my daddy to hold me and make it all better. I don't want to adult so I just end up slipping into it. I also have depression and anxiety badly so that does not help at all. Daddy is usually pretty good at communicating with me about everything in our lives but this has been one big jump that we are having a hard time with... I feel like he made his decision and I'm just supposed to go with it. So I've got a lot of emotions to get through with this whole experience...

[DaddysLittleMiss]

Aw, sorry..... that is so hard. Maybe trying to keep a mindset of you and your daughter having a chance to get closer and have adventures exploring new places or activities together might help ease the helpless feeling. And depending on how “little” you go, maybe you could have weekly “sleepovers” where you rent kid movies and eat “little” food, and do activities that you enjoy in little space..... as something to look forward to and to support your little needs with a purpose so that part of you isn’t neglected. Also, once you are in it, there are lots of resources available to help you, definitely take advantage of them!

 

I’m interested to see what others who are more familiar with being little while “flying solo” (i.e. single or in long distance relationships) chime in with. Best wishes to you and your family!

[Hiscrazy2018]

@daddyslittlemiss we kind of already do that and it seems to help a little bit. I know it wont be easy but any suggestions are definitely appreciated

[Hiscrazy2018]

And what kind of resources? I'm really curious about that

[DaddysLittleMiss]

The military resources I am referring to are things like the FRG’s and Ombudsman and different kinds of spouse support groups/actvities where you get to know other people who are going through the same things as you, or people who have gone through it and come out the other side. I expect his command staff should be able to point him/you toward information about what might be available where you’ll be.

 

As far as support for your Little side..... all I know currently is what I’ve found online. Hopefully someone else will have better input. I’m sorry I couldn’t be more helpful

Best of luck!

[Hiscrazy2018]

Honestly anything helps. I am going into this whole thing blind but am willing to stand beside my hubby/daddy in his decision. Its a scary thing to think about but till death do us part right? Lol

[human16]

herro, my daddy is in the navy and i met him 3 years ago and hes been mine ever since. i dont have any kids so i cant help on that aspect but i know how having a military daddy is. im always here to give advice, talk to, or just listen. ive been through 1 deployment and multiple underways

[Sweetieheart]

Not a spouse (Yet!) But my Daddy/ Fiance is a Marine. It's harder, of course, being away from him. But we video call whenever we can, and he has me keep a sticker chart to monitor my behavior, and stuff like that. He got this stuffed animal for me, a bear that talks with his voice (a prerecorded message and him reading my favorite story) when I press on it. That makes me feel a lot better when he's away. Maybe you could get one for you and also your daughter?