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If your caregiver/daddy went away for a couple days and said that he wouldn’t be able to talk, don’t you think he would worry about his little a tiny bit? I just.. I don’t know. He hasn’t even asked me if I’m okay or anything. I guess read the title now.
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Your caregiver told you exactly what to expect and you ARE in fact an adult so personally I'm not really seeing a problem here on that end of this scenario. From a grown up state of mind that's totally fair. I can relate to feeling sad or insecure about it though on your end, especially if you're feeling extra little. Maybe you could color your CG some pictures or make crafts, things like that to give you CG as gifts when he gets back so he knows you missed him lots! My daddy is away quite a lot so I do things like that to keep myself occupied when I can't interact with him and it makes me kinda happy because I'm still doing things for him when he's gone. You know?

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Just because we are CGs that doesn't mean we are accessible 24/7 for our littles. As Raven pointed out, you are an adult. He gave you a heads up and what you're feeling now is the disconnect. He isn't doing anything wrong as he communicated with you. Of course he is probably wondering if you're okay, he may be gathering stories to tell you. But at the end of the day, you two are in an adult relationship and I don't see anything wrong with what he did.

Now if the days stretch on and on without any word, then start to wonder. But I wouldn't worry about that. To be honestly, I think you are overthinking it. And instead of getting upset, you should maybe do something that shows your Daddy how much you missed him. I'd always encourage my previous littles to watch their favorite movie and try to write little stories about each character to keep her occupied if I had to be away. Maybe do something similar or color something, write him a letter, etc. Channel that energy into something productive vs sitting and worrying.

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Hiya!

 

I’m sorry you are feeling this way, and I just want to start off by saying that what you are feeling is totally valid. In my opinion, if my Daddy said he wasn’t going to be around for a couple of days and wouldn’t be able to talk, my first question is: why? You at least have the right to know, because the most fundamental part of a relationship, communication, isn’t there.

 

Now, I don’t know the situation or what your Daddy told you he was going to be doing that he wasn’t going to be able to talk, but it takes 5 seconds to shoot someone a text right before they go to bed. Or if they are in the bathroom they could send you a quick “I love you”, or if they are brushing their teeth they can type, “How’re you doing?” So, the “I’m not able to talk” thing doesn’t work for me, personally.

 

But, I understand that CG’s can’t be accessible all the time, but saying that you aren’t able to talk for a couple days is not okay, at least in my opinion, especially without a reason why.

 

Anyways, thanks for reading, and I hope this helps.

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

 

P.s. My Daddy agrees with me. He wanted me to say that.

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Everybody here has already delivered excellent advice (mainly that he DID communicate this to you before hand) so I just though I'd sure my own experience: When my Daddy went away on holiday once he had at least 30 hours of travel followed by a day or so of settling in as well as the fact that the area he was in possibly had unreliable wifi. Then couple this with a HUGE time difference and I wasn't sure when or if I was going to hear from him which was incredibly worrying but I reasoned with myself, wishee him a good trip, and said it would be good to hear from him as soon as he could but reassured him that it would be ok if it wasn't for a while (as I knew that he was worried that I would worry if I didn't hear from him). After a view days I eventually did hear from him and then once he got back I got to hear all kinds of stories and open souviners he'd gotten me but my favourite part was him showing me photos he'd taken of things that he knew I would love because it showed that he'd been thinking of me the whole holiday, so yeah try not to get too discouraged and remember that he is probably just as sad about not being able to talk to you as you are :) Also there are MANY reasons why he may not be able to talk for a few days- lack of cell service, lack of wifi, air travel etc; just saying.
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If your caregiver/daddy went away for a couple days and said that he wouldn’t be able to talk, don’t you think he would worry about his little a tiny bit? I just.. I don’t know. He hasn’t even asked me if I’m okay or anything. I guess read the title now.

 

I can only echo whats alredy been said  here above    and ad     try to relax dear.   He will get back to you and he has  also  informed you that he  wont be able to  communicate with you this   specific period  B) 

 

So i in answer to youre question YES  dear  youre overthinking  this  ;)        

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I do want to add that Junebug is right about you having a right to know WHY he won’t be able to talk to you because that’s part of communication and you knowing what’s going on. I gave my advice based on the fact that my daddy is in the military so when I can’t talk to him it’s for a good reason and I know that every time there’s a disconnect with us staying in touch when he’s on orders. We all tend to give advice based on our own experiences and fill in the blanks (whether our assumptions are right or wrong) when we don’t know the whole story.

 

If your daddy is on a business trip or is in an area where he doesn’t have good reception (there are other good reasons too) then I think it’s safe for you to assume that everything is totally fine. If that’s the case try to keep yourself busy and find ways to show your daddy that you were thinking of him while he was away. My daddy is always super proud of me when he has military obligations and he doesn’t have to worry about me because he knows I’ll hold down the fort in his absence, which is extra nice when he gets home because I’ll get extra attention and rewards for being a good girl for him while he was away.

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Idk as a cg myself there is not many place where I would have absolutely no way of contacting my little. I may be busy with work or something but I’d try to find a way to at least get a good morning message and a goodnight message to her. I know he said no contact but still send a message and if it doesn’t go through hey I tried. To me no contact is just being lazy.
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I can certainly think of a few reasons no contact is a possibility. Think camping, sailing, international travel in remote regions, kayaking trip, taking tree pollen samples in the middle of an old growth forest, power outages, etc.

 

A heads up is completely different than suddenly disappearing. I would say it is likely just a case of missing your Daddy and over thinking it. As other have mentioned, keep yourself busy. I suggest pampering yourself with all the spa treatments you can. Deep condition your hair, give yourself pedicure, make sugar scrub and have a delicious shower.

 

Hope that helps!

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