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Hiii so my daddy and I video-chatted today for like the first time, (we might have done it before but not sober, but i dont think so.) but I accidently called him on instagram and he picked up, well lucky for me my hair wasnt done and he seen the worst possible angle of me (I had like 3 chins and im very self-consious). I then offered for a redo but still didnt wanna show my face and everytime I did i felt like i was just making it worse, I couldn't look decent for the life of me. He says its "fine" and didnt like the way i reacted because he says its okay, but I think the opposite, I had anxiety about making a video call with him hence why we haven't did it and now I feel like i just ruined his expectations, and now I just feel awkward and yucky. I know I shouldn't be so worked up over it but I am and I dont know what to do, I told him I wanted a redo but I just want to forget this whole day and go back in time but its too late now :(. I know there isn't anything I can do but is it okay to be this worked up or am I just being silly? I just wanted to make a great first impression and I dropped the ball on this one. 

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Hiya!

 

So I first want to start of by saying what you are feeling is totally valid and you shouldn't feel bad for feeling the way you do.

 

However, I think you are doubting what your Daddy says when he says that it's fine. You have to remember that we all are human and we all won't look great all the time. So, yes, obviously it's not ideal for him to see you when you aren't looking your best, but there are going to be a lot of times when you aren't going to look your best.

 

I think you might be overthinking this a little bit, but hey, that's my opinion. If you need a redo because you feel self-conscious then go for it if it will make you feel better.

 

Best of luck!

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

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Talk to your person about how you feel, communication is key to any and all relationships and speaking from experience in anxiety it does help at least a little if anything. Hug a stuffie if you have one, turn on some music you like and color (I suggest Colorfy, ColorME app on phone) , remind yourself its okay...its not your last time talking and video chatting, you can make it better next time! Remember imperfection is what makes perfection! 

I hope that helped, feel better :) 

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Guest Mr Mister
Hey ya. I can understand your anxiety over the "first impression" but if your daddy says he doesn't mind I would believe him.. my little is self conscious and doesn't belive she is beautiful, but in my eyes she is an absolute stunner.. besides, even if he didn't like your first impression, if he can't handle you looking at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your looking best..this could also be seen as a good thing.. If he's seen you at your worst, it can only get better from there right?
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Hiii so my daddy and I video-chatted today for like the first time, (we might have done it before but not sober, but i dont think so.) but I accidently called him on instagram and he picked up, well lucky for me my hair wasnt done and he seen the worst possible angle of me (I had like 3 chins and im very self-consious). I then offered for a redo but still didnt wanna show my face and everytime I did i felt like i was just making it worse, I couldn't look decent for the life of me. He says its "fine" and didnt like the way i reacted because he says its okay, but I think the opposite, I had anxiety about making a video call with him hence why we haven't did it and now I feel like i just ruined his expectations, and now I just feel awkward and yucky. I know I shouldn't be so worked up over it but I am and I dont know what to do, I told him I wanted a redo but I just want to forget this whole day and go back in time but its too late now :(. I know there isn't anything I can do but is it okay to be this worked up or am I just being silly? I just wanted to make a great first impression and I dropped the ball on this one. 

 

Tough love coming your way! 

 

Get over yourself! Seriously. If I had your mentality I would be... not here. 

 

If people don't like you then you shouldn't care. If you don't like yourself then change whatever it is that you find undesirable. It is really a simple algorithm to life!!!!

That being said, even simplicity takes extraordinary amounts of effort to complete. Don't be lazy, and certainly never give up even when you have nothing else. 

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Guest Aetherr
I think you are over reacting a fair bit, it's okay to hate your own body, it's motivation to improve and I know it's easy to say "love yourself and people will love you" but it's true, you shouldn't beat yourself up over a body you didn't choose, and if your not happy with weight or whatever else, go diet and hit up the gym there is honestly no point wishing you had something you never had and won't ever have and there is no point being upset over your body when you can easily lose bulk at the gym with some determination and perseverance... if you daddy says it's fine you should take it, he wants you not some filtered dolled up version
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This is what I have always told my littles:

 

If someone doesn't like you at your worst, don't even bother with them. Is it worth being with someone where you have to be "On" all the time? Someone who can't see you without makeup or with your hair a mess? Someone who can't handle you when you look tired or sick? No, not at all.

 

If you are going to be with someone, why not show them the worst side of you? Why waste time if all they want is a painted doll who is perfect 24/7? Its just not possible. So if someone is realistically okay with you being "not made up" then listen to him. Because he may be the one who will love you when youre puking, depressed, on the toilet, etc. 

 

I get wanting to make that first impression super duper special. But sometimes the not so great first impressions are even better. Dont cry over it, laugh about it with him! "Oh my goodness, look at my chins?! I swear I only have one, I think two snuck up on me during the night!" and then adjust the angle. Hair a mess "how do you like my medusa impression??? :p " and so on.

 

Give yourself a bit of slack and realize sometimes those goofy moments can help you weed out the jerks from the men who will care for you. If he says its okay, listen to him, even if it is really hard. Let one of you enjoy who you are.

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Think about it this way: you think your daddy is super handsome/hot/gorgeous always, right? Even when he has bed hair, hasn't shaved, has wet hair, is viewed from a funny angle, etc? Imagine your daddy looking completely awful, like he hasn't slept in a week or is ill and throwing up over a toilet. And he was worried you wouldn't like him anymore. You'd reassure him it was fine, you still love him, it doesn't bother you, right?

 

He just feels the same way about you. To him, you'd always be beautiful no matter what.

 

 

Let me tell you a story. Shortly after my parents started dating, they went on a trip somewhere and my mom ate something that disagreed with her and she ended up having diarrhea back in the hotel bathroom. She was SO embarrassed because her hot date could hear her farting and everything. But he was just concerned for her wellbeing and this spring they will have been married 30 years. The idea that women always have to be 100% pristine or men won't like them is not true and, in my opinion, mostly an advertising gimmick. If he loves you, he will not be bothered by you not "looking your best".

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Guest Urthurs

Well did he abandon you after this "incident"? No. So it's obviously no big deal.
You say you blew the first impression, but then you don't want to show him what you actually look like? That's just silly.

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