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Well I have not had a little yet, thought if I did, one thing I'd really be into is teasing or orgasm denial.  For very minor infractions, having a little rub themselves but not cum for a little bit would be enough, I think.  For something a little more serious, a slightly longer teasing session while a little is tied down or otherwise restrained would be in order, again with them not being allowed to cum for a little bit.  For things that are major, perhaps a chastity belt would be in order if say a little were to full out cum without permission.  How long the belt would stay on would depend on whether the cum was accidental or intention and how many (If more than one) she had.  I also wouldn't be opposed to placing an egg vibrator inside before placing the belt on.

 

Of course, as Josh said above, the punishment would have to fit whatever a little was being punished for.  What I've stated above is not absolutely set in stone, and punishments would be decided on a case-by-case basis, of course.

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I've used spankings and writing lines so far but hope to also implement orgasm denial/teasing and maybe a time-out of some type.  As above, punishments fit the crime and first/second offenses are always more lenient.

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I agree with "punishment fits the crime" but I don't like to have sexual punishments. For me, sex and spankings and cuffs and collars are fun, and punishment is not fun. If she's in trouble, she's in trouble, and there should be nothing enjoyable about it for her. 

 

But my girliephant is generally well-behaved and I don't need to punish her often. Usually I'll take away a privilege, like Daddytime or her DS, for a set period of time - no matter what kind of eyeballs she gives me. She was being very badly behaved while we were grocery shopping together, so her punishment was to do the grocery shopping herself. That kind of thing. 

 

I actually take my cues from those Nanny 911 shows when we think of rules and punishments. They have to be reasonable and consistent. I won't punish her for doing something she didn't know wasn't allowed to do, or didn't know went against one of her rules (since "Be respectful to Daddy" is one of her rules and that can mean different things to different people.) I explain to her why what she did was wrong and make sure she knows what she's being punished for. 

 

Of course, this does not cover the minor "infractions" with predictable responses - trying to run away during a spanking leads to getting spanked harder, of course. 

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My Kitten doesn't enjoy Pain ( she's not Masochist) so i use my Crop (named "Vilaine",) if i need to, 
I also use bare handed spanking for minor infraction.

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But in fact  I don't punish her often for two reasons : 

 

  1. She's well behaved,
  2. And she already feels bad to have failled, (because of her anxiety)So i'm more willing to take care than to punish, So i punish only if needed.
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Punishments must always fit the crime and can (as seen above) be very specific to the couple and dynamic. My punishments for my little are either ones I have stored in my head for in the moment immediate punishment, somethings she does have set agreed consequences (not all bad these ones are funishment type) and then when she does something terrible I find terrible punishments bursting into my mind for her. 

The worse ones work well and sometimes I tell her what will come next as further deterrent 

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Carrying on from MrRider, my Big...

 

There are a few punishments we have discussed which I dread the thought of. I know which rule I'd have to break to get them, and so it's a really effective deterrent from breaking that rule.

Like he said, we also have a few funishments which can come immediately. If I'm very cheeky, or tell him "you suck", I know what his response will be. Hence, I'll sometimes do those on purpose hehe.

He knows which punishments I like the least, and can save those for worse behaviour. That has just come from experience. He also knows which rrequire more aftercare, so can pick the best for the time we have.

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While the more direct punishments for things more severe makes sense (Spanking, Whipping, Etc.)

 

I feel for small things it's best to take other routes, like take away little things that she normally enjoys. If she talks back it seems fitting she can't have any treats for the rest of the day, and disagreeing means she's not allowed any for awhile more. If she's being bratty about a toy let's say, then she doesn't need to get any new ones for awhile. No fun TV shows or movies, just getting to watch news and public access with me. Even Time Out can work pretty well I'd say. The list goes on.

 

Counters that whole desire to be naughty most of the time since she's gonna get real bored!

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Great Topic Sophie! I often get questions about punishments, as it is a particularly interesting topic of discussion.

 

I actually enjoy punishing my little in a caring/nurturing approach because it makes me proud when she has learnt her lesson! 

 

I use the naughty corner, make her write out lines and apologies, I shall shame her by removing the title of princess for her, but ofcourse when she has learnt her lesson, I remove the punishments and give her the care and attention that she deserves! I am a very strict gentleman whom enjoys humiliation as a punishment, especially in public, as stated previously.

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For myself I think there is a clear difference between discipline and punishment.  Discipline is a training tool while punishment is often a punitive action.  Not that I have all the answers, certainly...  But to me punishment is to be used very sparingly and with a keen eye on natural consequences for one's actions.  One also needs to be aware of giving comfort and reassurance after punishment is over to let your little understand you still love them regardless of what they did even if you hate the behavior they displayed. 

 

Anyways... Just my $0.02...

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I haven't been at this long enough to have a set guideline, I've only given three different punishments: spanking (BEST), Anal play (Fun!), and making her drink her pee (she did not like that one). Spanking is the most fun for me, but it's also the least of a punishment, making her drink her pee was obviously the most punishing but I didn't have a lot of fun with it. I don't know what I'll do in the future.
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I'd like to make a point here in this discussion to perhaps bring an alternative point of view:

 

If you are forced to punish your little there is perhaps one of two things going on in terms of the structure: Either you, as a Big, are being challenged (the rule is being ignored/purposefully rejected) or the rule is not clear enough. Punishment is not something that should come all the time and it should only really need to come into effect if there's a serious problem. If you're being challenged, then punishment changes nothing because the core concern is not being addressed. If the rule is too difficult or is being forgotten, then it has to be clarified.

 

I spoke with Tori about these things and couldn't level out what punishment would go to what and had to say that things would be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. In most circumstances, I believe the "I'm disappointed in you" lecture and lines/essay would perhaps be the best course of action for these type of things. But if a punishment actually has to involve corporal punishment? It's most likely a very serious offense that potentially transcends just being on bad behavior, especially if they're openly challenging a rule.

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I like the different examples and viewpoints in this thread...my Daddy is a brand new one so he seems confused about punishments being 'fun' or actual punishments (like me washing dishes or not getting sweets), and I've told him it's serious. There's things I really don't like, like seeing him use a fleshlight (I get very jealous of it) or looking at porn occasionally (I'm ok with those things in general, I masturbate a lot and have two toys myself but if I'm there I want to be Daddy's first choice in pleasure, I've even gotten much better at blowjobs since I became his Little and can make him cum that way now which I never achieved when we were vanilla), I'm not sure if he'd make those things punishments knowing that. They'd certainly serve their purpose, but I guess we're both confused as to what goes too far with punishments. Then there's spanking. I'm a masochist so I'm afraid that can't exactly serve it's purpose as a punishment either, it would probably just make me wanna act bratty.

I've showed him rule lists and showed him the level system from this thread. He hasn't developed anything yet though, so I'm looking forward to consistency and structure. I keep telling him it's 'his thing', that I should only be so involved. I'd rather him decide it all for himself and have me deal with it unless there's a serious issue; I'm not the one in charge after all.

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I like the different examples and viewpoints in this thread...my Daddy is a brand new one so he seems confused about punishments being 'fun' or actual punishments (like me washing dishes or not getting sweets), and I've told him it's serious. There's things I really don't like, like seeing him use a fleshlight (I get very jealous of it) or looking at porn occasionally (I'm ok with those things in general, I masturbate a lot and have two toys myself but if I'm there I want to be Daddy's first choice in pleasure, I've even gotten much better at blowjobs since I became his Little and can make him cum that way now which I never achieved when we were vanilla), I'm not sure if he'd make those things punishments knowing that. They'd certainly serve their purpose, but I guess we're both confused as to what goes too far with punishments. Then there's spanking. I'm a masochist so I'm afraid that can't exactly serve it's purpose as a punishment either, it would probably just make me wanna act bratty.

I've showed him rule lists and showed him the level system from this thread. He hasn't developed anything yet though, so I'm looking forward to consistency and structure. I keep telling him it's 'his thing', that I should only be so involved. I'd rather him decide it all for himself and have me deal with it unless there's a serious issue; I'm not the one in charge after all.

There isn't really a single rule list you should be showing him. Rules tend to be made up by the two people. Levels and everything else changes from person to person. There is a lot of punishments out there. They all don't need to be physically. 

 

I think you and your Daddy should just talk about it.  :3 

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There isn't really a single rule list you should be showing him. Rules tend to be made up by the two people. Levels and everything else changes from person to person. There is a lot of punishments out there. They all don't need to be physically. 

 

I think you and your Daddy should just talk about it.  :3 

 

I really appreciate that, thank you. :) I'm looking forward to when some time passes and we settle into this...I've spent a lot more time looking into it (I've had to be away from work for awhile for medical stuff; and that's had me on a no-penetration restriction as well so I haven't even had 'actual' sex in a few weeks, I think it's made me a tad frustrated lol hence this rant, sorry) than he has and I don't blame him. I've suggested that the rules and punishments he sets can take a lot from things in our relationship. I eat and love lots of sweets, he can take those away. I have a short fuse with his family, I think rules and punishments against that would help too. Just by reading through this thread again I've gotten a better insight on punishments and their nature as well. I appreciate that you said it can be anything, and that that's the truth. I want structure in my rewards, too!! ;3 

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My main way of punishment are spankings and making her suck daddy. But it must not be working because she gets in trouble on purpose! ;)

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"time out toys" are a great idea for a non contact punishment. Seeing their favorite toy (can be an adult toy, like laptop) put on the top of the fridge or a cabinet while in time out themselves is very effective for some.
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I just spanked my little for the first time a few days ago. It went better than I thought it would. I don't think she could ever bear seeing Silver (her favorite stuffed animal) put out of her reach. Plus she's taller than me, so I'd have to climb something to do that.

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Hi hi my Daddy and I are not a sexual relationship so there is no punishment that involves anything sexual because me as a person just doesn't do anything sexual period. So my Daddy got very old school in "raising me" I have been his Lil one for ten years now and have been in 24/7 for 5 of the last 10... things were very different the first 5 because we were long distance and that meant over the computer and video chat phone lines and vacations. During that time Daddy learned that I HATE did I say hate enough to be made to sit still??? I can't do it never could... well daddy uses this as his first grab for punishment and it can be done anywhere we go... I get told after the count has reached five "go sit down over their" that means to me that I am in time out I have made daddy not happy with me and even though he has always forgiven me for my bad/naughty behavior as soon as he has said one word to me about it I am still in trouble with him...

 

I always end up getting up because I need to touched by daddy. It's not that I am batting him I am a very small little girl who gets very emotional when she disappoints a grownup much less her Daddy this will at times get me into more trouble if I do not go back and sit down when daddy tells me to...

 

I get spanked, I get sent to bed early, or for a nap (even when that happens daddy still puts me to bed lovingly so that I know I was naughty but that he still loves me and that it will be all.better when it's wakeup time)

 

I have gotten lines as well as essays from Daddy on many topics and like some other grownups here Daddy is the one to say how many sentences I have to do and he doesn't do tiny "I will not fib" sentences either... some of his essays required me to do actual research!

Daddy takes away the TV, my DSI, my tablet, phone ,computer the biggest thing he could take is my phone because he knows that I'm terrified to be without a phone on me since the burglary... So when I get put down for a naughty girl nap I am not a happy babygirl! No soothing music to help me fall off its all on my phone since my ipod broke... daddy hasn't took away my colors I think I would have a big temper tantrum if I couldn't coler that would make me so sad inside :( I have also had to stand facing a glass wall in a hotel room one time for refusing to listen to daddy and get ready for bedtime...

 

My Daddy has done the Yuki stick a nasty thingy he made up that goes along with having a enema done when your a naughty baby girl...

 

He's took me home from a store cause the person I was with had a temper tantrum an she got in really big trouble spanked corner time and a naptime! So I try super hard not to be naughty when we're out especially since daddy does spank in his car

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Well my dadda spanks me always 50 times :level one hand level to spoon level three brush level four crop five flat paddle level 6 paddle with holes level seven belt level eight switch level 9 cane level ten spiked paddle
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