At Long Last. [A Wedding Post.]

[Guest QueenJellybean]

hello everyone!

i'm back with a new topic. again.

 

this one is a bit more personal, however.

the giant + i have been together for a really long time.

it'll be 10 years in january. 

we've been engaged for almost three years, but the timing never seems right.

 

we're both out (about sexualities + our polyamory), but a lot of our family members don't accept it 

even though they want to be in our lives still. 

because of this, planning a wedding has been hard. 

additionally, the closest we ever got to actually getting married came crashing down around us 

during a rough time in our lives about two years ago. 

this has been a long road, a long time coming, + we've made a lot of mistakes, but the one thing that hasn't changed

is how badly we want to be man + motherfuckin' wife! 

 

so. 

we're finally getting married!

we're getting married in a quiet, private ceremony with just ourselves + a witness (one of our polya partners)

up in the mountains on our ten-year anniversary.

we decided to stop giving a fuck about other people's opinions regarding the most important day of our relationship

+ stop depending on other people to make our day special + just make it about ourselves. 

i don't want the memory of this day to be riddled with people who might not be in our lives in a few years or hostile stressors.

but, 

now that i'm not inviting the world or planning a menu, 

a lot more unique planning options have opened up. things we never considered before!

like working bits of BDSM/our D/s relationship into our wedding ceremony,

or writing our vows in whatever terms we want, 

or even doing a collaring at the wedding (omg how cute would that be?)

 

anYWAY.

what i'd like is for married couples to chime in on how their weddings were (if they were kink-friendly, etc.)

or how they wished their weddings had gone/what they wished they could have incorporated.

or! for the unwed to tell us what their dream wedding would look like!

give me ideas!

[Guest Naturalselectionissexy]

I think summitting one of the tallest mountains in the world would be a wonderful place to do such a thing. It would take both of you to make it up and both to make it down. A true partnership proven both directions.

[Guest BohoBaby84]

Congratulations to you and your the giant!  That's happy news and it seems like it's been a long time coming for you both. 

 

I love this topic because I'm getting married to the most amazing man ever next year!  We're planning on doing a simple ceremony with witnesses and then having a more pagan wedding, or handfasting, where we can invite friends and family.  I hadn't considered bringing our Cg/l relationship into our wedding because the dynamic is there all the time so it's not something I think about apart from our relationship as a whole.

 

We both want to get married outside in a woodland area with close friends and family present.  I know we'll be writing our own vows.  That's about all I've thought about thus far but it's only been two weeks since we got engaged!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I think summitting one of the tallest mountains in the world would be a wonderful place to do such a thing. It would take both of you to make it up and both to make it down. A true partnership proven both directions.

 

it's ironic that you say this because we are absolutely planning to climb the mountain instead of using a tram

because the first time we did that particular mountain, the tram was busted due to weather to we had to climb it in the rain.

 

i really loved that moment.