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I'm kind of weirded out...


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Ok so the thing I am weirded out by is actually my own fault.

I grew up calling my biological parents Mummy and Daddy and due to some bad things happening in my life, I never stopped calling my father Daddy. Honestly at this point I feel like me changing that would hurt him and so I kind of don't want to do that. Just to make things abundantly clear, my relationship with my father is not inappropriate and in no way sexual.


So as you can imagine I am into DDLG and I like calling my boyfriend Daddy.

However, in my mind there are vastly different feelings behind me calling my boyfriend Daddy and me calling my father the same thing.

But sometimes in my mind it still seems weird af, but for the reasons mentioned above I can't bring myself to call my father by anything else.


So I am kind of at an impasse on what to do so I was wondering how other people resolve this issue or feel more comfortable with themselves in this regard.

Also, I am not sure if my SO knows about all of this, so I will have to inform him about this too.

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Guest crazycatdaddy

Definitely talk to your partner and explain how you feel. There are plenty of other names you could use for him that would be similar. "Papa" might be an option, but there's a whole list here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/17009-alternative-names-to-daddy/


It's not your fault that you find it uncomfortable, and I'm sure your partner will understand.

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Guest QueenJellybean

to echo what was said above, you absolutely don't have to use "daddy".

i'm not a little, but even when i identified as one, i didn't call my partner that. 

there's a lot of littles who don't, too!

you certainly aren't alone.

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I 100% agree with what has been said above. You don't have to call him Daddy. I know some littles that call their caregiver papa or papi. Personally, I call mine Dadda and Daddabear (which I understand may be far too close to Daddy for you). I'd definitely recommend having a look around. There are some forum posts with alternative names to Daddy. Be sure to have a look! At the end of the day, it's up to you :) I hope this has helped. 

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Guest Geektastic Lulu
Personally, I call my father Dad and I call my Caregiver Daddy. Being totally honest, my caregiver has been more of a nurturing male figure in my life than my father ever was. You just have to do what feels right for you.
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