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Can cg/l relationships just be a phase for people? My first ddlg relationship recently ended and I can’t imagine ever having a cg/l relationship again... I don’t know if that’s just because I’m still hurting or if it was just a phase.
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Guest crazycatdaddy

I think the answer is "possibly". I've known one person who is now an ex-little and doesn't have anything to do with CG/L any more. I can't say for sure that she never will again, but at the moment she's definitely not interested in getting back into the scene.

 

Whether that applies to you or not, much harder to say. A lot of people get out of a relationship, particularly if there was a really intense heartbreak, and say "never again". Some people get divorced and say they'll never marry again, for example. In some cases those feelings fade over time, and perhaps in some cases they don't.

 

Whether it's a phase or not, it doesn't seem like you're in a place right now where you want another partner - and that's absolutely okay. A breakup can take time to move past, and the worst thing someone can do in that situation in dive in head-first to a new relationship because they're on the rebound. That seldom works out well. Take all the time you need. Try to find some small enjoyment in little things, like spending time with your pet or watching a favourite television show. When you've put some distance between yourself and what happened, you'll be in a better place to know whether you want to continue with some parts of CG/L or not.

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Can cg/l relationships just be a phase for people? My first ddlg relationship recently ended and I can’t imagine ever having a cg/l relationship again... I don’t know if that’s just because I’m still hurting or if it was just a phase.

Yes, it's possible but not likely, it's simply too early to say. 

To be sure, take your time, once you're over your breakup, see how you feel and follow what your little heart desires.

Your heart and mind together will help you make a good decision. In the meantime, stay relaxed and positive. 

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Guest BabyPeach

Of course it could be a phase, but it also might not be. Life changes and we change. I just want to add that you can still feel like, and be, a little even if you don't have a caregiver. I do. I just kind of watch after myself and allow myself to feel little and do little activities (coloring, bubble baths, etc.).

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You have presented some good questions. Being a little is a part of who you are. DDLG relationships are no different than any other relationships. I feel you would have the same pain no matter what kind of relationship you had. You would have the same reservations about putting your heart out there.

My advice to you is to allow your pain to pass through you and see where your heart is sometime down the road.

I am sorry for the pain you feel. I hope all the advice you have received helps you heal and allows your little side to trust again.

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Guest Aetherr

everyone is unique, if you dont have the desire to pursue ddlg as a lifestyle then dont pursue it

 

it matters not if its normal or possible in a general sense, if it works for you then that is all that matters

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I thought the same thing too after my Daddy left me about a year ago. For a long time feeling little just seemed impossible and I was really starting to think I was done with being a little and that I’d never be able to go into little space again. It has just been this past week that I’ve started to feel my little side coming back to me, so you definitely never know! The future brings lots of surprises and it may take awhile but you never know when feeling little will come back to you. Little droughts happen all the time to people and maybe a break from it is what you need to see if it really is for you. You just gotta follow your heart:) I wish you all the luck in the world :D
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