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Thoughts about plus sized littles.


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Hi i'm brat. i was scrolling through a few websites for DDLG and i kept seeing how all these Daddies/Mommies wanted skinny littles or how some of the bigger littles got told they needed to lose some weight.. I don't understand how soeone can say those things.. it just baffles me to no end that someone would be so rude! I just want to set down on that post an scream because my thing is has anyone ever thought that a plus sized little might have some sort of eating disorder? or some kind of medical condition (like my self!). I mean come on  people we get enough judgemental people outside of the lifestyle we don't need them inside.. alot of you are thinking "well sticks an stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" have you ever thought that the person you said those words to has a some sort of mental condition an they do take words like "oh your to fat to be my babygirl" to heart or when we send you our photo and you just ghost us.. It just saddens me to see that this is what DDLG has come down to realilty where you had to be a size 0 for anyone to like you and TBH that isn't fair or right to any of us bigger people..Im ending my ranty post with this... Think about how you would like to be treated if you was in the position ofa bigger person.. 

 

To all the plus sized littles out there you are not alone, no matter how much you think you are it isn't true.

To any of the littles out there that have a mental condition you are not alone.. no matter how much you think you are it isn't true. 

 

Treat others how you wished to be treated in the end it works out better than being mean and rude.

 

Byes an have a great day! 

loves Brat

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I'm really sorry that you have had to go through that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with plus sized littles, we come in different sizes, colours. Unfortunately, you will meet people who are unable to communicate their preferences in a manner that isn't offensive and it can truly be upsetting. I wouldn't say that everyone wishes to have someone who is a size zero, and I do believe you will find someone who will accept you for who you are without wanting you to change. 

Hang in there! 

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I'm not skinny by any means and do have a tummy but I'm still in relatively decent shape cardio wise. I cant say I've ever had someone say anything negative about my size but if they did I would honestly just leave them behind without a second thought. Anyone who judges people on something like weight isn't anyone I want in my life.

 

That said, I also totally respect people who want a slim little versus a plus size one. If they want a slim little and that's what they're attracted to that's their choice. It's only if someone crosses the line from expressing what they want into making someone else feel bad about who they are, there's a big difference.

 

My Daddy has never ever made me feel that my weight is an issue but on the other hand he's always there to support me when I decide I want to lose a few pounds. Thete are some people who make think DDlg should be about size but I think they are very, very much the minority.

 

Oddly my weight, specifically having a tummy, is tied into my genderfluidity. As a male I want to tone my tummy, personal goal and helpful as I have a half marathon I'm running in the Fall. On the other hand as a woman, I very much want to be pregnant, sadly biologically not possible, so having my Daddy stroke my tummy and seeing my tummy actually reduces moments when I'm suffering gender dysphoria.

 

Why do I mention the above you may ask, two reasons:

 

1) weight or size can be a VERY complex issue that can be based in physical reasons, mental reasons or both,

 

2) More importantly, if you find the right person they will accept you for who you are but also support you whether you want to lose weight or whether you don't.

 

People should be respectful of others and that includes not putting down plus size people if that's not your thing but it also means plus sized people need to respect that not everyone wants a plus size partner. In my opinion both sides need to respect the other, move on and find the right person for them.

 

Little kaiya

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This is isn't just something in DDlg, it's everywhere.  But remember that there are people who love larger babygirls too!  Just look at it from a relationship perspective first.  Some people like skinny little size zeros, others like a bit of meat on the bones and some like really really large.  It's a personal choice.  People like what they like and that's OK.  What ISN'T ok is shaming.  That is NEVER ok, and I'm so sorry you've endured this.  I've sent my picture to plenty of people and been ghosted and such.  I just move on.  Unfortunately in the technical age ghosting is just the way people say sorry, not interested.  I don't get it, I always say, something like I really don't think we're compatible, but I get it, that ghosting is easier.  Best to move on and find someone else. 

 

Some people will always be mean.  It's best to just move on and remember:

 

Don't let the behaviors of others destroy your inner peace. --Dalai Lama

 

You are an amazing person and keep on being your happy bratty self!!!  :wub::D

 

 

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I'm really sorry that you have had to go through that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with plus sized littles, we come in different sizes, colours. Unfortunately, you will meet people who are unable to communicate their preferences in a manner that isn't offensive and it can truly be upsetting. I wouldn't say that everyone wishes to have someone who is a size zero, and I do believe you will find someone who will accept you for who you are without wanting you to change. 

Hang in there! 

I have always hung in there and tired to help others hang in there and after seeing a few littles getting shamed for there weight i decided to open my mouth about it :c i have always been shamed by my family by my friends i'm kind of used to it which is why i am the way i am :c

 

I'm not skinny by any means and do have a tummy but I'm still in relatively decent shape cardio wise. I cant say I've ever had someone say anything negative about my size but if they did I would honestly just leave them behind without a second thought. Anyone who judges people on something like weight isn't anyone I want in my life.

 

That said, I also totally respect people who want a slim little versus a plus size one. If they want a slim little and that's what they're attracted to that's their choice. It's only if someone crosses the line from expressing what they want into making someone else feel bad about who they are, there's a big difference.

 

My Daddy has never ever made me feel that my weight is an issue but on the other hand he's always there to support me when I decide I want to lose a few pounds. Thete are some people who make think DDlg should be about size but I think they are very, very much the minority.

 

Oddly my weight, specifically having a tummy, is tied into my genderfluidity. As a male I want to tone my tummy, personal goal and helpful as I have a half marathon I'm running in the Fall. On the other hand as a woman, I very much want to be pregnant, sadly biologically not possible, so having my Daddy stroke my tummy and seeing my tummy actually reduces moments when I'm suffering gender dysphoria.

 

Why do I mention the above you may ask, two reasons:

 

1) weight or size can be a VERY complex issue that can be based in physical reasons, mental reasons or both,

 

2) More importantly, if you find the right person they will accept you for who you are but also support you whether you want to lose weight or whether you don't.

 

People should be respectful of others and that includes not putting down plus size people if that's not your thing but it also means plus sized people need to respect that not everyone wants a plus size partner. In my opinion both sides need to respect the other, move on and find the right person for them.

 

Little kaiya

Agreed and i don't really speak up often about it but when i do i have alot of to say lol as you can telll. I tend to just try to let what others say to me roll off my back but when i see people doin it to others i have to take a stand.

 

This is isn't just something in DDlg, it's everywhere.  But remember that there are people who love larger babygirls too!  Just look at it from a relationship perspective first.  Some people like skinny little size zeros, others like a bit of meat on the bones and some like really really large.  It's a personal choice.  People like what they like and that's OK.  What ISN'T ok is shaming.  That is NEVER ok, and I'm so sorry you've endured this.  I've sent my picture to plenty of people and been ghosted and such.  I just move on.  Unfortunately in the technical age ghosting is just the way people say sorry, not interested.  I don't get it, I always say, something like I really don't think we're compatible, but I get it, that ghosting is easier.  Best to move on and find someone else. 

 

Some people will always be mean.  It's best to just move on and remember:

 

Don't let the behaviors of others destroy your inner peace. --Dalai Lama

 

You are an amazing person and keep on being your happy bratty self!!!  :wub::D

<3 i totally agree with you! :D 

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I have always hung in there and tired to help others hang in there and after seeing a few littles getting shamed for there weight i decided to open my mouth about it :c i have always been shamed by my family by my friends i'm kind of used to it which is why i am the way i am :c

 

Agreed and i don't really speak up often about it but when i do i have alot of to say lol as you can telll. I tend to just try to let what others say to me roll off my back but when i see people doin it to others i have to take a stand.

 

<3 i totally agree with you! :D

 

I'm sorry the 'hang in there' didn't come out in the way I wanted it to. I just hope you do find someone who does love you for who you are. 

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I really really love this

 

I've always had a personal struggle with being bigger and being rejected in the past. Now I'm with an amazing Mommy that loves me for me and loves my extra squish and height! (I'm taller than her ) we may not be able to do things other little and caregivers can but our relationship means the world to me. It does get better!

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((i'm not sure it goes here but here goes))

 

Hi i'm brat. i was scrolling through a few websites for DDLG and i kept seeing how all these Daddies/Mommies wanted skinny littles or how some of the bigger littles got told they needed to lose some weight.. I don't understand how soeone can say those things.. it just baffles me to no end that someone would be so rude! I just want to set down on that post an scream because my thing is has anyone ever thought that a plus sized little might have some sort of eating disorder? or some kind of medical condition (like my self!). I mean come on  people we get enough judgemental people outside of the lifestyle we don't need them inside.. alot of you are thinking "well sticks an stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" have you ever thought that the person you said those words to has a some sort of mental condition an they do take words like "oh your to fat to be my babygirl" to heart or when we send you our photo and you just ghost us.. It just saddens me to see that this is what DDLG has come down to realilty where you had to be a size 0 for anyone to like you and TBH that isn't fair or right to any of us bigger people..Im ending my ranty post with this... Think about how you would like to be treated if you was in the position ofa bigger person.. 

 

To all the plus sized littles out there you are not alone, no matter how much you think you are it isn't true.

To any of the littles out there that have a mental condition you are not alone.. no matter how much you think you are it isn't true. 

 

Treat others how you wished to be treated in the end it works out better than being mean and rude.

 

Byes an have a great day! 

loves Brat

I want to come here to say not ALL daddies want a skinny little. Please don't let a few rotten apples give you a bad perspective.

 

Many daddies just want an healthy little , not necessarily skiny. 

 

BUT I also want to add we´re all humans and we all have preferences. Some daddies might be more attractive towards skinny littles, and others to chubby ones. Don't mix fake daddies that just spread body shaming behaviours, with daddies that simply have a body preference (like I'm sure you have your own preferences aswell, just an example).

 

Personally I find ALL littles absolutly adorable. Skinny, chubby, thick thighs, thick bellies, fit bodies, whateaver. All littles are super cute and have something unique to them!

 

This is just my 2 cents on the topic. Hope I made some sense cause I feel like this was all over the place ;-;

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i've written a lot abt this on here, but i'm always happy to reiterate to anyone that needs to hear it: you are beautiful and deserving of love just the way you are. eating disorders, mental illness, and even strangers on the internet/irl will tell you otherwise, but they don't know what the heck they're talkin' about! someone came up to me on the street a couple weeks ago to tell me i'm fat n should lose weight, but i've come to the conclusion that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me. it's what *i* think of me that matters :heart:

 

there are people out there (mommies/daddies/cgs/babysitters n otherwise) that are waiting to love the whole person you are. you were made perfect the first time, and to someone, you are perfect.

 

xox

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Some people just are asses / have issues. The could comment nastily your looks, weight, things you like, you being a little.... For example I have been called illiterate left wing communist by some daddy-wannabe ( based on commenting weather and cursing climate change ). However, even I'm sure the dude tried to insult me as badly as he could, well, it didn't really hit home, so I just found it hilarious.

 

Same as one dude tried to insult my country which I mainly found peculiar ( I have to admit, the massive wall of text he wrote about this topic was impressive ) but again: it was just them bringing out their own issues and insecurites, or why else there would be such a strong negative (re)action from their side.

 

Most people can at least be polite and nice as there hardly is point to try to insult someone else except to take out ones own bad feelings. Meaning: d*ckish people or people with issues say whatever but those things have nothing to do with you, they are just bringing out the d*ck in them or whatever negativity they have in them.

 

Nasty things people say of course feels super bad but that is mainly because of your own insecurities. If the thing they try to insult you with wasn't an issue to you, it would mainly be weird that they try to make it as insult. Or even funny, just think someone coming to you with "your eyes are blue!!" with the tone of insult. Just doesn't work.

 

Unfortunately only way to protect oneself against idiots is to gain better selfesteem as the idiots will always be there -> what they say won't mean much anymore. ( Also: I probably have my fair share of having frogs coming from my mouth and I can just hope people haven't got too offended over something I said and didn't mean any harm with. )

 

 

As others have said, people always have preferences and that should be okay. Like I wouldn't date dude who is over weight as it is turn off for me. I wouldn't still go calling the person fat or ghost him based on that as it would be just nasty. However, it is super tricky situation as you don't want to mislead anyone but going "there isn't spark between us" immediatey after a pic is shady. ( I have to admit thou: I have not been in this specific situation, so not sure how to deal with it in classy manner. When I was younger I tried to see if we would work, ignoring the looks. )

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Our society conditions men from the time they're young that a thin woman is a "prize" to be with and a fat woman is "bad". That mentality is starting to shift and be more inclusive of all sizes (mostly with younger generations, which a majority of Daddies are an older generation) but it's going to take time.

My best advice is to just ignore it. If someone is so ugly inside that they would shame a person for ANYTHING, you will never change them.

I'm a plus size little, been a size 14/16 my whole adult life. It has never stopped me from finding a decent man or a woman or a Daddy. If someone doesn't like it, we are not compatible and that's okay. My bit of a tummy and chubby wittle thighs actually make me feel MORE little. I have had no complaints. ;)

 

Even though I'm not a Daddy, I am bi, so I will also add that I find plus size women to be lush and gorgeous. Any size really, but this is for all the plus size girls. You are beautiful and desirable! Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't!

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You guys are all great! i brought this topic up becase i have kept my mouth shut about it for far to long i am in alot of DDLG discords and i go to a few websites and normally i woudln't speak up to someone else but when i see other littles gettign treated like i did it just makes my blood boil. No one deserves to be treated like that at all no matter what! 

 

Thank you guys for listening and bringing kind words <3

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Trigger warning: body issues and physical abuse

 

It's not just a DDLG thing. It's a trying to find anyone to love you thing. By that I mean, all kinds of people face this issue when trying to find a relationship, even non ddlg people. It happens the other way around too. "Eww you're too muscular for a woman" or "Eww you /look/ like you have anorexia". Not to mention people nitpick too over the silliest of features. That being said, I'm speaking about people who are bodyshaming buttholes only.

 

It is okay to have prefrences and certain things you find attractive. It's okay to find someone to be unattractive. When you get to the point of making someone feel bad for not being your type, that's the problem. A simple "No thank you" or "I'm not interested" or "You're not my type, sorry." is a okay. But "you're gross" is taking it too far. 

 

However, I will say, literally EVERYONE has been bullied for their appearance at least once. That's why people we think are "so so pretty and perfect" often say they are insecure about stuff. Now, I will say, everyone can improve, and wanting to improve is a good thing, but just because someone's a lump of coal working on the process it takes to become a diamond is no reason to make fun of them for not being a diamond yet.  Because, you know as common sense tells us, it. takes. time. to. change.

 

And some things can't change. And also, controversial statement here, some things shouldn't change.

 

I'm not talking about plus sized people here, I'm talking about anyone who has been told negative things about any aspect of their apperance.

 

One thing I get made fun of is being pale. Yeah, and that's my choice. I literally wear sunscreen every. single. day. And retouch every two hours. I do not want skin cancer and i personally think pale skin looks better on me. 

 

Most other things I get made fun of require surgery to fix. And, it's like, yeah I can't afford it so unless you're going to buy surgery for me or at least give me time to save up for it on my own, STFU.  

 

I actually, get this, get made to feel like I'm ugly/insignificant because...get this...I was born with brown hair. Yep. This is the level we're at, folks.

 

I'm not small (not plus sized though) and I understand some men (most men) find me gross, and that's fine. But most of the men that judged me in the past, ironically enough, were big(er than me) themselves. Including the man who physically abused my friend and drove her to an ED because she wasn't his taste, despite him knowing damn well how she look before he got with her. And that's when I figured it out, he literally got with her BECAUSE of how she looked, BECAUSE he knew he could use it as a weapon against her, BECAUSE in his mind it gave him a "good" reason to beat her.  He would bully me too, whenever she brought him around. But, it wasn't like she thought. She thought he got with her, was disappointed by her, and beat her as punishment. No, he got with her because he wanted someone to beat all along and wanted a "good" excuse.

 

Again, this is not the same as a person having a preference, that's fine. Being abusive is not.

 

Also, I want to reflect on an opposite issue. Since being with a plus-sized person is frowned upon, it's really hard for those of us who are attracted to more sizey people, too. My personal favorite body types on men (though I'll date any body type as that is not important. I have preferences, but anyone who breaks those preferences is fine by me, because I don't mind not getting what I want in the looks department. A good person who I can make happy is much more important than one that "looks good") meaning preference is either rail thin skinny tiny boys or on the opposite end of the spectrum, which is soft and chubby men with a bit of a tummy and even love handles.  Muscular/fit is not my number one preference, but it's not a turn off either, as the person is more important. 

 

Because I like small men and also heavyset men, I get shit for that. For a preference. For something that excites me mentally, which I cannot control. Weird, huh?

 

And for the people who find thin people attractive, that is what excites them mentally and cannot be controlled. And they SHOULD NOT be shamed for that. THey have the right to find whoever unattractive/attractive. However, being mean about it, is a different issue.

 

TL;DR preferences are 100% fine. Being a jerk about someone's preferences is not. Being a jerk to someone for not fitting your preferences is also not okay. No one should be mean to anyone. Also, some people (a small minority) can be overly nit-picky. But that's their life, so... It sucks to be seen as not traditionally attractive, but you don't owe it to anyone to look good for them. They also do not owe it to you to find you attractive. All people have been bullied for their looks at least once even so called "perfect" people. Your own opinion of yourself is the only that matters. Again, preferences are 100% okay. You're beautiful if you think you are, even if other's don't. Everyone's been made to feel ugly at least once. People are douches. Don't be a douche.  People who are attracted to "unattractive" people get picked on too, just like the "unattractive" people themselves are. Peace and love.  And do whatever you want.

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I want to come here to say not ALL daddies want a skinny little. Please don't let a few rotten apples give you a bad perspective.

 

Many daddies just want an healthy little , not necessarily skiny. 

 

BUT I also want to add we´re all humans and we all have preferences. Some daddies might be more attractive towards skinny littles, and others to chubby ones. Don't mix fake daddies that just spread body shaming behaviours, with daddies that simply have a body preference (like I'm sure you have your own preferences aswell, just an example).

 

Personally I find ALL littles absolutly adorable. Skinny, chubby, thick thighs, thick bellies, fit bodies, whateaver. All littles are super cute and have something unique to them!

 

This is just my 2 cents on the topic. Hope I made some sense cause I feel like this was all over the place ;-;

 

 

I agree with "Personally I find ALL littles absolutly adorable. Skinny, chubby, thick thighs, thick bellies, fit bodies, whateaver. All littles are super cute and have something unique to them!" Same goes to our fabulous mommies/daddies too! All types of people can be a hottie and can attract a mate, you just gotta be a good person and have love in your heart. 

 

All mommies and daddies are hot too in their own way. I'm attracted to daddies, and I think any kind of body would be nice even though I too have preferences. ~~~

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I was gonna put a cartoon quote gif that I use whenever I feel bad about not being love for how I look.

 

Can't find it :(  Plz send help.

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I think plus sized littles are equally as adorable as skinny littles. All littles are valid and no one should hate someone purely based on their weight. My best friend (who is also a little) has had problems finding a caregiver because of her weight and I don't know why. Caregivers or partners of any type should love their partner for who they are, not the number on the scale.

-Cherry

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I'm not a Mommy, but if I was........I'd gladly take all the adorable, squishy plus size babygirls. Oh my goodness, pinches those chubby wittle cheekies, hehe.  :wub:  :D

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i'm lovin' all the body positivity and love in this thread!


remember that all littles are little, no matter their size!


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My nickle's worth as a Daddy; (it used to be 2 cents but hey, you have to account for inflation).

 

Any individual, Daddy, Dom, little, sub, vanilla. . . ANY individual that bases their choices on appearance will most likely get what they deserve.  A beautiful woman who is a bitch is a bitch.  A handsome man who's an asshole is an asshole.  A little with a wonderful heart is a little with a wonderful heart. 

 

I could cite more examples but that shows my point and I hope my language didn't offend anyone.

 

IN short, go for the heart.  If it's good it's the most beautiful part of a person.

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