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How long should first visit be?


Daddys little Baby_Bear
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My daddy and I are in a long distance relationship and he is planning on visiting in a little over two months.

How long should he stay for his first visit?

How long did your mommy/daddy/cg stay for their first visit?

I know this is something we have to talk about and determine for ourselves but some advice would still be greatly appreciated as well as anything else you want to say. :)

 

Update; we decided he's gonna stay for 4 days, he coming in just over two weeks :D

Thank you everyone for your suggestions

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So I think it may depend on the dynamic, what's best for you both, and how often you will be able to see each other.

 

I have had first visits with long distance anywhere from a weekend to a week. It may also be I.portant to consider how much time you'll get together. For example, if one of you will be working while the person visits, perhaps a longer visit is better.

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My Daddy and I aren't in an LDR so we never had to deal with that particular question but there are a number of factors to perhaps consider.

 

- How long have you two been together? Is the relationship a few months old or much longer?

- How far are they travelling? If they're coming from a few hundred miles that can be very different than another country thousands of miles away.

- How often do you plan on seeing one another after this?

- What are you planning to do together?

- How much vacation does your partner have in a year? How much time can they take off work?

- Do you live alone? With roommates? With parents?

- What's your work schedule like? Will you be working while they stay at your place alone?

 

Never having needed to do it and knowing I'd never be in that situation because of my preference for an in person relationship my advice may not be the best.

 

That said, I'd be saying for a first time I wouldn't consider more than a week. There is a big difference between communicating online versus spending a week together 24/7. Be sure both of you have options if things don't go the way you hope / imagine.

 

I love my Wife and Daddy but even with that love all three of us still need some time to ourselves, just something to consider.

 

Little kaiya

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When my Daddy first visited, he was here (for work) for a week and I got to see him during the weekends. Then he got to visit again a couple of months later.

 

It ultimately depends on both of your schedule and how long you wanna spend time together and how long his next visit will be.

Just my opinion

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Guest Aetherr

a week seems about right, not too long that you two are obligated to spend more time together if you two dont translate into real life and not too short that you two dont get the time to do a few things together

 

try and have a plan in mind so that both of you have reasonable expectations of the meetup

 

will there be alone time?

will there be intimacy?

will you share a bed?

will you spend most of that time together or just see eachother for a little while then move forward from there?

 

most importantly make sure friends and family know where you are going and what you are doing and arrange with them that you will check in throughout the day

 

if in doudt take a friend with you, the safety of people involved is top priority with things like this and should not be discounted

 

make sure your boyfriend knows this its just good sense regardless

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Really deppends. Mine stayed for 4 days but I knew him very well.

I recommend like a weekend for starters, to see if both are confortable, if there's chemestry in person, etc. In case stuff goes badly was just 2 days. If it went well he can come again ^^

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Also like others Said here ALWAYS bring someone with you to meet him. That or meet him in a very public crowded place. Safety is very important in the first meeting!
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Sadly, this can't be answered by anyone firmly. It will always depend on capability ... how long he CAN visit. The first visit (to me) is the most important for establishing any form of real commitment / trust. You should have at least a couple of straight days worth of time (18-24 hours of real time together) to establish a connection and talk. That is when you decide if you have a real connection deeply. Wanting to have sex, wanting to be controlled / control someone, wanting to be loved ... this is all secondary to truly KNOWING who you both are. You need at LEAST 2 days of talking (in person) to see how that works ... in my opinion of course. If he stays for 3 weeks but only has a few hours a day, that can work. If he comes for 2 days but spends every second with you, same thing. It is VERY dependent on YOU.

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when my daddy visited the first time, he visited me for about 2 weeks or so. the next time i visited him, it was for almost a month, same with when i visited him for christmas. and when he came down here just recently for the summer he stayed for almost a month.

 

it really depends on the dynamic and the work situation y'all have and what goes on with that. no matter how long your s/o visits, just cherish it and make every second count.

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