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Struggling with those big three words


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So this could potentially sound very silly, but Ive been struggling quite a lot these past couple months with wanting to say I love you to my daddy... he and i had a conversation very early on in our relationship about the love word, and how nowadays, it just seems to be thrown around and lacks all the seriousness and genuine feelings behind it. So because of that, i prettymuch swore to myself that id wait until i was 100% sure. And one of the big requirements for that (that i personally decided) was waiting until we met in person.

 

Well, its 6 months into our relationship, and we met in person last month. And i definitely love him. Infast, ive never loved someone this much before. Sometimes ill be laying in bed and i start crying from thinking about how much i love him and how much i love being WITH him.

 

But the problem arises when i find myself unable to say it out loud. When it comes to pretty serious topics (things like when ive done something wrong or my feelings) i fall into this... almost nonverbal sort of rut. I struggle with speaking, and have to start typing my replies bc of my issues. And i can feel that its the same thing with telling him i love you. Every time i like, prepare myself to say it, or even times like last night where i could feel like it was about to just fall out, its like i choke on it, and i stop.

 

I know that just typing it out would be so much easier. But i dont want that. Hes so special to me, and i want to make this special to. I want to be able to say it verbally to him. And i know doing something cute like a card or a handwritten letter would be easier and special maybe, but it still doesnt feel as perfect as saying it out loud.

 

Im sorry all this sounds so jumbled and messy. I just needed to get all this out and maybe get some advice, because i dont know what to do. I dont know how to like, work up the courage to just... say it... v.v

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So this could potentially sound very silly, but Ive been struggling quite a lot these past couple months with wanting to say I love you to my daddy... he and i had a conversation very early on in our relationship about the love word, and how nowadays, it just seems to be thrown around and lacks all the seriousness and genuine feelings behind it. So because of that, i prettymuch swore to myself that id wait until i was 100% sure. And one of the big requirements for that (that i personally decided) was waiting until we met in person.

 

Well, its 6 months into our relationship, and we met in person last month. And i definitely love him. Infast, ive never loved someone this much before. Sometimes ill be laying in bed and i start crying from thinking about how much i love him and how much i love being WITH him.

 

But the problem arises when i find myself unable to say it out loud. When it comes to pretty serious topics (things like when ive done something wrong or my feelings) i fall into this... almost nonverbal sort of rut. I struggle with speaking, and have to start typing my replies bc of my issues. And i can feel that its the same thing with telling him i love you. Every time i like, prepare myself to say it, or even times like last night where i could feel like it was about to just fall out, its like i choke on it, and i stop.

 

I know that just typing it out would be so much easier. But i dont want that. Hes so special to me, and i want to make this special to. I want to be able to say it verbally to him. And i know doing something cute like a card or a handwritten letter would be easier and special maybe, but it still doesnt feel as perfect as saying it out loud.

 

Im sorry all this sounds so jumbled and messy. I just needed to get all this out and maybe get some advice, because i dont know what to do. I dont know how to like, work up the courage to just... say it... v.v

Things should be natural, so with time you'll feel ok with it.

Besides I'm sure you show him your love in many other ways too ^^

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Hiya! 

 

Daddy and I say "I love you" to each other quite a lot. To some, it might sound like it's being thrown around willy-nilly, but to us, it means that we sat there and thought about it. For example. if someone told you they loved you 3 times in an hour, it means on three separate times they were sitting there and thinking about how lovely and wonderful you are and felt the need to say it for whatever reason.

 

I think it's important to tell your significant other that you love them because sometimes people don't remember they are loved, especially if they are having a rough day (or week, month, or even year). You also don't know what the future holds, and if that conversation you had with them will be your last.

 

After all that rambling, when you say those three big words, it should mean something. If you don't feel comfortable saying it, then don't. But also, don't be afraid of saying it. "I love you" doesn't lose it's meaning if the words and feelings are true.

 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

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there's no rush. if you feel like you want to say something that means something, 


find another way to express it other than using the word. 


 


i've used: "i really the word you right now." 


there's no rush. remember that. 


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