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How to encourage a shy little


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Heya! 

 

I've spoken to my partner a few times about them being a little at times, instead of always a caregiver. They have mentioned that they would like to have more of their own little space.

The problem is I think they're a little shy and embarrassed about really letting themselves be little, even though it's something they want to do. 

We've spoken about it, but they aren't sure what would make them feel more naturally comfortable.


So, does anyone have any suggestions about how to bring a 'new' little out of their shell?   Any activities we could try or even things I could say or ways I could act?  

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Either encourage them gently and gradually that's it's OK to be what makes them feel most comfortable or introduce them to someone patient who can help them come out of their shell! Good luck!

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Maybe you two could be little together. Get out the crayons and color together and just let their little-ness unfold naturally while you are also little (unless you can't be little without a caregiver around).

 

You could also encourage them to get the feeling of being little alone before being around you. Maybe they could have a bubble bath with some bath toys alone. Encourage them to pick out a stuffie and a coloring book and their own crayons/markers/whatever they like and spend some time in a bedroom, etc. alone just letting their little self be free.

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For someone taking their very first steps into littlespace and letting themselves be little, it can be hard to fully "let go" of their adult side. It's also not something either of you can force, it really has to happen on its own. If your partner is finding it hard to really be little at the moment, don't get discouraged!

 

I think the biggest piece of advice I could give would be to give them some space. Some people feel that they need someone else around, and if your partner strongly feels that way then maybe this doesn't apply to them, but for most littles I've known, being little around someone else is much more difficult. It's not just a case of trust; many people get incredibly self-conscious, particularly if this is a side of themselves they have felt a need to keep hidden or suppressed for a long time. If you're trying to encourage your partner to be little in front of you when they've very rarely (or perhaps never) allowed themselves to be fully little at all, you could be asking them to run before they've learned to walk.

 

Littlespace varies a lot from person to person, but as a little or switch yourself, you may be more qualified than you realise when it comes to helping your partner take their first steps with their own little side. What got you started as a little? What littlespace activities do you enjoy, and more specifically, what activities do you remember enjoying when you were just getting started? Most people don't dive in head first and buy a full wardrobe of little clothes, two cases of diapers, a toy chest full of toys, and so on. They start small. Maybe by swapping pencils for way crayons when colouring, or taking away the paintbrush and fingerpainting, to use two very arty examples. Depending on your partner's little age/age range, they may want to try using a pacifier/dummy. Perhaps getting them a toy or stuffed animal to play with would not only be a nice gift, but a gentle way to prompt littlespace.

 

Trying to do too much too quickly risks being overwhelming and ultimately offputting, so definitely be prepared to take things slowly. And because littlespace can mean different things to different people, your partner needs to be prepared to experiment to find out where they sit and what they enjoy. They may have some ideas of their own about what they think they might enjoy about being little, so take one or two of those ideas and see what you can build from them.

 

Talk to your partner and see what they want. Make sure they understand that if they want to be alone with their little side at first, you won't be offended. It may be the case that they need to build up to being little in front of someone, and that they're just too self-conscious about it right now. Take things slowly, offer suggestions based on your own experience getting started in the community, and see what happens.

 

Best of luck to both of you!

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Maybe you two could be little together. Get out the crayons and color together and just let their little-ness unfold naturally while you are also little (unless you can't be little without a caregiver around).

 

You could also encourage them to get the feeling of being little alone before being around you. Maybe they could have a bubble bath with some bath toys alone. Encourage them to pick out a stuffie and a coloring book and their own crayons/markers/whatever they like and spend some time in a bedroom, etc. alone just letting their little self be free.

That would totally help, thanks. Now I just need to find someone to do that with. Either a Daddy or other Littles :o 

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Guest brattynsweet

For someone taking their very first steps into littlespace and letting themselves be little, it can be hard to fully "let go" of their adult side. It's also not something either of you can force, it really has to happen on its own. If your partner is finding it hard to really be little at the moment, don't get discouraged!

 

I think the biggest piece of advice I could give would be to give them some space. Some people feel that they need someone else around, and if your partner strongly feels that way then maybe this doesn't apply to them, but for most littles I've known, being little around someone else is much more difficult. It's not just a case of trust; many people get incredibly self-conscious, particularly if this is a side of themselves they have felt a need to keep hidden or suppressed for a long time. If you're trying to encourage your partner to be little in front of you when they've very rarely (or perhaps never) allowed themselves to be fully little at all, you could be asking them to run before they've learned to walk.

 

Littlespace varies a lot from person to person, but as a little or switch yourself, you may be more qualified than you realise when it comes to helping your partner take their first steps with their own little side. What got you started as a little? What littlespace activities do you enjoy, and more specifically, what activities do you remember enjoying when you were just getting started? Most people don't dive in head first and buy a full wardrobe of little clothes, two cases of diapers, a toy chest full of toys, and so on. They start small. Maybe by swapping pencils for way crayons when colouring, or taking away the paintbrush and fingerpainting, to use two very arty examples. Depending on your partner's little age/age range, they may want to try using a pacifier/dummy. Perhaps getting them a toy or stuffed animal to play with would not only be a nice gift, but a gentle way to prompt littlespace.

 

Trying to do too much too quickly risks being overwhelming and ultimately offputting, so definitely be prepared to take things slowly. And because littlespace can mean different things to different people, your partner needs to be prepared to experiment to find out where they sit and what they enjoy. They may have some ideas of their own about what they think they might enjoy about being little, so take one or two of those ideas and see what you can build from them.

 

Talk to your partner and see what they want. Make sure they understand that if they want to be alone with their little side at first, you won't be offended. It may be the case that they need to build up to being little in front of someone, and that they're just too self-conscious about it right now. Take things slowly, offer suggestions based on your own experience getting started in the community, and see what happens.

 

Best of luck to both of you!

Agreed. Have patience.

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