Jump to content

  •  

  • Photo

    Always in little space.

    Littlespace Management Relationship Advice

    • Please log in to reply
    5 replies to this topic

    #1 Pinkhousebunny

    Pinkhousebunny

      Newbie

    • Members
    • Pip
    • 1 posts

    Posted 21 July 2019 - 05:10 AM

    Hi. I'm Christine and I'm new here, but I'm an lg since 2015. The thing is, I need advice. I'm always in my little space and I'm comfortable with it, but I'm not balancing out my little space and adult space. I had a smol fight with my daddy and I know that he is right, but I just don't feel like I can change my lifestyle. What we had little argument about is that being in little space all the times had made me irresponsible and lazy. I'm not taking care of myself very well, and I've been very needy but my daddy is busy with work and how I respond to lack of attention is not very good. I don't want to be a big girl 😢 I want to be little always, but I know that I shouldn't be. 😔 I don't know what to do, and I'm having a very bad sadness. 🙁 and I'm pushing my daddy away because I'm a bad girl, but I don't want him to leave me 😢

    #2 Guest_Ttul_*

    Guest_Ttul_*
    • Guests

    Posted 21 July 2019 - 08:23 AM

    So this is gonna be blunt but it needs to be said.
    You are an adult. You still have responsibilities. 24/7 little space is unhealthy if you are not taking care of yourself.
    My advice to keep it fun while doing what you need is to make rules with your Daddy about you need to do.
    3 meals a day.
    Drink water
    Shower and brush your teeth
    Clean up your room
    And whatever else you need to do.
    If you do a task you get a point.
    So many points you get a reward.
    But if you don't get enough task done you get punished.
    Time out , writing and apology etc.

    No matter what you are an adult and you need to step up. It is not your daddy's job to make sure you are doing the bare minimum. But if he wants to help you should be happy and make an effort to do a good job.
    **If this is a mental health issue then seek professional counseling and psychiatry.
    • Ponygirl likes this

    #3 Little kaiya

    Little kaiya

      Daddy Wolf's little pink champagne fox

    • Members
    • PipPipPip
    • 781 posts
    • LocationCanada

    Posted 21 July 2019 - 09:00 AM

    Littles are still adults and that is a very important fact. As much as we love the attention of a Caregiver, the closeness and love we still need to be self sufficient because life can and does happen. What happens if he is in an accident and there is permanent injury or the worst happened? How would you take care of him or yourself?

    How are you supporting him with his work, his life, his goals? DDlg is a relationship, it isn't supposed to be one sided. It's not an excuse to be lazy and irresponsible as you said you are being.

    You say you dont feel you can change your lifestyle but that's a choice only YOU can make, no body else. If you refuse to make that choice you may find you push your Caregiver away and then what will you do? Only you can choose what you want out of your own life but being little always isn't realistic or fair to your partner or you.

    Little kaiya

    Edited by Little kaiya, 21 July 2019 - 09:02 AM.

    Little kaiya 💖🦊💖

    #4 Ponygirl

    Ponygirl

      Advanced Member

    • Members
    • PipPipPip
    • 41 posts
    • LocationBrighton, Ontario

    Posted 21 July 2019 - 09:05 AM

    So this is gonna be blunt but it needs to be said.
    You are an adult. You still have responsibilities. 24/7 little space is unhealthy if you are not taking care of yourself.
    My advice to keep it fun while doing what you need is to make rules with your Daddy about you need to do.
    3 meals a day.
    Drink water
    Shower and brush your teeth
    Clean up your room
    And whatever else you need to do.
    If you do a task you get a point.
    So many points you get a reward.
    But if you don't get enough task done you get punished.
    Time out , writing and apology etc.

    No matter what you are an adult and you need to step up. It is not your daddy's job to make sure you are doing the bare minimum. But if he wants to help you should be happy and make an effort to do a good job.
    **If this is a mental health issue then seek professional counseling and psychial

     

     

    THIS. It's important to take care of yourself and be grown up as well.  It isn't healthy to always be in LS, especially if you aren't taking care of your bare minimum responsibilities.



    #5 Fragile Princess

    Fragile Princess

      ♡ Magical girl bunny fairy dolly lolita princess ♡

    • Members
    • PipPipPip
    • 44 posts
    • Location♡ Wonderland ♡

    Posted 21 July 2019 - 08:48 PM

    Same tbh. I mean, I guess? 

    I am naturally really childish and I tend to be naive and too kind to others, I love pink and childish things as big too.

    I still can handle my work and responsibilies I have, but they overwhelm me easily.

    I have troubles with eating normally, keeping sleeping schedule etc. And I way too often forget about my meds. 

    I tend to say I am just always a little regressed, to the age of a teenager. Like, 16 years old? I even joke I am eternal sweet sixteen. I guess that's how it goes for me?

    Maybe that's the way for you?


    1UwjDGR.gif

    a003uWM.gif76ABuC8.gifFaEP1Qh.gif

    1UwjDGR.gif


    #6 GalaxyPrincess227

    GalaxyPrincess227

      Member

    • Members
    • PipPip
    • 26 posts
    • LocationCalifornia, USA

    Posted 13 August 2019 - 02:54 AM

    I'm little pretty much 24/7 as well, but I know i still have to take care of myself and do my university school work.

    I use a sticker chart to keep me responsible. And I use rewards as a way to make sure I reward myself for being responsible.

    Each sticker on my chart counts for one point and I add up points to earn rewards.

    That way I can still be little, but still get things done. I make sure I take care of myself, clean up my messes, and do the things that are necessary in my adult life.

    Maybe you can try this out and see if it helps you be more responsible. That way you get to keep your little space, but you also can get things done.


    Edited by GalaxyPrincess227, 13 August 2019 - 02:56 AM.






    Also tagged with one or more of these keywords: Littlespace, Management, Relationship, Advice

    0 user(s) are reading this topic

    0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users