Height doesn't align with little's age

[Guest Littleanita]

Ok, so I've always had this thing about my height since I was an actual little girl. I was always the tallest girl in my class and it really bored me. I was very shy and timid until I turned 16.(Well, I'm still shy in certain things) I've felt people just staring at me for too long, or just make me feel watched too often. I hate feeling tall. And, according to the internet, I'm average height. 5'7.

So, you can just imagine how uncomfortable it is to be little, shy and kinda tall. Sometimes I feel like that YUHU guy from Frozen. Big heart, sweet but really big and tall. 

 

So, when I'm big, I feel fine with my height. I'm still working on my self esteem on a daily basis. But, my little's personality is just not blending well with my actual height...

 

So now that I know I'm a little between 6-9, sometimes I feel a complete disconnect with my body. I feel extremely big, even when I'm in my little space. Like a GIANT baby. And I don't like it. I also have a hugeee problem because I've liked people that are smaller than me and thats a real no-no to me. I REALLY want to feel small in a relationship. or at least same height works for me (I dont like wearing heels anyway, so thats not a problem)

 

Does anyone know a way for me to just accept my height dysmorphia? Or tips on how to feel/look tinier?

 

thanks!

[Guest Littledreamer95]

There's littles of all sizes and shapes. "Little" is a title that (at least to me) describes a lifestyle and child-like traits from your personality. Nothing to do with your physical apperance.

You need to be your own best friend and love that unique part of you. Tall littles are just as adorable and beautiful as short littles ^^

Is all a matter of self love. Once you realise this and accept it, it will naturally be in the little space

[Guest Littleanita]

There's littles of all sizes and shapes. "Little" is a title that (at least to me) describes a lifestyle and child-like traits from your personality. Nothing to do with your physical apperance.

You need to be your own best friend and love that unique part of you. Tall littles are just as adorable and beautiful as short littles ^^

Is all a matter of self love. Once you realise this and accept it, it will naturally be in the little space

Thanks Dreamer! 

[CherieBits]

Idk if this will offer much comfort, but i know EXACTLY how you feel- growing up, i was always the tallest girl in my class. and for a while, it was tallest kid in the class PERIOD. So right now, because of that and all the bullying that came with it, I have some huge problems with my height, and I feel very uncomfortable. Im somewhat ok when big, but when I feel little I just feel... not right. 

[jelloprincess]

I can relate to how you feel. I'm 5'2" and petite, but when I'm little I feel like my body is way too big and out of proportion, and I feel uncomfortable with my breasts and hips. The biggest thing that I've found to be helpful is changing clothing choices. I wear slightly baggier clothes, pants with a lower crotch, etc.. Where it's possible I also like to get oversized objects to help make me feel small. For example, I have an 8 foot tall teddy bear. When I snuggle him I feel really tiny :3

[Guest Littleanita]

I can relate to how you feel. I'm 5'2" and petite, but when I'm little I feel like my body is way too big and out of proportion, and I feel uncomfortable with my breasts and hips. The biggest thing that I've found to be helpful is changing clothing choices. I wear slightly baggier clothes, pants with a lower crotch, etc.. Where it's possible I also like to get oversized objects to help make me feel small. For example, I have an 8 foot tall teddy bear. When I snuggle him I feel really tiny :3

awww wow, when I was a baby I had a hugeee stuffiee too. At this moment I dont have many big clothes but thanks for the idea. I'll sure start looking for bigger sizes! Thankss

[Guest Littleanita]

Idk if this will offer much comfort, but i know EXACTLY how you feel- growing up, i was always the tallest girl in my class. and for a while, it was tallest kid in the class PERIOD. So right now, because of that and all the bullying that came with it, I have some huge problems with my height, and I feel very uncomfortable. Im somewhat ok when big, but when I feel little I just feel... not right. 

Yeah, its super weird. I didn't get bullying, like names or anything but I felt watched. I'm sorry you feel this way too. I feel you. Its so hard to mentally and/or physically convince yourself youre little when in little space when clearly you're too big for everything. We'll get there sis    We'll find a way somehow.

[Little kaiya]

I can relate to the extent that I'm taller, 5'8 which on the one hand can make some little a activities feel a bit off. My Daddy is also shorter than I am, he's probably about 5'4 and he'd prefer to be taller. It's funny how we both would prefer the other's body but in fact it's something that actually helps us bond.

 

That said, when we're together the height difference really becomes a non issue. I am his little and he is my Daddy. We find ways to adjust physically when we cuddle but we do it subconsciously now, it's no longer a conscious thought.

 

Rather than focusing on our heights we focus on each other. We accept our bodies for what they are and we accept ourselves for how we are. Somethings you can change and some things you can't but what you CAN control is how much you let it affect you. I say this not just about height but also as a genderfluid femboy/female AMAB. Body dysphoria sucks but it can be mitigated.

 

Little kaiya

[Guest Littleanita]

I can relate to the extent that I'm taller, 5'8 which on the one hand can make some little a activities feel a bit off. My Daddy is also shorter than I am, he's probably about 5'4 and he'd prefer to be taller. It's funny how we both would prefer the other's body but in fact it's something that actually helps us bond.

 

That said, when we're together the height difference really becomes a non issue. I am his little and he is my Daddy. We find ways to adjust physically when we cuddle but we do it subconsciously now, it's no longer a conscious thought.

 

Rather than focusing on our heights we focus on each other. We accept our bodies for what they are and we accept ourselves for how we are. Somethings you can change and some things you can't but what you CAN control is how much you let it affect you. I say this not just about height but also as a genderfluid femboy/female AMAB. Body dysphoria sucks but it can be mitigated.

 

Little kaiya

 

Oh wow, thats soo amazing girl! I can totally get that. Even if I've never experienced it but it makes sense. Thanks so much!

[Guest ~GlitterUnicorn~]

All littles are wonderful littles!!!!!!!! Littles of all shapes, sizes, colours ectera

 

I would practice self love, and slowly but surely youll get there in acceptance

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

I'm not a tall person, but I hope you'll still be okay with a tip from me.

 

Don't limit love to height for a feeling that can be gained with small changes and by someone loving and caring for you. Looking up to someone and seeing them as bigger than you can both be psychological and physical.

 

For the easier part I always sit on the floor to sofa to play. When I had a long distance relationship I would set my phone slightly higher than myself. Not having a Daddy now I still play and lay down imagining my Daddy being over me. Looking down on me with love.

 

Mentioning love, That's the other part. If you have someone that cares for you and truly has your best interest in mind then they feel bigger than you. They hung the sky and stars despite their height, muscles, or gender. When I was with a guy in college he was maybe an inch or twoo taller than me. I'll give him 2 inches to be generous, anyway he had such a commanding attitude height never meant much to me. I always found myself laying my head on his shoulder or when he stood in front of me I would hug him around his waist while seated. The only reason I remember is height is that I remember him staring into my eyes.

 

We treat our real parents and people we look up to the same. At one point you may notice their height, but for all that they have done (hopefully in the way of good) you'll always be feel like you're looking up to them.

[Ebony Fruit Bat]

I can relate to how you feel. I'm 5'2" and petite, but when I'm little I feel like my body is way too big and out of proportion, and I feel uncomfortable with my breasts and hips. The biggest thing that I've found to be helpful is changing clothing choices. I wear slightly baggier clothes, pants with a lower crotch, etc.. Where it's possible I also like to get oversized objects to help make me feel small. For example, I have an 8 foot tall teddy bear. When I snuggle him I feel really tiny :3

This is a great idea! Both the clothes and the stuffie. I have a stuffie that is my height when I put him on the couch. For naps I lay my head on his lap, use his legs for a pillow. Makes me feel tiny.

 

A really weird way I used to feel small and see others as being shorter is when they have very long hair. Hair to or past bra length and laid down their back or a bit pulled to the front so it goes to their ribs. I know that sounds strange, but it is an option to try.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

It's all in the mind. Which doesn't mean it's not important! But it does mean you can use your mind to change how you think, feel and act.

 

I'm 5'11" tall, so your 5'7" seems like a dream come true to me! Like I just said, it's all in the mind and I know comparing myself to you isn't going to help me feel any better about myself (so I don't do it). 

 

I totally get what you mean about feeling too tall, feeling self conscious, being the tallest kid in class.  I'm pretty much the tallest woman wherever I go. And we never see taller women represented as the romantic interest in a film (unless it's a comedy) - it's almost ingrained in our society that the girl should be shorter, and that shorter equals sweeter, nicer, more attractive.

 

Would I rather be shorter? Hell yes! But being tall doesn't get in the way of being little   i AM little, nothing could get in the way of that. And look at it this way ... short skirts are going to look even shorter and cuter on you than a short girl LOL. 

 

 It's never interfered AT ALL with me feeling little, so I can't relate to you there. I'd suggest you find things you like about your body and focus on them, because whatever you pay attention to is what will become stronger in your mind. Over time the annoying voice that tells you you're too tall/big will start to be shouted down by the louder voice telling you all the things you like about yourself. (This will not happen overnight, so don't give up!) A tip for this is to look at yourself and STOP comparing yourself to other (shorter) girls. 

 

My Daddy is 5'8". When I'm in his arms i feel as tiny as Tinkerbell, because he's so strong mentally and physically that to me he seems 10' tall. 

And he says he loves my long arms & legs because i can wrap them right around him and cling on tight   

 

Be kind to yourself ... the rest will come.

 

Looby