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Not much communication with daddy right now and I'm really struggling.

He said it's cos his sleep is messed up and he's busy, which seems reasonable enough, but I'm getting only three or four texts some days, and yesterday one of the few was telling me he was in subway, and the other was something about the car. That was after eight hours silence when I'd only gotten a couple before then.

I'm just being a grump.

He's usually a perfect daddy, so this has hit me harder than maybe it should.

And I know that yes, he does seem more tired than usual, and he's doing a lot of nights, plus a bit of work at his house.

He told me I have nothing to worry about, he loves me just as much, if not more than ever.

Feel bad for speaking this way, like I'm being a terrible brat (I do not in any way have bratty tendencies) I just have to get it out somewhere.

Just grumping and booing. Had possibly a couple of hours sleep last night and I've a busy day. Two jobs, three kids, gym etc. Plus about an hour and a half of cycling.

Lol sorry I'm totally rambling!

How can I get over this like a grown up? He's not only my daddy, he's my owner and Dominant. Don't want to act at all disrespectfully.

I love and adore him so so much.

But the little girl part of me really badly needs daddy. I just want to cry.

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Oh dearest; I'd build a blanket fort with you and share my bubbles with you if you were closer! You're being perfectly valid. There's nothing needy or 'need to grow-up'-y about it. You need him, and he isn't there at the moment. Yes, the reasons may be valid but your feelings are also valid. Can you tell him of your need? Yes, work and extra nights and all sorts of things, but perhaps it's a sign you both need to take a bit of a breather and have some quality time, fit something into your schedule so you can have the comfort of each other.

 

All the best.

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Thank you so much I appreciate that. I think maybe it doesn't help that last weekend was very short and again, he was tired through most of our time together. We had most of Saturday together in the house than my train was after lunch Sunday.

None of these things are anybodies fault, just the way it is right now.

Yes I need to talk to him, let him know I'm struggling.

Thank you for your thoughts :) x

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Communication is always key, he really may not know how he is effecting your feelings as right now he is only seeing how his feeling which is obviously tired stressed and probably a little depressed. (this doesnt mean he is selfish all be it sometimes we can all be)

 

Its equally as hard for him not to be near you as much as it is for you for him only men always show things differently.

 

Its nice how much you love him and no doubt he loves you so as the song goes.

 

Express yourself !

 

You can always find time to be a little here in the chat or on the forums and we are always here to help.  just tell him whats on your mind.

 

GL

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I've been there, too, MyDaddyMyWorld! I found that when I would told Daddy how much I was struggling, missing him and what I really needed he would find a way to step up and make it better. So, try being a little more brave, bold and tell him exactly what you told us. I know it can be scary and you don't want to be unreasonable, but I find that this dynamic means we do need more attention than a "normal" relationship. We give our daddies so much with our undying adoration and submission, and we need lots of attention and love in return.

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Thank you both so much. Yes I can tell he seems a little stressed and he's said it bothers him too.

I have this silly inner dialogue which pretty much boils down to "stop being so clingy and needy he will run a mile!!....But that's why I need a Daddy!!....He knows how bad I am and accepts it just stop worrying so much...." then it goes back to the beginning lol.

Hopefully I will see him at the weekend and I will talk to him.

I really appreciate both your input :) x

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Anything I can do to help, it what im here for.

 

And worrying is fine, and yes littles do need more attention, but because the attention is given at such a rate it feels like a massive shock when its not there, gone from 100mph to 20mph  but in reality most people only get 30-60mph of attention.

 

This makes no sense now does it

 

Anyway i am glad lol I wont write no more while drinking, promise

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Maybe you could agree on a time every couple of days to just have a phone call for 30 minutes or an hour, he could put yoh on speaker phone if hes busy at home and that way you could just have a nice little chat to make you feel more connected, or skype or something.

 

When my Boss is busy and im feeling really down i sometimes just find a friend who i can just have silly chats with and talk to them for a little bit on facebook or something.

 

And when thats not an option i just snuggle into a blanket burrito with my stuffies (usually one he has bought me) and watch cartoons or movies that lift my spirits just to feel a little better.

 

I hope it gets better soon <3

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Thank you. I am trying to let him know how badly this is affecting me. Last night he saw how upset I am, he actually sent a couple of texts to say he was really missing me, and a face pic at work. I just broke down sobbing in tears. I told him that, and he asked why. So I told him.
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Well, I got a surprise visit, even though his work at the moment really is messing him up. He's working more nights than usual and he's exhausted and busier than average.

He saw how badly I've been struggling and just drove almost 100 miles when he would have otherwise been resting to come see me, set my mind at ease.

He spent the night and just cuddled me all night and didn't complain too much about me being wrapped so tight around him that he could barely breathe hehe.

He does all he can, and I'm very very lucky to have him.

I need to stop worrying so much. It's still quite a new relationship and I'm just still scared of it all falling apart.

I said this morning that I would be lost without him, and he said it wasn't something I ever had to worry about.

Thank you guys for helping me through these past few days, I really appreciate your thoughts and support :) xx

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Thank you :) yes I just have to work on my insecurities and clinginess. Even if daddy accepts and in some ways loves that side of me, it doesn't mean he can always give in to it.
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Yes, finding the perfect daddy is the most wonderful thing in the world, but it can make all of our insecurities come up. Daddy has helped me so much, but he had to tell me and show me for almost a year that he loved me and wasn't going anywhere before I really felt secure. This dynamic requires so much trust and vulnerability, and some of us have been through a lot of life and know the risks, dangers and rarity of such love. One thing that helps me to not feel like I'm being needy or clingy is to remember that I'm giving my whole self to him and it takes a lot of bravery and strength to do that. I'm not weak--I'm really strong and brave--and Daddy wants my gift, so he needs to provide the emotional support required to give myself to him so completely. It's a two way street. Don't know if that makes sense, but there it is...

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Oh yes, makes perfect sense. Thank you so Much for sharing. It really does help knowing others go through just the same stuff!

Yes, finding the perfect daddy is the most wonderful thing in the world, but it can make all of our insecurities come up. Daddy has helped me so much, but he had to tell me and show me for almost a year that he loved me and wasn't going anywhere before I really felt secure. This dynamic requires so much trust and vulnerability, and some of us have been through a lot of life and know the risks, dangers and rarity of such love. One thing that helps me to not feel like I'm being needy or clingy is to remember that I'm giving my whole self to him and it takes a lot of bravery and strength to do that. I'm not weak--I'm really strong and brave--and Daddy wants my gift, so he needs to provide the emotional support required to give myself to him so completely. It's a two way street. Don't know if that makes sense, but there it is...

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Also, I will add, having Daddy tell me that he likes and NEEDS me to need him really helps me feel that it's okay to tell him when I'm missing him, even though he only left an hour ago.  :D  :wub:  <3

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He has said that too. He says even though he doesn't like to see me sad, it shows him that I need and love him. I am a little girl for a reason, as he is a daddy for a reason!
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