Daddy not being called Daddy

[CaptnLucid]

Up until about two weeks ago my little would call me daddy on random occasions, which I loved each and every time, but now it's rare, and there have been a couple days where it wasn't said at all. I'm wanting to bring it up in conversation but I'm nervous about it. She's made it clear that there's no issue regarding us but the random drop with that approach has me a tiny bit bothered. Any tips or advice?

[Daddys little Baby_Bear]

You are right in feeling like you should bring it up, that is definitely the right choice. All I can recommend is making sure you're honest about your feelings and you don't sound accusatory when you do (it's easy to accidentally sound that way).

When I got more comfortable with my daddy I noticed I started slipping with that too sometimes. I would try not to get to worried about it, though it should still be mentioned to her.

Hope this helps

[CaptnLucid]

You are right in feeling like you should bring it up, that is definitely the right choice. All I can recommend is making sure you're honest about your feelings and you don't sound accusatory when you do (it's easy to accidentally sound that way).

When I got more comfortable with my daddy I noticed I started slipping with that too sometimes. I would try not to get to worried about it, though it should still be mentioned to her.

Hope this helps

It definitely does help but I don't know when or how to properly bring it up without it sounding bad. Like, I don't necessarily expect her to say it but I'd love it if she did more often

[Little kaiya]

Pick a time where you are both free and have nothing scheduled. Aim for a time where you are both relaxed and are not tired after a long day of work.

 

Remain calm and be prepared to explain why you would like her to use the term more often. Being able to explain why can often help the receiver of a message or request.

 

She may not even really realize she's using it less. Use gentle, open ended probing questions to facilutate the discussion.

[CaptnLucid]

Pick a time where you are both free and have nothing scheduled. Aim for a time where you are both relaxed and are not tired after a long day of work.

 

Remain calm and be prepared to explain why you would like her to use the term more often. Being able to explain why can often help the receiver of a message or request.

 

She may not even really realize she's using it less. Use gentle, open ended probing questions to facilutate the discussion.

Yes well one of my issues are that I'm not the best with confrontation of those sorts and I don't want to do anything to make her feel uncomfortable. I don't even really know how to properly bring it up without potentially setting off alarms

[Little kaiya]

First thing I might offer, try not to view it as confrontational, it is a discussion where you wish to share your feelings and perspective. If you view it as confrontational and approach it that way it is more like to be communicated in that way.

 

Second, no human being can "make" someone else feel a certain way. Every body is responsible for their own feelings. If you communicate in good faith with good intent then that is all you can do.

 

If you cant have an open and honest discussion with your partner that rarely bodes well for a relationship as it can leave non issues to become issues and then toxic.

[CaptnLucid]

First thing I might offer, try not to view it as confrontational, it is a discussion where you wish to share your feelings and perspective. If you view it as confrontational and approach it that way it is more like to be communicated in that way.

 

Second, no human being can "make" someone else feel a certain way. Every body is responsible for their own feelings. If you communicate in good faith with good intent then that is all you can do.

 

If you cant have an open and honest discussion with your partner that rarely bodes well for a relationship as it can leave non issues to become issues and then toxic.

See, I'm a dom at heart, whilst also being a brat tamer, so those two come naturally for me. But being a daddy is still newish to me as she's my first little and I'm her first true daddy, so I just want to make sure that I'm doing things right to make it worthwhile for the both of us. I'm just very nervous talking about things like this because I don't like to bring tension, and I worry that it could

[Little kaiya]

Honestly, it sounds like not talking about it is bringing as much or more tension as talking about it could. Nobody is saying it's easy but you need to decide whether you want to solve the issue or continue to agonize about it.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Okay I'm going to come at this a bit differently and say "don't make it complicated". I think it's totally understandable that you want her to use the Daddy word. And it's ok to be upset that she's not.

 

Being as you're more comfortable with your Dom side, maybe you're just worrying unnecessarily that you're going to sound confrontational or "heavy". 

I'd honestly just say to her that you've noticed she hasn't been using that word recently and you wondered if there's a reason why?

 

She'll probably either explain why, or say she hadn't noticed, or mumble something about not wanting to talk about it. Either way you'll have the chance to open up a conversation and find out what's what.

 

Wishing you a happy resolution ... 

Looby