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    #1 daddy'ssweetpea

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    Posted 12 February 2020 - 08:27 PM

    Why do people message others with out reading their personal ads and profiles? I don't mean to be rude but don't ask me som5 that you can find out on my profile or in my personal. This has happened a lot to me lately just had to vent. Have a great day folks.
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    #2 LittleTeacup

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 12:15 AM

    I know what you mean. My profile clearly states that I'm not looking for a caregiver and I still occasionally get messages like "hey want me 2 b ur daddy?" I told a recent one to learn to read before unfriending him. :lol: (And he told me I was rude.)

     

    I think it's just people who want to expend no effort and maybe chance into getting a bite. I hope they're mostly young and will learn better over time.


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    Little age: 5-7

     

    Children don't worry what they look like to others. They are 100% themselves. When we get older, we learn to fit in society by submerging those parts of ourselves that our culture looks down on. We don't want to be rejected by our parents. We don't want to be rejected by our peers. Growing up may include re-embracing ourselves even if we must stand alone.

     

    Thank you for being here as I re-embrace the Self I'm meant to be.

     

    (Note: I'm not looking for a caregiver right now. Please don't ask.)


    #3 RavenclawPrincess

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 07:44 AM

    Yeah, I agree with Teacup. Instant gratification, not effort, is the name of the game for some people. It’s best to just cut off private contact and move on if the person isn’t trying to sell something that you’re also looking for.

    Edited by RavenclawPrincess, 13 February 2020 - 07:45 AM.


    #4 thelittlejellybeanmonster

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 08:07 AM

    we get a post like this every so often.

    i wish i had an answer for you beyond the wise words above -- instant gratification society!

     

    we live in a world of quick clicks & door delivery. 

    we don't have to wait for things anymore, so why should we have to wait to get to know someone before dating them? 

    smh. 

     

    i'm sorry you are encountering this. 

    please be sure to block any unwanted messages, and be aware that you cannot receive a message unless you accept a friend request,

    so be sparing about who you allow on your friends list! 

    :heart:


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    I have two Daddies!

    My far-away Daddy is Daddy_Judas. :heart:

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    #5 frozenwolf

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 11:00 AM

    And this is why I keep my friends list so small. Sounds like what you have is a HNG not Daddy material anyway. I agree just ignore them then unfriend if we can get enough of these idiots to either leave or get a clue maybe we can clean this trash up.



    #6 TDaddy

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 12:38 PM

    I agree that you shouldn't jump into a convo and ask if they want a CG, specially if it's on their profile that they don't want one. However regarding other stuff like hobbies, and such. Sometimes it's nicer to talk about them at the beginning to break the ice. Yes you can read up on someone and learn everything about them, but are you ever going to build a relationship. What happened to the thrill of learning someone's quirks, instead of just reading them on a bio. 


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    #7 chateautal

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    Posted 13 February 2020 - 06:00 PM

    I think some guys just want to play the numbers game - it doesn’t matter to them if it only works 1% of the time if they send 200 messages. Maybe this works fine for tinder, but I can’t see what they’re even hoping to achieve in a ddlg or bdsm setting - where unless you have some kind of personal connection with your partner, it’s totally meaningless.


    Edited by chateautal, 13 February 2020 - 06:01 PM.

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    #8 daddy'ssweetpea

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    Posted 18 February 2020 - 11:30 AM

    I have no problem talking about myself and giving more detail, but when someone askes my little age or something else clearly iny profile it just feels like they put no effort in messaging me which is not a good start to talking to me. It's not even such a big deal if they do it but it sure won't get them on my good side.

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    Posted 22 February 2020 - 11:27 AM

    I have mixed feelings on this. I had a really bad experience on here where someone had walls of text in both their profile and ad and got really worked up if I forgot something. Like okay, yes I read your profile but sorry I didn't commit your life's biography to memory. It was my bad I didn't remember what country they were from but also, sometimes it's a talking point. Sometimes I ask things I may know already just to get conversations started (and not seem overly creepy that I stalked some posts).

    I will also say this person was really miffed that I didn't want to just jump in to looking for something other than friendship when they "explicitly stated in their profile AND ad that [they] weren't looking for friendship." I'm sorry. I didn't realize that when you talk to someone for the first time knowing you're both looking for a relationship that you jump right into relationship things. Doesn't friendship and compatibility come first? Just me, maybe. OTL

    I agree with you that people should read people's bios and ad first and take time to get to know someone. But also on the flip side, it's important people don't get big heads and get angry and divisive if someone mixes up or glosses over a detail or two. Goes both ways. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Edited by MysticSand, 22 February 2020 - 11:29 AM.

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    #10 chateautal

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    Posted 23 February 2020 - 09:01 AM

    I agree with you that people should read people's bios and ad first and take time to get to know someone. But also on the flip side, it's important people don't get big heads and get angry and divisive if someone mixes up or glosses over a detail or two. Goes both ways. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

     

    In some ways, this is the same problem as in the original post, but with more writing: namely, there are some people who don't want to listen to others, and are not that interested in conversation. I know I'm guilty of writing essays myself, but I don't expect to set a test on them!! Imagine that person's reaction if they told you something and you replied, "Yes, I know - I read it already." I would bet anything, it would also be negative and passive-aggressive.

     

    they "explicitly stated in their profile AND ad that [they] weren't looking for friendship."

    It is quite nice when people put red flags so clearly and obviously out in the open, though.


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