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I am so sorry that you are going through this, however you are making a good decision as you need to look out for your child first and foremost. I had a couple of little/subs in the past that both had kids of their own and it was hard for them at times. They were wonderful relationships and like you they of course put their childs well being first which is what your primary responsibility is. 

You will find a Daddy/Dom that will be right for you, it is harder to be little on your own without a Daddy, but you can do it. Put your child down for a nap or sleep in the evening and take time for yourself, color, watch cartoons, listen to a children's book on audible. You will find a way I promise you. 

If you ever want to talk please feel free to reach out!

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definitely sound advice up here  ^^^^

 

NEVER doubt yourself here: you are doing 100% the right thing, and I'm SO proud of you for being able to recognize this and stand up for yourself and your family.  I feel like if your child is young, you can probably also play games and color (etc!) along with them, and it could also be a great opportunity for some bonding between you guys!

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You're still a Little, with a Daddy or not.

 

I'm still a Daddy, with or without a Little.

 

You are who you are.

 

You are young and have a life ahead.

 

Fear not, little one.

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I also think you are doing the right thing. I'm not saying this is the case for him for sure, but one of the red flags of an abusive man is a relationship that goes too fast. Personally, if I'm with someone who is moving too fast and I can't get them to slow down, I'd rather cut it off- yes for that reason alone- because of the domestic abuse risk.

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I've already been in an abusive relationship and I'm scared of getting into another. I attract those types of people.
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Hi Daddyslittleprincess,

 

I have to say it is so great that you are able to recognize those signs and have that mental distance to allow yourself to pull back from this relationship. There are so many people who have an issue stepping back from something or someone that Seemingly makes them happy.

 

I have to agree with everyone else here who has posted before me though. You can be a little with or without a daddy. Being a little is all about yourself not about this other person. All you have to do is find those ways you feel comfortable and confident as a little and focus on doing those activities so you can still enjoy those little pleasures. 

 

I really hope you are doing well through these changes and if you eve need support don’t forget this amazing loving community who supports anyone who needs it!

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I've already been in an abusive relationship and I'm scared of getting into another. I attract those types of people.

 

In the way of a little moral support, I know where you are coming from with this. I left my abusive ex last year, actually, almost exactly a year ago, and took my 2 year old with me. When i felt ready to start looking again, i decided i wanted another BDSM dynamic, after 8 years in a vanilla one. True to form, the first Dom i was attracted to was both both manipulative and narcissistic. It took me a day or 3 to realise that he was giving me all the same feels as the last one did, so i backed out politely. He had an awful lot to say on the matter lol. What i'm trying to say, is that you know how you feel, and if you feel uncomfortable, then leaving is ALWAYS the right thing to do, especially as you have a child to care for. Any body who pushes you too far and too fast is not in this for the long term. Its good that you are aware of the warning signs, and not being swept up in the rush of emotion and hormone. 

 

Being little by yourself, with out a Daddy, isn't so difficult, you have a tiny little play mate with you after all ^^ My boy and i get up to all kinds of stuff, we colour together, we go on adventures, we play fight, we cuddle and watch movies and fill our faces with sweeties and pastries >.< To me, "Little" is a state of mind, not too far along the scale from "young at heart". When i'm on my own, out walking, if theres a puddle, im gonna jump in it, no matter who sees ^^ You will be fine on your own, i promise. Hold on to the things that are important to you, and you'll do just great <3

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definitely sound advice up here  ^^^^

 

NEVER doubt yourself here: you are doing 100% the right thing, and I'm SO proud of you for being able to recognize this and stand up for yourself and your family.  I feel like if your child is young, you can probably also play games and color (etc!) along with them, and it could also be a great opportunity for some bonding between you guys!

 

 

I really really appreciate you telling me you are proud of me. It was a really hard thing to decide to do.

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I am sorry you are sad, but being little doesn't change just because you don't have a daddy! It's still a part of you, little friend! 

You did the right thing!  I'm so proud of you for stepping away for you and your child. Listening to yourself and acknowledging the red flags can be so hard, and you did it! 

It's okay to cry and be sad if you need it, just please remember to take care of yourself too :heart: Remind yourself that you just saved yourself from a LOT of hurt and heartache.

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As someone who had parents who never looked out for the best of me, you're definitely doing the right thing to protect your child and yourself. There are a lot of parents out there who will put their own wants and desires before their child and the child often gets hurt in the process just because a parent feels the need to have a relationship with a person who isn't safe or doesn't care about their child, too. Be proud of yourself over that and know that you're being a great parent.

 

As for being a little without a Daddy, there's so much you can do as others have said. Having a child means you can partake in little activities without that seeming weird to anyone else because you're playing with your kid like any good parent would do anyways. You can also find activities to do alone or with other littles, lots of discords for that and you can watch movies and stuff when they're being streamed in the channels. 

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