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I have always told people that I really don’t have a type. That I look for a person’s personality and based on that then that person becomes my type. However last night I was at my best friends house and I was attempting to show her what kind of women I like! I wanted to show her what I consider “big dick energy” and in the process of showing her several women she had looked at me and asked me if this is my type. Being an oblivious ducky I was confused and told her that I don’t have a type in a person. That I look for personality but with the raised eyebrow and “are you sure look” the wheels finally started turning and I was shocked! I actually do have a type and it has applied to both men and women. Although I do seek personality above anything else when I see people who look this way I somewhat fawn over that person immediately.

 

Of course when I admitted it I realized that I really do have a type and regardless of gender it applies to all places. I even find that I myself want to meet this said “type” and for some reason I just like it a whole lot. Even with characters in movies, anime, and anything else when they have this I immediately classify them as my favorite character! I think it might just be the artist in me as well. As I appreciate the human figure and find that the body is beautiful and unique! And yet when I draw any character that I would immediately simp over it is always that same kind of body.

 

I was just curious to know if any of you have a type and if you want to apply it to yourself as well. Of course I know some men like petite girls and of course they probably don’t want to be petite. But what I am really asking is if you place standards on yourself as well to kind of make the “ideal pair.” I don’t know if I explained this well cause it makes sense in my head but sometimes when I write it down or say it I even confuse myself haha Also do you think that it is wrong to have a type or is that just your way of making natural selection? Let me know!

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Very interesting post! I always felt the same way, and I still do to a degree. I look at a persons personality deeply, think about it along with their actions and go from there. I always try to appreciate people for who they authentically are. But with that said, I certainly do have a type ha basically my last dom. But when I say I have a type, it’s only a few factors. For example, I need a dominant, confident man because the opposite turns me off. I have a physical type also, tall and bigger, whether muscular or chubby, Middle Eastern and dark features. I used to feel bad for having a “type” but it’s totally normal to have a natural inclination towards certain features. And some things are associated with what we feel we need in a partner. But I don’t apply this to myself at all, I just am who I am ha I never think of myself in terms of type, but I suppose others could have something to say for that ☺️ Very interesting post, I always wonder about others types. It’s interesting how we all find different things more appealing for some reason!
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I think my taste in the appearance of others varies too widely for me to define myself as having a type. I like multiple different features and not all of them really go together.

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Heya!

 

This is a very interesting post and to me, it's a very intersting thing to think about in regards to attraction to others. I will say, that I like to focus more on personality, morals, and connection more than anything else. That being said, I tend to notice that I'm attracted to similar looking people/features. For example, my Daddy is 6'2 and I'm 5'5 and I always am attracted to people taller than me. I'm also attracted to people with darker hair and some sort of facial hair. And typically they have bigger body types (chubby/muscular). When it comes to personality features I'm attracted to, it's generally a dominant, confident and care taking type. The opposite I am not attracted too.

 

I didn't really notice I had a type until I met my Daddy and I had so many of my friends confirming that he was my type. It's a funny thing to think about. My Daddy studied psychology in college and he found that most women are attracted to people that look like their dads or have similar feature... it's just a little weird to think about but it's true for me.

 

Anyways, thanks for posting. I hope my post will give you more insight to having "types" and the subconcious attraction we have towards others.

 

 

 

 

 

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i honestly don't think i have a type... i've had 4 relationships in my life, and they've all been different... taller, shorter, heavier, lighter, older, younger, shy, confident. For me, its all about the intellectual and emotional connection. If the spark is there, i couldn't give 2 hoots about what they look like.  At different stages of my life, i have valued different aspects of a persons individuality, ranging from the need to be curious about life, to now, a more mature and reliable side. 

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Haha, I was just assuming you have not realized your type when I first started reading your post. I am not saying it's impossible but it's much more likely you just haven't noticed because it might not be something obvious, for example that "big dick vibe" you mention, that is technically a type already right there.

 

If you look at my ex's you would think I don't have a type but they were all very smart guys, even then it would vary since some where book smart, some street smart and everything in between, looks were all over the place other than they were very clean without using a ton of cologne which I hate... because it bothers my nose and to me it's a desperate cry for attention lol. They also all had a very dominant personality, though they showed it in different ways. But in the end they all enjoy learning and were curious, not afraid to take charge even if it was off to the unknown and that just is a good match for me.

 

I prefer to steer away from something similar from me since I find it boring. Maybe like those big guys who like petite not because they want to be petite themselves but makes them feel even bigger? I find joy in noticing our differences and how we make it work I guess.

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Wow thanks for the responses everyone! I agree that personality is a big factor for me! I have had several guys I. The past that I talked to that were attractive but their personality was horrendous. Which made me just not really like them at all. As for what I had come to realize I have a big thing for tall fit guys! Kinda like Ryan Reynolds, Chris Hemsworth, Christ Evans, Keanu Reeves, etc. As for women I really love the exact same thing. Ruby Rose, Gale Godot are the top but like the more fit and muscle the better! I just didn’t admit it til yesterday when my friend called me out on some people I was fawning over on TikTok!

 

I really didn’t know that the “BD energy” was another type I liked but it does make sense for me! I feel like the more dominant you are the less you have to say. It just shows by the way you hold yourself, the way you dress, the way you protect, things like that. I guess I just like to know my place and feel protected but also shown that I am small just by a look or a growl!

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I definitely have a type lol, all my past partners have been tall, skinny blondes with very stoic personalities. I guess I look for the opposite of myself (short, curvy, dark haired extrovert) in hopes of finding some balance. I don't think it's an issue as long as you keep an open mind and don't write off people outside your typical type, you never know!

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I wouldn't say I really have a type. My Wife is shorter, plus sized, platinum blond hair and my Daddy is shorter, slender, dark hair. Look wise I'm very open as to what I find attractive in a partner.

 

For me it's far more about personality than anything else. I guess if i have a type it would be people who challenge me to be the best version of myself.

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I think there's sometimes a certain amount of relation between a person's personality and their appearance in general; and if you look for people with similar personalities, i feel that it is likely that they will also have some similarities in their appearances as well. It's usually more obvious in the way someone dresses and presents themselves, but perhaps also some people's personalities are forged through the way others treat them, based on how they appear. For example, if you're tall and muscular, and you've always been treated with respect because of your physical presence, then it is likely your personality will reflect that treatment. I wouldn't say this is always the case, but it might be an aspect of the reason why types are a thing.

Hope that makes sense :)

And for my part, though i always look for gentle, quiet boys with a very soft Daddy vibes, it seems that that ideal nearly always coincides with tall, slim boys with paler skin and niche interests. Sometimes i wish more muscular guys were my type because I'd love to be picked up, but in the end it's the soft ones that win <3

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I find a sense of humor and the ability to "click" the most important. Obviously you have the slow burns where friendships blossom in something more but i tend to just know pretty early on. It's this very overwhelming sensation thats impossible to ignore.
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Smart and sweet <3 Who also are bit quirky or not too orthodox. But also responsible and "feet on ground".

 

Physically certain type of men catch my eye ( facial structure that looks like it was made with an axe, short hair, wide shoulders, nice arms and hands... ) but they don't yet draw my attention otherwise as the personality and intellect has to be there too. My type physically would be slim or fit as otherwise I'm not too picky in the end.

 

Negative trait from my type would be that often they have been somehow guarded or locked up. One could say that is often the case with men in general but I also know I'm unfortunately drawn towards those features. Even I really dislike the qualities. I guess with these men it is often like a challenge to conquer them and make them open up etc.  But trying to fight against my "type" with this one <_<

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Yep. Tall, active, burly, bearded with a level of intelligence that can keep up haha. I prefer darker hair.  I have dated outside of "my type", but find I always gravitate back to it.  

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Yes. Someone who has a nice body and cute face.

I hate excessive facial hair and unhealthy bodys.

Personality matters, and I dont like guys that play video games alot or do drugs or smoke

 

Also men with there lives together. Like a good job.

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yep, i have a type. for me its relatively fit guys with long hair, if they have facial hair hopefully its trimmed and not too long, a job and who are both loving and stern. protective but not stifling. motivating and willing to do things not perceived as masculine (i like painting nails, ok?) i do prefer if they didnt do drugs (maybe weed as long as they dont make me do it in littlespace) and alcoholics are a nono. must be tall too (im 5'6"). for women the same except more masculine? im obviously not straight, lol! this sounds more like a fantasy as im both disabled, on the spectrum and chubby. i honestly wonder if im being a hypocrite and if there are people who even like MY type....🙃

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