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I am fairly new to being a little it's been almost a year since I began. Within that time I've known my daddy but we are long distance. I feel lonely especially at night and we'll how do I cope with it. He has admitted that he doesn't know what to do when I feel this way. So maybe it's me and somethings wrong with me and I need to fix it myself. Um I'm not sure
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You feel lonely and in need of physical attention, no need to overthink it. Being all night on voice call with my little helped her a lot for feeling alone at night so that's an idea.
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Nothing is wrong with you. Its perfectly normal to feel lonely, especially at night when we are left with our thoughts - and especially if those thoughts are of a far off loved one. Its not a great feeling and I'm sorry if its causing you significant emotional strain, but it IS perfectly normal. There are ways to help thou! You could try getting him involved in your bedtime routine! you could try calling each other before bed, maybe he could send you lullabies or audios of bedtime stories for you to listen to if he can't be present, he could remind you to brush your teeth and to hug your stuffie good and tight before bed, or maybe just remembering to say goodnight every night could  help ease some of the loneliness that LDR and nighttime can bring. a bedtime routine could be as subtle or involved as you two want! Personally, I find routines and consistency to be the absolute most comforting thing when in a relationship- especially LDR. It might not work for everyone... but thats what I suggest trying!  :)

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I get lonely, too. Likely you will not fully solve it as the loneliness stems from being so far apart, but you can try to make it better. If you have a different schedule from each other distraction is going to be your best bet. My Daddy and I have vastly different schedules so during my alone time I will play games, play with my dog, watch cartoons, chat on Discord with people, or hang out on Twitch with people. It helps to get my mind off of it for the most part. Sometimes I feel lonely even when Daddy is awake, and distraction is mostly what I lean on there, too. Sometimes when going to sleep it can help to cuddle a stuffie or a pillow and imagine his arms around me and my head on his chest. It's not the same, but it's a nice thought and going to sleep with pleasant thoughts in your head can help you fall asleep faster.

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In the past i had a a LDR,  my lg back than lived in the US.

so what we did was when i went to bed we had videocall so she could see kiss me gnight..

Then i set my alarm so i could wake around her bed time and do the same,, and read a bedtime story ..till she fell asleep..

For rus it worked, maybe other couples can do a routine like this or sort off.

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I get lonely, too. Likely you will not fully solve it as the loneliness stems from being so far apart, but you can try to make it better. If you have a different schedule from each other distraction is going to be your best bet. My Daddy and I have vastly different schedules so during my alone time I will play games, play with my dog, watch cartoons, chat on Discord with people, or hang out on Twitch with people. It helps to get my mind off of it for the most part. Sometimes I feel lonely even when Daddy is awake, and distraction is mostly what I lean on there, too. Sometimes when going to sleep it can help to cuddle a stuffie or a pillow and imagine his arms around me and my head on his chest. It's not the same, but it's a nice thought and going to sleep with pleasant thoughts in your head can help you fall asleep faster.

 

Distraction is my biggest coping mechanism, too. I try to find activities to do throughout the day. Since I'm not working, it's become increasingly harder to find ways to entertain myself when I'm home. But even cleaning can be a distraction. I like watching cartoons, coloring, watching Youtube videos, playing Xbox, reading about DND, and even going to the store (even if it's not to buy anything, getting out of the house has really been a blessing for my sanity). Find something that makes you happy and go with it. 

 

I don't care what anyone says, long distance relationships are hard work, and they take a lot of open communication and compromises. My Daddy always texts me good morning because he normally wakes up before I do, and lately it has become a game to see who can text "good morning" first. We normally text throughout the day, sometimes we call. But he always calls before it's time for me to go to bed to make sure that I've done all my personal care tasks and to make sure that I'm ready for bed. Sometimes I ask him to read a story and other times I ask him to do guided meditation with me.

 

We also make time for each other and have "date nights". Normally it's us picking out a movie or some episodes from a series we are watching on Netflix, and we call each other and have our date nights that way. Other times we will "make lunch together" and FaceTime each other so I can see what he is making and he can see what I'm making. There are so many ideas out there for your to explore, but these are just the main ones I have thought of.

 

Just remember to be open and honest to your partner. If you're feeling lonely, tell him. I'm sure he will be able to help you feel less lonely. I'm sure he at least wants to help. The biggest and best advice I can give you is communicate.

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

Junebug x.

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