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    #1 Daddy William

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 02:11 AM

    I struggle with being deaf, visually impaired and wheelchair bound. So I often require a lot of help. How do I still make it clear that I'm the one who does the care giving?

    #2 LeanBlaster

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 03:40 AM

    Well you can.

     

    No matter what they can say, you can.

    You have to find your way of how to dominate in wich is unic to you and find someone that connects with you and accepts how you are and works with you to make everything move forward together!

     

    i am sorry i cant be of much help but i hope you find your way!


    My your heart be your guiding key!

     

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    #3 freekittyx3

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 06:44 AM

    I think there are many ways in which you can display and enforce dominance in a relationship; luckily dominance is a deeply psychological thing! Rules are something that you can instill in order to create something for your sub to abide by, showing her submission to you. And if she breaks rules, you can punish her/him in other ways beyond physical, such as forbidding viewing of a favorite show or doing a favorite hobby. If you’re speaking strictly of care giving, I believe you can still show you’re a caregiver in other ways, such as emotional support, caressing/massaging, story telling, singing to your little one, etc. there are ways :) Depending on the degree of visual impairment you could cook for him/her special treats, try to relate his/her interests to this of course. I hope this helps a little!
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    #4 Daddy William

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 07:59 AM

    Thank you very much for the help
    This was very useful

    #5 RavenclawPrincess

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 02:56 PM

    Like others have essentially said here, attitude is everything. Being dominant involves being the leader, which is a mental and emotional feat more so than a physical one. I've met little old ladies that physically couldn't harm a fly but you best believe they were large and in charge regarding leadership skills, which made all the difference in the world with how we interacted. Physical abilities had nothing to do with it at all. Further develop your leadership skills and learn your littles so you know how to guide and control them appropriately. If you focus on those two things I think you'll have dominance in the bag. 


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    #6 Vampiress

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    Posted 14 October 2020 - 06:07 PM

    You need to find a little compatible with your situation. Some people like doing acts of service and stuff like that to show their love, which I feel like would really go well with what you need from a little. As long as you reward those acts of service and show continued appreciation for all of the help required, then I think the right little could thrive in that kind of environment and would appreciate the structure and rules, and whatever kind of punishments works for them. You will also have to show compassion and know when they've reached their limits. Make sure they have time to do the things they enjoy and allowed to de-stress because taking care of another person frequently can be mentally, emotionally, and physically taxing so make sure you can care for them in the ways you are able to do. Like snuggles, affection, praise, doing things with them that they enjoy. As someone who was a caregiver for a long time to relatives, I can tell you I hated it because the appreciation was lacking, it was tiring, was guilted for wanting time to do my own things. I like helping people, but not when it feels like I'm unappreciated and treated like nothing but a slave. I'm not saying you'd do this but sometimes people forget and it's good to stay on top of making sure your little is cared for as well.


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    #7 Frog

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    Posted 15 October 2020 - 12:59 PM

    I've met little old ladies that physically couldn't harm a fly but you best believe they were large and in charge regarding leadership skills...


    Sounds like my grandmother. She never raised her voice. She only put her hand on people to hug, hold hands, etc. Physically she was one of the smallest people you could meet. But she was always in charge, people listened to and respected her, and she only had kind words for those who wronged her. No one in the community crossed her. (Well, one did, but that's a long story.)

    So, yes, you can physically be disabled or unassuming, but you can be dominant with the right attitude. Dominance is mental, not physical.
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    Posted 15 October 2020 - 05:49 PM

    As said above, it's all about the psychological!

    Also, maybe try reframing the situation in your mind: instead of perceiving your needing help as being less "in control", consider the accommodations to be an act of service and respect provided by the submissive to the Dominant. Service is actually a pretty common way subs/doms bond, and it can be done in a very sweet CG dom sort of way. Follow your heart!


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    #9 CatboyAdrian

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    Posted 17 October 2020 - 09:00 AM

    I think what everyone has mentioned makes it hard to add onto things! Everyone has a different way of showing dominance and honestly I think that you should take what you have an use it to your advantage! One of the sexiest things I had seen; in my opinion, is the hand signals that you can give to your submissive! There are tons of examples of it and even some TikTok videos showing how you can use them as a way of leading in public! There is also other ways of showing dominance that doesn’t necessarily need to have a single word or action being shown!

    I think what everyone else had mentioned about finding a service little who enjoys taking care of their dom would definitely be beneficial for not only you but the little as well! And they could take pride in being able to do a service for you! Hopefully you are able to find what works for you and just know that no matter who you are or what you are going through it will never make you less of a dom!




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