I have found that with some people I have talked with over Kik and other websites just don’t carry on conversations . I will chat with them and things seem to go well for the first few minutes but then the conversation never gets past the “hi how are you stage.” Now I am a natural introvert and being socially awkward the only things I know on continuing conversations is to ask questions so I can see what we can relate to and what we can talk about! Kinda like fishing for a middle ground but this is where it gets difficult.
I will either receive quick answers or something that is a one to two word response. They don’t engage in a conversation or try to “talk” and so I get bored trying to be the only one giving an effort. It makes me feel like I am just not interesting enough and that they find me boring or prying. I just get really confused as to what I am supposed to do. I generally get along really well with people who are extroverts and want to talk and ask a billion questions! And I always get drawn to people like that so I can say less and just hear them talk about their day or whatever!
But I genuinely feel like I am the only one trying to know more about the person. And it gets exhausting because I love to talk about my feelings and I want to be open but I don’t like to constantly try and tell people the answer to my own question if that makes sense? I guess the best way I explain is like I want to feel like they want to know more about me and when they ask questions or talk to me about how they feel I guess I feel like I am more intriguing to them.
Anyway I was just wondering if this is something you guys have had happen to you and how you go about handling it. Not only that but what would be some ways that I can be more intriguing and keep conversations going?! Do I need to find another way of starting conversations or what do I need to do?
Edited by CatboyAdrian, 17 October 2020 - 12:37 PM.