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I personally look at the personals of anyone who sends me a friend request. And when I was looking I would look at the personals as well. It takes time but eventually you'll find someone who is genuinely interested. Just put yourself out there and get seen, people will start genuinely responding given time.

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Well, according to your profile you've been a member for two weeks which is a pretty short time. Finding a little or a caregiver isn't something that happens over night. There are a lot of factors that come into play. I highly doubt it is just women who get replies and if you look at different personal ads it shows people if all sorts if genders and ages and locations get replies

 

Take some time, get involved, get to know people and go from there.

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Reading your personal it's pretty sparse on details. It doesn't give much away as far as what you'd be like as a daddy or what you're hoping for in a relationship. Maybe update it with more details. Like how you envision the relationship working, what the little would get out of it, what you would expect, would it be sexual or platonic... those sorts of things. 

 

For myself I wouldn't respond to it because you're married with kids (not that there is anything wrong with that but I'm not into a LRD poly dynamic). I wonder if this is part of why you are having difficulty also? 

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Thank you for the respond, I know what you all are saying. I don’t want to lie for the facts, what if the person finds out after long time some how, then what? I am not just a husband and father but a human also and I do love my kink side, it’s not easy being an East Asian and exploring my sexuality (very taboo subject in my society and house). Also, I know I have not been on this forum long and it’s not easy to find a good kink partner. My search is not over but just a curious minds question.
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You have to be friends to send a message to someone. So when I first joined I had a few friend requests sent and then started to talk.

Just a quick glance at your preferences, there's probably not so many people on here that are fine being in a poly relationship and less that are east Asian. Not to say that's good or bad, but it will thin the number of people who fit what you're after. So that'll take longer and more work to find the right girl.

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Personals work in their own way! However I will be honest and say that many littles on this forum are monogamous. So it is a bit difficult to find a little who is searching for something different. However I think that there can be some factors due to the length of your personal and what you are talking about! Maybe going into detail about your interest, what kind of daddy you are, and even some of your kinks. And then go into more detail on what kind of little you want, any deal breakers, and anything that you know is important to mention! I have seen that the more effort you show in your personal the more responses you will get! Don’t be scared to put yourself out there! I hope this helped a bit and good luck!
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I under stand what you all are saying but if I hide details or how I feel or what real I am that is even worst then me not finding or waiting longer. Also, why is it a issue if you are in a LDR, if I am married (when I am clear that all party’s are aware of the facts and details). I don’t think it’s fair for me for being honest and paying for it when lies are getting red carpet. Again, this is just a curious question to all and a search will go for long time it seems.

Also, I am kind of surprised that south East Asian new gen. Is still not exposed to this life style and if they are why they are not open about it (if they are away from main land and in developed countries like us, UK).

Well my search and study continues.

Thanks for the great support family.

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I under stand what you all are saying but if I hide details or how I feel or what real I am that is even worst then me not finding or waiting longer. Also, why is it a issue if you are in a LDR, if I am married (when I am clear that all party’s are aware of the facts and details). I don’t think it’s fair for me for being honest and paying for it when lies are getting red carpet. Again, this is just a curious question to all and a search will go for long time it seems.

Also, I am kind of surprised that south East Asian new gen. Is still not exposed to this life style and if they are why they are not open about it (if they are away from main land and in developed countries like us, UK).

Well my search and study continues.

Thanks for the great support family.

I think you have taken what was being advised wrong. And I don’t want this to come off as being harsh. Being in a Poly relationship is not something a lot of people are open to. Most people want to just have a singular partner and there is a lot of reasons as to why people are against it for themselves personally. It can also be true for people who do not want to be in an LDR. Some people connect through physical affection. With both instances it is purely based on how they want things to pan out.

 

What we look for is always shortened when we add things on to what we want. Polyamory, Gay relationships, Age regression, mental health, and even refusing sex can all make the search difficult and make finding the right person difficult. But with everything it just takes time and effort. I know a lot of people on this forum who have been looking for years and just recently found someone. Some people are still searching. Just know you don’t need to change things and that it will take time! Patience is key!

 

But what everyone was recommending is that you give a bit more detail about yourself. Talk about some things you are interested in. Maybe even talk about the type of daddy you are. Most people will look past really short personals because they just seem rushed and there was no effort given. It needs to be something to show what kind of person you are and how you are different from others.

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Ahhh ok I see your point.... I think I am rushing ...let me make a new personal and let me try to put the real me in better way. I know some things take years and some are done in jiffy. I am not a impatient but I am eager as I am already old, it’s took me years to grow balls and say to my wife and few more for her to say yes. I think I am just trying to make up for the lost time. I would love to be mentor to the new East Asian daddy/little but how can I help them if I my self don’t know how it feels. I am not sure if I make any sense.
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I under stand what you all are saying but if I hide details or how I feel or what real I am that is even worst then me not finding or waiting longer. Also, why is it a issue if you are in a LDR, if I am married (when I am clear that all party’s are aware of the facts and details). I don’t think it’s fair for me for being honest and paying for it when lies are getting red carpet. Again, this is just a curious question to all and a search will go for long time it seems.

Also, I am kind of surprised that south East Asian new gen. Is still not exposed to this life style and if they are why they are not open about it (if they are away from main land and in developed countries like us, UK).

Well my search and study continues.

Thanks for the great support family.

As I said before the lack of details is a big thing. 

 

I don't think LDR is an issue in general, but poly LDR might be a deal breaker for a lot of littles. ALSO I didn't think it was clear in your personal that all parties were aware, you did not state that your wife knew about you pursuing this and that she was ok with it. Adding that in explicitly might be super helpful. 

 

What I felt when I saw your personal was "this seems rushed, I don't know if he has been open with his wife which could be a big problem later, and he probably won't have much time for a little if he has work and wife and kids, and this post doesn't tell me anything about how he is as a dom/daddy how am I supposed to know if we are even want the same things". Now that is just my read of it so others might see it differently.

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Ahhh ok I see your point.... I think I am rushing ...let me make a new personal and let me try to put the real me in better way. I know some things take years and some are done in jiffy. I am not a impatient but I am eager as I am already old, it’s took me years to grow balls and say to my wife and few more for her to say yes. I think I am just trying to make up for the lost time. I would love to be mentor to the new East Asian daddy/little but how can I help them if I my self don’t know how it feels. I am not sure if I make any sense.

I think it will help for sure to add in some extra details! And do not worry about trying to make up for lost time. It can definitely come off rushed and I am sure that you will find someone who will enjoy your company! Just be yourself and don’t worry about things! It will work out and good luck!

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