As a middle tomboy , I have an extremely hard time relating to and making friends with females or extremely feminine people. It’s been that way my whole life. The few times I have tried to befriend females or feminine people , there’s always some sort of drama or baggage that comes along with that friendship and I fade myself from their life or will abruptly tell them I don’t like their shit and don’t talk anymore.
Out of a lot of trial and error , I consider myself to have four true friends. The Fantastic four let’s call them. Only one of these fantastic four is female. The others are male. The males are the only friends I have been able to keep (obviously besides the one female as well) because of the age old question ever coming into play with these friendship.
The male friends I have , are like family to me. The thought of anything sexual happening has never been brought up , and has never been an issue.
Now , current day. I don’t mind not having friends , honestly because 99% of the time people suck. And I have trust issues. However , one can get very lonely being isolated... so what do you do ? Try to make friends , right ?
I’ve tried several times over the internet , and in real life to make friends. My issue is , when I start getting to be friends with males ... the conversation always turns sexual whether it be a situation where we’re sending dark humorous memes and then they decide to start sending pornographic memes , insinuating things about them , or just straight up start trying to ask sexual questions.
Yes , I’m very clear that those aren’t my intentions while trying to be someone’s friend. I’m a very blunt and no bullshit type of gal , so I don’t leave grey areas where people could assume they could talk to me a certain way.
So I guess that’s my question for today... the age old question : can males and females be “just friends” or does it always lead to ridiculous behavior and problems? What are your experiences with this issue , if any at all?
*I know not everything is male or female and I respect anything and everything anyone is or wants to be , this is just how the question has been worded since I was born many ions ago when the dinosaurs were planted here by aliens.*
Edited by DaddysMonkey, 16 November 2020 - 09:19 AM.