Early relationship

[paulgabe]

Previously I moved on to a CG role later in the relationship, when trust and communication was established in a vanilla way. So I know what the later stage of relationship looks like. 

 

But I'm curious, for people strictly looking for DDlg relationships, how does the ideal early stage of the relationship look like? Until both parties are comfortable with each other? And how long is this stage usually? 

[GlitterMonster]

There is no ideal or time frame. It's what you and your partner think is best. You would establish trust and communication the same way, it's possible you may babysit the little or watch them to get some trust built but it may very well just be talking and growing comfortable.

 

There is no time frame. Everyone gets comfortable and trusts at different rates. Don't rush and just enjoy the time

[MissPattch]

My daddy and i started out as just friends. We spent time talking about all kinds of stuff, and just learning a little bit about each other.

 

During that time is when you would watch for all the things that you would like in a partner. I say partner, because its still 2 consenting adults at the end of the day, and any "red flags" that would be of concern to you.

For me, it was important that if he said he was going to do something, he would follow through and do it, even if it was just to say he would text me goodnight or something, and if he was unable, that he gave me some kind of heads up that he wasn't going to be able to do those things. This helps build trust and shows how good at communicating both parties are.

 

But like GlitterMonster said, there is no time frame. Some people connect quicker and others can take like what seems an eternity. The most important thing is to be patient and be sure that you are compatible <3

[baby_k]

In my experience they look just like any vanilla rel. Or should at least.

 

Personally I discuss about the views related to the kink early on but only in theory level -just to see that we are wanting same things and if somehow we crash there badly. Slowly after knowing each other, the kink related things start to take more space but it is still more about studying on what works for both of us.

 

Of course some people may be more "daddylike" and show a lot more care for example but honestly that depends on the person. The most caring person I have met so far had zero idea about ddlg, so.... It's imo more about how two people form their dynamic.

[Guest BigDaddyDominant]

Speaking as a Daddy there's honestly no hard and fast its more all by feel. At least that's the way it has been with my little and I (though I'm still learning). Like the consensus I tend to make it on a person by person basis more then a hard and fast by X Y needs to happen. I fully agree with getting to know each other and feel out all the details both good and bad (and yes there will be bad there's no such thing as a "perfect" Daddy)