Collaring a Kitten?

[Gungnir47]

Hi all, I'm incredibly new to this lifestyle. I recently reconnected with someone I knew a decade ago and she introduced me to it. We seem to work together very well in our Daddy/Kitten roles and she has hinted very strongly that she will accept a collar if I offer it. I have been doing as much reading as possible to be a good daddy for her, but I am at a loss as far as collaring goes. Is there a certain etiquette I should be aware of when presenting her a collar?

She does modeling, so my idea is to schedule us a Daddy/Kitten shoot and present it to her during the shoot. Any advice or feedback would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

[Little kaiya]

Make it a personalized experience. A collar means very different things to different people so knowing what it means to you and your partner us really important.

 

Ultimately it should be an experience shaped by personal meaning.

[Gungnir47]

Thank you, kaiya. I know the collar means a lot to her. She has made it clear that she has rejected a collaring before, that she is choosy of who gets to put one on her, and that she will only belong to the one who she has accepted a collar from. She has also dropped major hints that she would like for me to present her a collar. Her biggest passion is modeling. She is going through the interview process to be accepted into a kitten house that runs a modeling magazine. She has told me she would love if I joined her for a couple photo shoots, so I feel like it would be special to her and give the added bonus of having pictures to capture our moment if I did so during one of those sessions.

[Guest allyourdreamscometrue]

To kaiya's point, it's all about personalization. You're on the right track, gungnir, by presenting it at a photoshoot. Another personalization is a custom collar. Your reading would've told you to treat the collar like an wedding ring, so custom fit, colour, engraving, etc. Good luck.

[Gungnir47]

To be honest, I found no information on collaring in my reading. The most that came up when searching for info was collars for sale. But I have already picked out a hand made day collar for her. I am still looking for the right one for her to wear during kitten time in the house. Thank you for the insight.

[MasterPhotog]

As Little Kaiya and allyourdreamscometrue has advised, personalizing and customizing your little's collar is a great idea. 

In addition, please know that collaring being special, you may want to celebrate the occasion and make it memorable. Best wishes to both of you. 

[Gungnir47]

You know, after everybody's insight, I think instead of looking for a house collar, I will weave her a good one out of paracord myself to give it that personal touch. I'll use her favorite colors and add a nice bell. Thank you everybody helping me come up with ideas to make it really special for my kitten. Edited February 26, 2021 by Gungnir47

[Nymph]

It's different for everyone, back in the day collaring was a big deal, kinda like getting married really, some people even signed a contract.

 

These days though, it's whatever you want it to be, a cute gift, something that formalizes your relationship, something that will make their b-day, valentines or whatever a memorable romantic day, something that will spice up your nights, etc.

 

So you should really be asking what it means to them, it might be something to consider when choosing the collar itself (for example does it need to be sturdy/safe enough to attach a chain and pull from behind? does it need to be somewhat small and discrete to wear 24/7?)

[LittlePupRune]

I know this may ruin the surprise but it may be best to discuss it with your partner. Discuss what it would mean, what each of your expectations are with taking that step in the relationship, and on a personal level what kind of collar they would want. Sir got two collars when He collared me, a more formal leather one and a daily chain one. We discussed styles of what I would be comfortable wearing and what would work with work, He got an exact size of what would fit, and we discussed locking, colour, etc. Turns out I have a nickel allergy and so can no longer wear the daily chain one so we are once again discussing what that new one may be. It may take some of the surprise out of it but you can get the info from her and then make the final decision yourself so the end choice can still be a surprise.