Is it okay to ask for little space with daddy?

[Blueybluex]

I don’t really know how to explain this or if it’s even stupid for me wanting more but I’ll try:

 

So my daddy and I do have somewhat of a ddlg dynamic, especially in the bedroom.. and in everyday life he is very protective and caring of me like a daddy should be and calls me baby girl etc, but i just feel like sometimes I want more like proper non sexual daddy little space, to be able actually regress and feel little and enjoy that time together, it just feels so special together? I really don’t know how to explain this! Can anyone help?

 

I tried to ask him for more non sexual daddy little space and he said ‘ummm how? And I said ‘I don’t knowwww’ and he said ‘I’ll have to ponder on that’ and now I just don’t know how to feel, was that a turn down? I’m scared he might not like this dynamic in maybe the same way I do. I really crave ddlg dynamic more than just sexual and more than just being called babygirl (which I do love)

[MissPattch]

Hi

 

Its absolutely not stupid to want to have time in your little space, sexual or other wise. It seems like he might need you to be a little more open about how you want this to happen. Daddy's are amazing, but they aren't psychic >.<

 

Maybe sit down with a pen and paper and make a list f some of the things you want to do when you are little, or how you would like your daddy to respond when you behave a certain way. It can be hard to talk about when you are put on the spot, so making a list or writing it down would be a good place to start a line of communication <3

[Blueybluex]

Hi

 

Its absolutely not stupid to want to have time in your little space, sexual or other wise. It seems like he might need you to be a little more open about how you want this to happen. Daddy's are amazing, but they aren't psychic >.<

 

Maybe sit down with a pen and paper and make a list f some of the things you want to do when you are little, or how you would like your daddy to respond when you behave a certain way. It can be hard to talk about when you are put on the spot, so making a list or writing it down would be a good place to start a line of communication <3

Thank you

 

Do you have any ideas of what I can do to incorporate this into everyday gently? Right now he brushes my hair which is nice but it’s only after sex, and I just don’t know what little and daddy things we can do together! I know what I like to do, I like to colour and watch kiddy shows and drink from my sippy cup and have my paci, but I’m scared how he will react when I’m in full little space so I want ways to break it in gently and find ways he can enjoy this time too that brings out the protective caregiver I know he is.

[Guest BubblesLovesDisney]

As said above, it's not stupid at all to want to have time in little space that's non-sexual. If you or your daddy doesn't know how, there's loads of threads on here about how other littles like to spend their time in littlespace, it may be worth doing a little research together about activities you'd enjoy doing in little space and you'd like his involvement with.

 

You may also like to ask him to do his own research on what daddies and caregivers do when their little is in littlespace. Again there's plenty here on the forum but also online. And don't be afraid to talk to him about how you'd like him to interact with you when you're in little space outside of bedroom play. It's probably going to be a learning curve for you both but that's okay. Just keep going and don't be afraid to ask questions, do research and have open discussions. The worst he can say is no in which case maybe there's compromises.

 

MissPattch's idea to write things down is also a very good idea, not only might it help you with the conversation with your daddy but it might also help you come up with your own ideas and needs and wants.

 

Good luck and best wishes x

[MissPattch]

Thank you

 

Do you have any ideas of what I can do to incorporate this into everyday gently? Right now he brushes my hair which is nice but it’s only after sex, and I just don’t know what little and daddy things we can do together! I know what I like to do, I like to colour and watch kiddy shows and drink from my sippy cup and have my paci, but I’m scared how he will react when I’m in full little space so I want ways to break it in gently and find ways he can enjoy this time too that brings out the protective caregiver I know he is.

 

 

Ok, well, you say you like to colour. I do too. Sometimes when i'm bored, my Daddy will ask me to colour a picture for him, or we will colour together. Maybe you could set aside some time each week to have a kind of "date"night, but with Daddy / little stuff, like your favourite cartoons or little style movies, some fun snacks and snuggles on the sofa with blankeys and paci, if thats your thing. Or perhaps if he makes you a drink ,you could ask him to make it in your sippy cup. 

 

Being nervous of his reaction is ok, its moving into a new space for you both, maybe he is nervous too   Like Bubbles said above, you could ask him about his thoughts on DDlg, maybe he might like to do his own research and try some new things too? Maybe he could read you a story before bedtime, or give you your paci to fall asleep with? Some couples on here like to bake goodies together, which is a fun activity and bonus! You get nummies afterwards ^^