How do littles feel about being called "daughter"?

[Guest Moorol]

[Satan]

NOOOOO thank you. Hecking heck no. To me that just enforces the idea that dd/lg , md/lb ,cg/l is in fact inc*nt play and or p*do-ish and I'm 100% not okay with that at all.

 

I see the logic if your calling your caregiver Daddy it would seem to make sense, but to me it's a hardcore stop.

 

What other people do as consenting adults is their choice of course. And I am by no means shaming them for what they do in private.

 

To me such things enforce a very negative view of the community ,for those who are not in the community and we already have so many issues we're fighting against.

[Guest Moorol]

NOOOOO thank you. Hecking heck no. To me that just enforces the idea that dd/lg , md/lb ,cg/l is in fact inc*nt play and or p*do-ish and I'm 100% not okay with that at all.

 

I see the logic if your calling your caregiver Daddy it would seem to make sense, but to me it's a hardcore stop.

 

What other people do as consenting adults is their choice of course. And I am by no means shaming them for what they do in private.

 

To me such things enforce a very negative view of the community ,for those who are not in the community and we already have so many issues we're fighting against.

Interesting, I thought some people might think this. I don't think I am internalising it as an incest thing, but I can appreciate how others can interpret it that way, which obviously isn't good. Edited March 25, 2021 by Moorol

[DaddyRaven]

yea i'd have to agree with Satan.  Just the thought of calling my girl "daughter" makes my face cringe.  

[Little kaiya]

I wouldn't want my Daddy to call me his son or daughter but that's more because I prefer pet names. Each to their own though and I don't think anyone should feel bad or be made to feel bad about their preferences. Regardless of the terms being used it's still between consenting adults and thats the key factor.

[MissNMTX]

Definitely not! I mean, there's a lot of reasons to be a part of this dynamic and lots of different elements and ways to engage in the dynamic. That said, there are about a million other nicknames and such that don't reinforce any preconceived notions, judgements, or ick factors.

[TinyLilPrincess]

I personally would dislike being called that very much, it makes me cringe a bit actually. Just takes it a step too far for me, although I'm sure there's people out there who are into it! I think of daddy as more of a pet name, I wouldn't call someone father or dad aside from my real dad and I feel the same way about the whole daughter thing. Again though, I'm sure there's people into it, if it works for you then more power to you !  

[Vampiress]

I would hate it and find it really triggering. I was the victim of certain kinds of abuse by my own biological dad and for someone to call me that in a sexual relationship would make me run so fast. I also think it perpetuates the worst stereotypes of DD/lg and is why so many people hate the lifestyle because that's how they see it. In fact, this is the kind of thing that made me avoid and hate DD/lg for a long time because that's exactly what I thought this was.

[Guest sircarealot]

In a weird way this kinda reminds me of a clip from a t.v show (movie?) I saw once. It went something like “The word Daddy has become so sexualized these days that my future kids will have to cal me bro or something”. Anything I call my little I won’t be able to use with the daughter I hope to have in the future. So calling my little “daughter” would be out. We walk a damn fine line in this lifestyle and that would be too much for me.

 

That being said though I don’t kink shame and if you have a Daddy/Mommy that consents then pursue it.

Edited March 26, 2021 by sircarealot

[Lollipox]

I wouldn't care. The reason behind it would matter though and affect that opinion. Idk, the context matters more to me.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

I feel neutral about it, but I can see why you would enjoy that and I don't see anything wrong with it, personally. If you and your partner enjoy it, you're free to enjoy it. Everyone has their own preferences. To me, it's no different than calling your partner "Daddy." But to me, a word only has the meaning a person attaches to it because language is created for people, not people for language/words. I understand everyone has different word maps and some words have emotional baggage. I think a word can hold a drastically different meaning depending on the context and who is using it for me, so that the emotional association (if any) isn't always the same. I try to look at how the person meant it because I believe the intent behind the word(s) is what matters most. Of course, in regards to communication, sometimes using certain words are more effective than others just based on the general consensus of what a word means. But you're talking about your private life which is no one's business but your own anyway.

 

The people who are going to make negative judgments on the community as a whole because of something like that, are going to make negative judgments regardless, in my opinion. I don't think people's negative reactions to the dynamic are my responsibility though because people are free to think however they want to think about it. I don't really care. Live and let live. However, I've opened a discussion a few times if I saw people mocking it or misunderstanding it. The close-minded ones remained close-minded and the open-minded/compassionate ones took the time to listen and actually learned something about themselves in the process. That's just how it goes. *shrugs*

[DaddysMonkey]

I feel neutral about it, but I can see why you would enjoy that and I don't see anything wrong with it, personally. If you and your partner enjoy it, you're free to enjoy it. Everyone has their own preferences. To me, it's no different than calling your partner "Daddy." But to me, a word only has the meaning a person attaches to it because language is created for people, not people for language/words. I understand everyone has different word maps and some words have emotional baggage. I think a word can hold a drastically different meaning depending on the context and who is using it for me, so that the emotional association (if any) isn't always the same. I try to look at how the person meant it because I believe the intent behind the word(s) is what matters most. Of course, in regards to communication, sometimes using certain words are more effective than others just based on the general consensus of what a word means. But you're talking about your private life which is no one's business but your own anyway.

 

The people who are going to make negative judgments on the community as a whole because of something like that, are going to make negative judgments regardless, in my opinion. I don't think people's negative reactions to the dynamic are my responsibility though because people are free to think however they want to think about it. I don't really care. Live and let live. However, I've opened a discussion a few times if I saw people mocking it or misunderstanding it. The close-minded ones remained close-minded and the open-minded/compassionate ones took the time to listen and actually learned something about themselves in the process. That's just how it goes. *shrugs*

* honorable golf clap *

 

TeasingTink said what I was thinking on the matter , but with much more grace and eloquence than I could have even hoped to express.

 

What matters most is what you and your partner feel.

Edited March 26, 2021 by DaddysMonkey

[DaddyDomination]

It's not a thing I am into. I always discuss in the early stages what Me and My little like, dislike, etc. I guess perceptions or tastes change. Daddy, used to be a big turn off for Me when I was a BDSM Dom for years. 

[DerbyNerd]

Personally it would be a big icky no for me, it blurs boundaries. I have a good relationship with my dad and I am his daughter. Whereas I am my Daddy's baby, princess, bunny, love bug etc etc. I think there are so many cute names that I would personally never use daughter. 

[SmolAetherr]

tried it once, in that context it wasn't even remotely sexual, it was with a person who looked up to me for alot of reasons and it felt right and solidified a completely separate dynamic we had that i helped her with the sort of things a parent would do since her dad was a PoS

 

idk, i can see why people are put off and even upset by this even as a topic but im gonna join the growing crowd that think and believe anything is on the table so long as there is consent and respect for everyone involved

 

its a very deep bond but what is ddlg if not a deep bond? dont we all come to this community/fetish to explore a deeper intimacy with the people we love?

people who honestly make the argument that we sexualise kids have no actual clue what happens in ddlg and as a result dont get an opinion in this space :3

Edited March 26, 2021 by Aetherr

[Feisty_cute_angel]

I personally don’t not like it at all. If I was in little space and heard that I would snap out of it real quick and be mad in all honesty. Not trying to be mean I don’t prefer being called that.

[prince eefy]

It would make me extremely uncomfortable if my caregiver were to call me his son. Idk it would just feel weird to me.

[Baby Bunny Boo]

Ddlg from the outside has certain implications and the i**est is always something thats brought up. We have names for a reason that don't include daughter, nephew etc. It just feels off if you're actually a part of it.

[Guest UnicornPuff]

Realistically, how it’s “Daughter” different from “Daddy”? It depends on context and consent. As with everything.

[daddymind]

My babs is fine with being called my daughter, and not because I told her I wanted to call her that. She mentions the word on numerous occasions without me prompting her. It's a very intimate expression of unconditional love. Personally I couldn't give two shits that it sounds wrong or inappropriate. It's about the intimacy that comes from it. My heart swells up when she uses that word. And the fact she uses it on her own accord just makes it all the more special. It means more that she uses that word from her own feelings.

 

I think a big part of what makes that word so fitting is that often we do talk like dad and daughter. I am constantly guiding her and checking that she's taking care of herself. She tells me about boys she is attracted to and we joke/roleplay about how no boy will ever be good enough for her, with me being the jealous and protective father figure and her the bratty girl who wants everything. It feels fun, natural and heart warming and using words like dad and daughter just makes it more authentic and engaging and facilitates the opening up of whole new avenues of trust and understanding.

 

I remember even at age 6 roleplaying this scenario with a friend in school. I was her father and she would come home and be bratty towards me but at the same time vulnerable and seeking my guidance. I get very emotional when I think about how far back my need for this dynamic went. That it was always a part of who I am. And that it really is more than sexual. Words like dad and daughter mean a lot to me in what they represent and how they make me feel as a caregiver.

Edited March 28, 2021 by daddymind

[Lyra]

I am not my daddy's daughter. I may be his baby, sweetheart, little one, and he is my daddy, partner, husband, man, etc.

I feel like this is usually a one way term- this is also true in the porn industry. If you search for "daddy porn" you get some inc/st related stuff but mostly you get just a daddy 'Figure' in other words an authoritative power dynamic where the daddy isn't a father so much as just a symbol of power, stability, support and protection. "Daughter" isn't used in the same way. 

like I have a father (we don't have sex) and I have a daddy, and my daddy has a daughter, but they don't have sex. 
I think this raises some interesting questions about the double standard that a patriarchal society has in general. 

If you think "daddy" and "daughter" are interchangeable, I suggest you study up on what patriarchy is and how it works.

[Guest Moorol]

My babs is fine with being called my daughter, and not because I told her I wanted to call her that. She mentions the word on numerous occasions without me prompting her. It's a very intimate expression of unconditional love. Personally I couldn't give two shits that it sounds wrong or inappropriate. It's about the intimacy that comes from it. My heart swells up when she uses that word. And the fact she uses it on her own accord just makes it all the more special. It means more that she uses that word from her own feelings.

 

I think a big part of what makes that word so fitting is that often we do talk like dad and daughter. I am constantly guiding her and checking that she's taking care of herself. She tells me about boys she is attracted to and we joke/roleplay about how no boy will ever be good enough for her, with me being the jealous and protective father figure and her the bratty girl who wants everything. It feels fun, natural and heart warming and using words like dad and daughter just makes it more authentic and engaging and facilitates the opening up of whole new avenues of trust and understanding.

 

I remember even at age 6 roleplaying this scenario with a friend in school. I was her father and she would come home and be bratty towards me but at the same time vulnerable and seeking my guidance. I get very emotional when I think about how far back my need for this dynamic went. That it was always a part of who I am. And that it really is more than sexual. Words like dad and daughter mean a lot to me in what they represent and how they make me feel as a caregiver.

That sounds like a wonderful dynamic you have.

[Guest Moorol]

I am not my daddy's daughter. I may be his baby, sweetheart, little one, and he is my daddy, partner, husband, man, etc.

I feel like this is usually a one way term- this is also true in the porn industry. If you search for "daddy porn" you get some inc/st related stuff but mostly you get just a daddy 'Figure' in other words an authoritative power dynamic where the daddy isn't a father so much as just a symbol of power, stability, support and protection. "Daughter" isn't used in the same way.

like I have a father (we don't have sex) and I have a daddy, and my daddy has a daughter, but they don't have sex.

I think this raises some interesting questions about the double standard that a patriarchal society has in general.

If you think "daddy" and "daughter" are interchangeable, I suggest you study up on what patriarchy is and how it works.

Surely it isn't a patriarchal dynamic for me when I'd have to force myself to change my natural mindset on the issue, to fit someone else's personal opinion that I don't naturally recognize?

 

There is more to a relationship than just naughtiness, and there are female caregivers and male littles out there too.

[Baby Bunny Boo]

Surely it isn't a patriarchal dynamic for me when I'd have to force myself to change my natural mindset on the issue, to fit someone else's personal opinion that I don't naturally recognize?

There is more to a relationship than just naughtiness, and there are female caregivers and male littles out there too.

 

 

Its not just s3x daddies are allowed to be whatever they please but daughters will always have a connotation to them. Daughters can't exist without daddies. And while mommies exist you don't see them that often in general.

 

Not saying im a fan of the use in ddlg but there is a convo to be had.

[Guest UnicornPuff]

Out of curiosity, are there Mommy Doms who call their Little Boys sons?